Friend requests from women on Myspace/Facebook

[Latinoman]

You'd be surprised how many business opportunities come from these lame sites. Personally I resisted them for YEARS. It just seemed pointless to me.. maybe even a bit retarded.

But due to much prodding from my friends I set up an account. As a result I have gotten DJ gigs in other countries and closed a few sales on music compilations and designs. I've also gotten in touch with old friends and family members who I haven't seen in ages.

Look past the garish wallpapers and emoticons.. there is something of value beyond the veil of tackiness.

If you are a Disc Jockey...it obviously makes sense. As the group targeted is the VERY young crowd. If you are selling clothes apparel for the young crowd, it also makes sense.

Other than that...it is time to grow up.

 

[Mr.Positive]

I'm not a facebook or a myspace person, and haven't invested any time in it, but my opinion is that myspace is like the board game monopoly.

"Friends" on a myspace page, is just like how much money and property a player has in monopoly. The more you have, the closer you are at winning the game...and just as monopoly money isn't real, your friends on myspace aren't real.

People spend all this time collecting friends on myspace to seem more popular and cool, yet at the end of the day they log off their computer (or not), and they are back to reality.

At least with monopoly, the game ends eventually.

 

[frivolousz21]

I dont have facebook.


but i have am myspace..infact I signed up the same time that i signed up here back in 2004..



back then there was like 600K members..not 200+ million

So many guys here are really showing there false hard arse side..or are just old.



I have met....ok..let me think:

around 10 women off myspace.

had sex with half.

had some fun dates...nothing serious has come from it...but its been a good time.....great way to meet a nice women when Im sitting at home watching sports...instead of blowing my money at a bar.

whoever rips myspace for meeting women...get over yourself.


and BTW....


as many of you guys are tired of the same ole moron bar slut...there are just as many great women on myspace 25-35 who want a intelligent real man.

 

[Latinoman]

Frivolous...the time you spent updating your website in MySpace and Facebook and taking pictures and downloading them there is time that could be better served in a classroom learning a second language or in cooking class or in a hiking club (even if it is working on their website) or in a dancing class.

You are 25...so, in my eyes, you still kind of a kid that does not know better and think "meeting women" is everything in life. But, if you spent the time doing some of the things I adviced above, by the time you are 30 or 35...you will be FLUENT in a different language. You will be a GREAT cook...and you will be a GREAT dancer. Also, you would become the kind of man the women with choice would want. Not one of million of men that can take pictures and download them in the internet.

And let's not forget, that your REAL LIFE social skills (as you would have to work in mannerisms and posture) would also improve.

My son is a teenager. Fourteen to be exact. I am training him how to be a SELF-sufficient man. I have put in his mind that there are better things to do than having a MySpace or Facebook account. In fact, I go as far as to tell him it is for losers (not saying you are others are losers). I hope that by the time he is 25 (and you are 36)...he is not in here giving YOU advice. That would be a very sad story.

 

[STR8UP]

How can I take an ADULT and MATURE man serious if he has a "Facebook" or "MySpace" account?

I can understand posting in a Forum. Or even going (to a degree) to a DATING site.

But a "social network" place like Facebook and MySpace? Time to grow up guys!

You're what? 40? You sound like you are 80.

Wake up. The world is changing whether you wish to adapt to it or not.

I realize you are on the cusp of generation X, the first generation to have grown up with computers, the first generation to use cell phones, etc., so I take that into account when I watch you post crap like this.

Fact is, these new methods of networking and communication are more than attention wh0ring venues. But you don't even HAVE an account, yet you preach how they are "for losers". Funny.

 

[frivolousz21]

Frivolous...the time you spent updating your website in MySpace and Facebook and taking pictures and downloading them there is time that could be better served in a classroom learning a second language or in cooking class or in a hiking club (even if it is working on their website) or in a dancing class.

You are 25...so, in my eyes, you still kind of a kid that does not know better and think "meeting women" is everything in life. But, if you spent the time doing some of the things I adviced above, by the time you are 30 or 35...you will be FLUENT in a different language. You will be a GREAT cook...and you will be a GREAT dancer. Also, you would become the kind of man the women with choice would want. Not one of million of men that can take pictures and download them in the internet.

And let's not forget, that your REAL LIFE social skills (as you would have to work in mannerisms and posture) would also improve.

My son is a teenager. Fourteen to be exact. I am training him how to be a SELF-sufficient man. I have put in his mind that there are better things to do than having a MySpace or Facebook account. In fact, I go as far as to tell him it is for losers (not saying you are others are losers). I hope that by the time he is 25 (and you are 36)...he is not in here giving YOU advice. That would be a very sad story.

Im not going to get into a peronal arguement with you.

but your stereotypes are ridiculous

 

[Mr.Positive]

Im not going to get into a peronal arguement with you.

but your stereotypes are ridiculous

Friv, I think Latinoman's point is that, unless for business reasons, your time on myspace could be better spent. I agree with him, there's too many things to learn and experience in this lifetime. At 34, I've done a lot on my list, but I've learned that "the list" keeps growing the older you get.

Myspace is not on my list of things to do or see, and I personally, do not feel like I'm missing out in the slightest.

 

[Latinoman]

STR8Up...no offense, but I think you are picking on the wrong person. I HATE doing this as I don't think it makes a difference. I have as much respect for a janitor as I do for a CEO.

You're what? 40? You sound like you are 80.

Wake up. The world is changing whether you wish to adapt to it or not.

I am getting laid. And with "getting laid"...I mean MORE THAN ONCE a DAY. I don't complain about my life or relationships with women.

Hmmmm...I wonder who has the more fulfilling life? Who is the more adaptable? I wonder who needs to wake up?

I realize you are on the cusp of generation X, the first generation to have grown up with computers, the first generation to use cell phones, etc., so I take that into account when I watch you post crap like this.

Hahaha....I like how you make some assumptions. No offense, but you are picking on the wrong person for generalizations. I am an engineer and a well trained one at that as I also have graduate degrees. I used to work with developing computer simulations, optimization programs, lineal programming... I have a couple PCs, and a Dell XPS laptop. And I have teenager children too that are more than up-to-date of what's going on.

Do NOT assume. :crackup:

Fact is, these new methods of networking and communication are more than attention wh0ring venues. But you don't even HAVE an account, yet you preach how they are "for losers". Funny.

I am a GREAT cook (better than many in restaurants)...I am a GREAT dancer...I have a GREAT education...and have a GREAT career and GREAT salary. Furthermore, I speak fluently more than one language...I am well respected and considered a subject matter expert in my field ...and I own property and more than one vehicle. MySpace and Facebook did not get me there.

I network and communicate by going to happy hours, conferences, and other places. I network in the subway station, bus station, and even in the bookstore.

You are 36...it is time to start acting like a man that is in the prime of his life. A man that lives a BUSY life. Not like a College Kid that lacks the $$$ and resources to move around.

Do you know how pathetic it looks sharing a "Facebook" account (at age 36) with a woman that has a career and some level of maturity? "Hi, I am STR8UP...I'm in my upper 30s...here is MySpace account".

Now...if you are advertising your business using MySpace to attract younger people. That's more than fine and actually smart. I doubt you are even doing that.

 

[Latinoman]

Friv, I think Latinoman's point is that, unless for business reasons, your time on myspace could be better spent. I agree with him, there's too many things to learn and experience in this lifetime. At 34, I've done a lot on my list, but I've learned that "the list" keeps growing the older you get.

Myspace is not on my list of things to do or see, and I personally, do not feel like I'm missing out in the slightest.

Exactly.

I won't say that people using it are "losers" per se. But that's the approach I use when talking to my teenagers so they spent time doing more fullfilling things with their lives.

I totally agree that if the person is using it to get some kind of profit (such as free advertisement of his/her art, disc jockey, or other business), that's more than fine.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Latinoman, you are never going to win this arguement..

Myspace seems to play such a big part of some people's lives these days...they just can't seem to grasp the fact that some of us are quite happily living full lives, without it.

I agree with Latinoman 100% on this. There is just too many ways we can keep improving ourselves, and our lives, to waste any time on myspace.

 

[Latinoman]

Latinoman, you are never going to win this arguement..

Myspace seems to play such a big part of some people's lives these days...they just can't seem to grasp the fact that some of us are quite happily living full lives, without it.

I agree with Latinoman 100% on this. There is just too many ways we can keep improving ourselves, and our lives, to waste any time on myspace.

Thanks.

I know.

That's why I only focus on influencing my kids (female and male) into making them believe that it is a WASTE of their times. The advantage I have is that I am a role model for them.

 

[MacAvoy]

Latinoman,

From what I've seen about Facebook (myspace is non existant in Canada), is that most people do it at work, when they are bored etc... so its not really taking up alot of their free time. You can't really take a cooking class or learn a second language while your doing other things.

Personally I'm like you and don't join, however its because I like my privacy more than I like social proof. I already have mad social proof so I don't need it.

 

[grinder]

MySpace is just another tool. To me, it’s a very efficient advertising tool to market an excellent product: ME.

All I can tell ya is it works. I still do cold approaches every single day but I get more out of MySpace for the time invested.

BTW time on this board arguing with other men is not my idea of an efficient use of my time. Now I bid you adieu.

 

[Latinoman]

Latinoman,

From what I've seen about Facebook (myspace is non existant in Canada), is that most people do it at work, when they are bored etc... so its not really taking up alot of their free time. You can't really take a cooking class or learn a second language while your doing other things.

Personally I'm like you and don't join, however its because I like my privacy more than I like social proof. I already have mad social proof so I don't need it.

Maybe they can go to a website such as this and READ on how to improve themselves. That's what I do when I want to take a "break" (as I believe there is ALWAYS something to do at work to improve our careers).

 

[ketostix]

I have lots of hot women hit me up with MySpace friend requests. Tiffany, Brittney, Sierra, Destiny, Houston, Candy, Ashley,..gosh, I have at least 2 a week hitting me up for adds. Funny thing is, they all have their own private picture sites too with shots of them doing nasty things with other "friends", or else they all want me to join some site called "Adult Friend Finder". Well, as long as we're all adults I suppose I'm game.

LOL I have that problem too. If you're page is public and you don't set your friend request to require a captcha the hot girls will spam you constantly.

I can't understand people who say using facebook and myspace to meet women is a waste of time. It's a tool and a vehicle, not really any different from anything else online.