Friend of the exl?

[bigshovel]

Ok, what is the etiqite here?

When is it ok to hook up with one of your ex's friends.

I broke up with here a little over a year ago, and we were pretty serious (dated 7 months). This weekend I was hanging out with one of her friends. I know I could have hit it, and I can tell she wanted to too.

Plus there was always that tension between us when I was dating her friend.

What ios the deal, is she untouchable, as she iss still good friends with my ex?

 

[Climax]

no no no

I personally would never touch a friend of my ex... I put myself in the opposite position and I wouldn’t wanna see her get with one of my friends, not now, and not in a million years, it's just wrong. And plus, there are SO many women out there to pick from, no need to stoop down to that level and be a b@stard


Laterz...

 

[bigshovel]

Ok, Ok, I see what you guys are saying, and I am not going to do it, but lets look at a hypothetical situation

Guy meets girl, they date foir a while, come to find out things won't work between them, they break up, but all is good.

Guy meets friend of ex, they really hit it off, and they would make a great couple. Should they both sacrafice each other just because of a relationship that didn't work. I mean obviously the other relationship ended for a reason.

As UI get older and more mature I am starting to think that freinds dating your ex isn't all that bad.

Think about it the major reason we won't do it, is becaause we wouldn't want it done to us. But really what should we care? Why shouldn't our friend or that girl be happy? I mean, we stoipped dating her for a reason. WE DIDNT WORK OUT.

Are we that insecure, jealous, or attached to that girl that we cant see her or our friend have a good time with each other?

Now I understand that if a buddy was macking on your gir, or macking on your buddies girl is just wrong, but why not an ex?

We don't posses her, she may have been with us at one time, but we shouldn't be so superfical to think we control her dating future.

Like I said, I am not going to do it (mostly because I know it wouldnt materialize into an LTR)

But I really think that if one of my exes would make a friend of mine happy, I would encourage the relationship.

Why wouldn't I want to see them both happy. Obviously either I didn't make her happy or she didn't make me happy

Just a little rant and food for thought

 

[Lost In Translation]

The_Shezzler i think he is not saying your friends ex

he is saying his ex. one of her hot friends.

as in his old girlfriend. is ok to pimp her sister ?

OFCOURSE IT IS


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[bigshovel]

Yes, LIT, you are correct. The girl in question is a hot friend of one of my old girlfriends. My question is it ok for me to pimp her


But then I started talking about one of my friends dating one of my exes. I really truly honestly dont think I would have a problem with it.

I think any guy who would get mad if his buddy started dating one of his ex's is just a jealous insecure AFC.

Really why would a DJ care, unless he still wanted to be with her?

 

[bigshovel]

Yes, LIT, you are correct. The girl in question is a hot friend of one of my old girlfriends. My question is it ok for me to pimp her


But then I started talking about one of my friends dating one of my exes. I really truly honestly dont think I would have a problem with it.

I think any guy who would get mad if his buddy started dating one of his ex's is just a jealous insecure AFC.

Really why would a DJ care, unless he still wanted to be with her?

 

[Lost In Translation]

bigshovel
My question is it ok for me to pimp her

yes it is ok. i would

bigshovel
But then I started talking about one of my friends dating one of my exes

do not think because it appears similar the answer is the same.

NO IT IS NOT OK TO DATE YOUR FRIENDS EXS

1. you lose friends.
2. you get cut thinking she used to suck your friends d*ck.
3. everytime you go out as a group you get paranoid

some people might say that is a double standard

well it's not

MY FRIENDS MATTER

MY EXS FEELINGS DONT

if you doing your exs right they want you dead after you dump them anyway


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[nishbuk]

I agree with LIT and Shezz...

It's true that a *real* don juan woudlnt' be phased if you dated his ex. Hell, there are probably 3 people on this entire board that wouldn't REALLY care.

But you are not dealing with real don juans. You are dealing with your friends. It's true that you shouldn't caer about your exs feelings. But this other girl may lose a good friend because of it. That's not cool IMHO.

 

[bigshovel]

Well, i guess in a perfect world, my ex shouldn't care either, i mean what should she care what I do? We are no longer together, and if she were the DJette she thinks she is, she wouldn't care what her friend does.

But as for loosing friend's isn't that the decision of the girl that wan'ts me

Maybe she thinks a bf/gf relationship with me is more valuable than her freindship with my ex.

Like I said, i am not doing it, but I see no problem with this at all between mature stable adults

And for those guys who get offended by the thoughts of the girl with your friend. Just think about all the dirty nasty stuff she has done with the guys you don't know, because she has done it

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Go for it. But do it quietly...

 

[bob88]

what if you get with one of your friends ex but u didnt know it at the time?

(IMPORTANT: were both juniors in hs now)

ok well yeah i met this girl and all and we got together and me and my friend were talking and he asked if i got a gf at the moment and i was like yeah and he wanted to see her so i showed him a pic of her and he was like "OMG i know her" so it ended up he had gone out with her during 7th and 8th grade in middle school lol but she didnt know that he was one of my best friends untill i showed my friend her pic like 1 month into our relationship and now were going on 5 months this wed......so....what about that lol

 

[Climax]

The answer is logical...

bob88: In that case, it was not done INTENTIONALY, and therefore you cant really do anything about it, BUT accept it.


Laterz....

 

[Supaman]

I've slept with one of my ex's best friend. We decided to keep it between us. And when I run to her at a club she's always putting her hand up my shirt to see if I ahve the superman charm on that was in her mouth as I was bangin her brains out. I have a seperate question. I just started dating this new girl and her friend is a little hotter than she is. I've only been out with her like 4 times and now I'm starting to wonder whether I should hit on the hotter one or go with what's guaranteed. If anybody has been in this situation and went for the hotter girl, how did it work out? Yeah, I'm pretty much a ****, but I can't help but wonder.