Because I used to have this problem . I used to have this problem bad. " I didn't see it coming"
The problem is that most guys look for reasons to not dump a woman, rather than looking for reasons to keep a woman around.
What I do, or did, is I had a checklist of things that a woman would have to do. I wouldn't tell her what it was, but she had to do it allf for me to even, consider, dating her. It was something like
* At least show that she tolerates horse racing. horse racing is too big a part of my life for a woman to not like it. A "yeah I like horses" on a first date isn't good enough. She's got to come to the track with me, more than once, and not filch. "Babe i'm going to the track" is about the most common phrase out of my mouth to my wife
2. Ditto with health. The 2nd most uttered phrase out of my mouth is "babe i'm going to the gym". I watch what i eat. I can't be with a woman who thinks baked salmon and brown rice is boring becuase this is what I eat, like all the time. She has to show me she eats healthy and she can't be sabotaging my diet.
3. Has to show me that she can express her feelings without getting irrational and pissy. I purposely picked a fight with my now wife just to see how she would react. I've done this more than once. nothing earth shattering but enough to where i knew she'd be pissed
4. Has a life of her own. I'm a busy dude. Between NA meetings, work, track, gym, hobbies like the piano I don't have time to baby a grown ass woman. I can't have a woman that expects 10-20 texts a day. I have to have a woman that isn't going to get butt hurt if i'm too busy to call her one day and i don't spend the first half of the next day playing makeup. My wife went out of town with her girlfriends a few months ago and one of them commented that i had not called her and her response was "well he's obviously busy" zero ****s given by her. that's my baby
5. is not a skank. Self explanatory. A woman can play like she isn't a skank for a few weeks but skank like behavior is too hard if not impossible to cover up if you string her along for a few months. She'll eventually have to blow the guy she meet the other day. She will eventually have to do something skank like.
6. And this is for me, but i Have enough money where I have to make sure thy aren't out for my money, so I eventually make them or wait for them to do something for me. My wife when we were dating offered to co sign for me on my mercedes I Had. my credit wasn't all that great and i wanted it and she's bullets and i ws going to buy it outright she told me to save my money, lease it and just let her co sign for it. That and we got some credit cards together. she raised my credit score like 200 points in 6 years lol.
until a woman does those things, they get nothing. if that means i'm single **** it.