RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
I've had a LOT of conversations like this with friends.
Here is what you do.... listen ONE FVCKING TIME. Let him vent, let him get drunk off his @ss, BTW YOU need to stay sober, hold his head when he's puking, drive him home, roll him into bed. Then the next time he brings this up tell him "You need to STOP thinking about her. Anytime your mind wanders to where you are thinking about her, then change the subject in your mind. Sounds hard, but it really isn't, it's mind over matter... just get busy with something productive. Grab your balls and get some emotional self-control."
Then you tell him that you do not want to hear about this chick anymore if he starts talking about her tell him you are going to hang up and walk away... volunteer to do fun stuff with him under the condition that he NEVER brings her up again.
Things you DON'T do....
Do not get on the 'bash the chick' bandwagon... don't do that sh1t, that's the kind of bullcr@p chicks do... that isn't going to help him, because he isn't a chick. Also, understand that these two people MIGHT get back together, and your dumb@ss friend is going to tell this chick EVERYTHING you said about her, and she will cause problems for you. That is the first reason.
The second reason is... now I know I'm going to p1ss a lot of you guys off by saying this.... but really most chicks can't help it, this is how MOST women are... sure there are exceptions, and yes it is possible to find a loyal chick who will stay with you no matter what, even if a better option comes along, but really... in today's society where culture doesn't hold women accountable for anything 65% of women will cheat... sorry if this is a shock and surprise, but it is true. She's just being a chick... it sucks, but once you come to this realization then it is honestly better because this tells you it's not YOUR FAULT, the man doesn't do anything wrong... you just have a cheating b1tch because that is what happens when women are not shamed for their behavior.
Don't try setting him up with anyone... Give a man a fish, he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish, and well.... you get the point. He needs to figure thing out for himself, embrace self-improvement on his own.... trying to force this is like sending someone to the Betty Ford clinic to dry up when they aren't ready to quit drinking.
Here is what you do.... listen ONE FVCKING TIME. Let him vent, let him get drunk off his @ss, BTW YOU need to stay sober, hold his head when he's puking, drive him home, roll him into bed. Then the next time he brings this up tell him "You need to STOP thinking about her. Anytime your mind wanders to where you are thinking about her, then change the subject in your mind. Sounds hard, but it really isn't, it's mind over matter... just get busy with something productive. Grab your balls and get some emotional self-control."
Then you tell him that you do not want to hear about this chick anymore if he starts talking about her tell him you are going to hang up and walk away... volunteer to do fun stuff with him under the condition that he NEVER brings her up again.
Things you DON'T do....
Do not get on the 'bash the chick' bandwagon... don't do that sh1t, that's the kind of bullcr@p chicks do... that isn't going to help him, because he isn't a chick. Also, understand that these two people MIGHT get back together, and your dumb@ss friend is going to tell this chick EVERYTHING you said about her, and she will cause problems for you. That is the first reason.
The second reason is... now I know I'm going to p1ss a lot of you guys off by saying this.... but really most chicks can't help it, this is how MOST women are... sure there are exceptions, and yes it is possible to find a loyal chick who will stay with you no matter what, even if a better option comes along, but really... in today's society where culture doesn't hold women accountable for anything 65% of women will cheat... sorry if this is a shock and surprise, but it is true. She's just being a chick... it sucks, but once you come to this realization then it is honestly better because this tells you it's not YOUR FAULT, the man doesn't do anything wrong... you just have a cheating b1tch because that is what happens when women are not shamed for their behavior.
Don't try setting him up with anyone... Give a man a fish, he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish, and well.... you get the point. He needs to figure thing out for himself, embrace self-improvement on his own.... trying to force this is like sending someone to the Betty Ford clinic to dry up when they aren't ready to quit drinking.
