Sooooo.
Bear with me.
This really attractive girl that lives like 150 km away from me, but comes to my town regularly to see family and old friends, got closer with me since New Year's (she's the one that jumped me and asked for my number, after I went a bit C&F on her, not expecting anything whatsoever at the time). She left and hooked up with a friend (that went to a football game in her town) of mine and they tried to have a long-distance relationship but that failed. We kept in touch all the time, flirting and teasing and whatever. Long story short, we hook up one night when she came (but not a relationship), she stays in town for a while, we stay in touch, flirting and everything, yet the next weekend, on top of all my expectations, she hooks up with another guy (that I have a lot of mutual friends with, and that I know, but I never really liked him even before that). I get really drunk the same night (being in love and all), and start crying. She sees it, asks if it's because of her, I say "No, like you would care if it was for you". lol. Please, understand I was drunk over my ass and in love and disappointed like hell.
So I explain to her that I was way too drunk, and I expected something that night, and that she blew me off, and then I made a huge joke out of it all. Kinda felt like pressing the reset button on the relationship. After two weeks or so of keeping in touch, her texting me like mad and all, complaining how she can't find anyone to fall in love with, I actually tell her I'm in love with her (still with high hopes with what could happen). Her response was rather scarce, but she did hint that it's all supposed to stay in the friends department, nothing more. I decide to go to her town and see her, since I was missing her too much. I told her her I was actually doing something else and I only have time right before I leave on the bus. We spent like 2 hours talking and laughing, and then when the conversation came to a stand still I brought up the "my feelings" subject. She laughed it off, said she was drunk the night we hooked up, and that she views me as a friend, and that the relationship would never work considering the distance and how close she is all the time with an ex and all.
And know, still she insists on texting me, even though she isn't supposed to come again for 2 months or so. Every goddamn day I get a text from her saying "what's up?
) <3" or something along the lines of that.
Now, I am slowly falling out of love with this girl, as it is clear that she doesn't know who or what she wants, and I am learning to treat her like a ***** again (which she is, and which is how I got her attracted to me in the first place, though I probably went to being too nice somewhere along the road of being in love with her), with not being available, not doing her any favors, brushing her off, telling her she's not as important anymore to me, teasing her, always letting her be the one that initiates contact etc.
I'd actually like to be with this girl when she comes again, since my ego was really injured with all the things that happened between the two of us.
Can I have some advice from a third person perspective?
I actually have a lot of male friends that are readily there to "advise" me, but I know most of them want to get in her pants too, so I can't really trust them to be my brains about this. And the female friends just say "she's a *****, she'll keep hurting you".
Wow, I can't believe I actually wrote all this. Argh, screw that girl!
Bear with me.
This really attractive girl that lives like 150 km away from me, but comes to my town regularly to see family and old friends, got closer with me since New Year's (she's the one that jumped me and asked for my number, after I went a bit C&F on her, not expecting anything whatsoever at the time). She left and hooked up with a friend (that went to a football game in her town) of mine and they tried to have a long-distance relationship but that failed. We kept in touch all the time, flirting and teasing and whatever. Long story short, we hook up one night when she came (but not a relationship), she stays in town for a while, we stay in touch, flirting and everything, yet the next weekend, on top of all my expectations, she hooks up with another guy (that I have a lot of mutual friends with, and that I know, but I never really liked him even before that). I get really drunk the same night (being in love and all), and start crying. She sees it, asks if it's because of her, I say "No, like you would care if it was for you". lol. Please, understand I was drunk over my ass and in love and disappointed like hell.
So I explain to her that I was way too drunk, and I expected something that night, and that she blew me off, and then I made a huge joke out of it all. Kinda felt like pressing the reset button on the relationship. After two weeks or so of keeping in touch, her texting me like mad and all, complaining how she can't find anyone to fall in love with, I actually tell her I'm in love with her (still with high hopes with what could happen). Her response was rather scarce, but she did hint that it's all supposed to stay in the friends department, nothing more. I decide to go to her town and see her, since I was missing her too much. I told her her I was actually doing something else and I only have time right before I leave on the bus. We spent like 2 hours talking and laughing, and then when the conversation came to a stand still I brought up the "my feelings" subject. She laughed it off, said she was drunk the night we hooked up, and that she views me as a friend, and that the relationship would never work considering the distance and how close she is all the time with an ex and all.
And know, still she insists on texting me, even though she isn't supposed to come again for 2 months or so. Every goddamn day I get a text from her saying "what's up?
) <3" or something along the lines of that.Now, I am slowly falling out of love with this girl, as it is clear that she doesn't know who or what she wants, and I am learning to treat her like a ***** again (which she is, and which is how I got her attracted to me in the first place, though I probably went to being too nice somewhere along the road of being in love with her), with not being available, not doing her any favors, brushing her off, telling her she's not as important anymore to me, teasing her, always letting her be the one that initiates contact etc.
I'd actually like to be with this girl when she comes again, since my ego was really injured with all the things that happened between the two of us.
Can I have some advice from a third person perspective?
I actually have a lot of male friends that are readily there to "advise" me, but I know most of them want to get in her pants too, so I can't really trust them to be my brains about this. And the female friends just say "she's a *****, she'll keep hurting you".
Wow, I can't believe I actually wrote all this. Argh, screw that girl!
