Friend zoned at work, worst part, she sits next to me.

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flashpoint said:
there is something going on with you that is quite common. i guess you are lonely and you are also feeling that way. you want some chick in your life to make it more complete. you want to feel something. and you jump on the first occasion where it seems you can get that.
Am I really that lonely? I can't answer that. I never expected myself to fall for her in the first place. I even went so far as to hide my facebook from her because I didn't want to deal with anyone from work outside of work. On October 5th, she took some pictures for me on her phone and even during then I purposely told her to send them to my spam e-mail account and even told her as much hinting I don't want to have to deal with her outside of work.

flashpoint said:
she is not that pretty right? she is not that nice right? she digs abusive jerks right? what is it again that makes her so attractive? ah right she is nice to you, touches you and gives you the idea that she likes you. maybe she does but not that way. and that is the only way that counts.
1 - You know, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. She doesn't instantly grab you, but she is very cute and does so without wearing any make up. I can see the minor imperfections on her face. I'd say she's actually a lot better looking without make-up compared to many super models that show their faces without make up.

She dresses very modestly, but has a good body. Never shows cleavage, and dresses in nice non-branded cloths that are feminine looking. At most she does her hair, and most of the time it's just a simply rubberband and some hair clips.

2 - That's not entirely true. She has to multitask and deal with customers, and she seems to lack patience. Part of that can be blamed on the company's workload on her, her hours, and pay. She's very sweet when she's with friends and me. Despite her grumpy behavior, we haven't had a single argument since we started working.

3 - Apparently, the guy was different 10 years ago. I'd told he's an older man by the best friend. The ex definitely does NOT have a good reputation. Cheated on her, is drunk, doesn't work, wastes her money, but they've been together for years. Have they broken up before, no clue. They did break up recently, but also seems like they're talking more on the phone. Though she says it because she has stuff to take back from his place. I hear her say "all men lie" quite a few times.

4 - We share a lot in common. She has quite a few qualities I like in a woman too. She's hard working, cares for her family, has a good sense of humor, loves animals, not afraid to speak her mind, and she can also be mature and sensitive when needed. Her personality brightens the place up. This last one is definitely not something only I agree with.
 

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What part of friend zoned don't you get? SERIOUSLY?!?!?

The only ***** you'll get from her, is the four-legged variety, when you feed her cat for her, while she takes a holiday with her man.

Stop being her emotional tampon and be a MAN. Find someone who is INTERESTED IN YOU!
 

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Seriously? said:
What part of friend zoned don't you get? SERIOUSLY?!?!?

The only ***** you'll get from her, is the four-legged variety, when you feed her cat for her, while she takes a holiday with her man.

Stop being her emotional tampon and be a MAN. Find someone who is INTERESTED IN YOU!
Calm down. I got it. What you missed is that I have no choice but to face her 6 days a week. We sit together at work. It's not like I can just up and walk away from my job just like that. Be it for a break or for a new job.
 

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mengde said:
Calm down. I got it. What you missed is that I have no choice but to face her 6 days a week. We sit together at work. It's not like I can just up and walk away from my job just like that. Be it for a break or for a new job.
Yeah doesn't mean you have to be her new gay best friend, and listen to her bs/give a damn.

Just be professional and leave it at that.
 

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Seriously? said:
Yeah doesn't mean you have to be her new gay best friend, and listen to her bs/give a damn.

Just be professional and leave it at that.
I know I know.
 

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mengde said:
I know I know.
focus on work at work, and go sarging for plates in your free time - threr are many many many pretty girls out there, and they're all waiting for you:up:

or are they?

Guess you'll never know unless you get out there and hit on 'em :D
 

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First, the office is part of the world of women. Men who stay long enough in that world become sissified. You sure as hell CAN refuse to ever go back there. You sure as hell CAN build a new life for yourself.

Second, this woman's a piece of nasty trash. That was your first impression of her, and she proved it by talking smack about her man. If you ever did get your d1ck in her, what do you think she'd tell her other men friends about you?

The situation is untenable. Better to walk away now and call yourself lucky to have only lost a job.
 

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Down Low said:
First, the office is part of the world of women. Men who stay long enough in that world become sissified. You sure as hell CAN refuse to ever go back there. You sure as hell CAN build a new life for yourself.

Second, this woman's a piece of nasty trash. That was your first impression of her, and she proved it by talking smack about her man. If you ever did get your d1ck in her, what do you think she'd tell her other men friends about you?

The situation is untenable. Better to walk away now and call yourself lucky to have only lost a job.
Woah, not to defend her or anything, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions about her. Just to be clear, she did love him many years ago when he was different. Right now, I don't actually know their status. The best friend only knows about this cause she meet the guy and she revealed her heartbreak to her. I doubt she would talk bad about a man if he treated her well. Right now, she does still talk to him and from what I know, they've broke up. The best friend told me the nastier side of the ex, but when I talked to her, she was more calm.

Look, I just don't want to spread bad thing anonymously on the Internet. If she is that nasty, then what I'm doing is no better.

As for job, money comes before love. It's not yet time for me to think about leaving, at least not yet.
 
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