Friends Dating your ex?

Dannyrt34

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Do you feel this is right or wrong?

Actually put yourself into perspective and think about a girl whom you had a long history with dating one of your friends.

I'm in this situation now. Don't get me wrong, I want anything to do with my ex and have no lingering feelings for her. For some reason it just feels wrong to see your friend all over a girl that you once invested emotional feelings with.

Thoughts or advice?
 

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Its up the individual DJ.

There's a few mindsets that can be had about this.

Mindset 1: Don't be friends with a guy that is so pathetic he needs to go after your leftovers because he can't generate a single viable option from all the billions of women out there. Also there is the very real issue of the girl just fvcking him for a while to get back at you. Of course the guy in this scenario could care less as he's getting the pvssy but the girl could very well have the ulterior motive (which they usually do) of managing to stay in your life by being with your buddy in order to observe you to see if its fvcking with you. This is why its probably best to not keep friends in your life that are so pathetic they need to date your leftovers. You wouldn't like it if someone brought the real garbage back inside your house that you just put out at the end of your driveway for the garbage man to pick up tomorrow just to wave its rotten stinkyness in your face so how much more are you not going to want your buddy to bring human garbage around you and do the same thing?

Mindset 2: He can have the skank, you are a smooth cool unaffected DJ who doesn't give a fvck, if the b!tch is using your bro to get back at you so what? That childishness is on her and your buddy will learn his lesson eventually anyway when she finds out its not working to mess with you and she dumps his ass. Even if she was seriously into him and sticks around you could care less as you are already fvcking her sister and a new girl so what do you care?

So anyway those are two seperate equally valid mindsets you could take concerning this.

Which one will you choose or will you choose something else? :up:
 

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KontrollerX said:
Its up the individual DJ.

There's a few mindsets that can be had about this.

Mindset 1: Don't be friends with a guy that is so pathetic he needs to go after your leftovers because he can't generate a single viable option from all the billions of women out there.

Mindset 2: Get a shovel and take your friend for a long drive in to the woods.

Mindset 3: Get a shovel, take your friend and your ex for a long drive in to the woods.
 

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I'd say it depends on the person's views and midset like what KontrollerX mentioned. Though, personally... If a friend wanted to date my ex I would like his permission.

There was a couple girls I dated for awhile but, broke up. Then, some of my friends wanted to or did get on them later. I honestly didnt care cause, I Already ****ed That B!tch! :rolleyes: That chapter in my life was over. Though, you may want to consider what kind of friend would want to date your ex. Other than that it is just a part of the Game..
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Actually, lots of things in this cruel world "just feel wrong". Like I told the other guy with this problem. First of all, you will have to decide if you want to get rid of this friend. thats a posibility. But, regarding the situation itself:
a) dont forbid it or wig out, because it will intrigue them all the more.
b) act like you couldN"T (the correct term is COULDNT, not COULD) care less. this, in contrast of acting like a permanently wounded emotional wreck, will show that you are over it, and have moved on.
And for petes sake.... do MOVE ON!
 

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Somebody above is telling you of 2 minsets. yet he advises a 3rd mindset in another post. he & a few others advise the op to commit the crime of assault on the buddy. when the OP gets arrested, will Mr Advisor & crew go bail him out? Get him a lawyer? Hmmmm
 

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my boys always dated my ex's. It never bothered me. They would be seeing her for a while and then come and ask me if I was cool with it. I always was. Since they asked, I never felt disrespected and when I'm done with a chic, I'm done. They could never go out and meet new girls, I was always the one to do that.
 

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I think it's time to find a new friend. If you can remain cool and collected about it, that's fine also. But I think it's a little degrading when a friend is fooling around with my (as KontrollerX put it) "garbage". If it was me personally, I would cut off the friendship. At least until they broke up or he got his sh!t straightened out.
 

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I have no problem with it, since I am totally secure in myself. And.. I must admit, if I DID have a problem with it, I would not let him know-so he could tell her. By doing that, you show weakness to your friend, and to your ex. In my Italian heritage, one is expected to get a "green light" if he wants to date the ex of another wiseguy. even if the first wiseguy is married, and is not with the ex anymore. However nonetheless, I may phase out the friend if he doesnt ask for my blessing, but I never let it show that it bothers me. And, after a few times, it NEVER DOES bother me. Life is too short, and I have too many other things going than to sweat some ex. Just my opinion.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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