I have been reading your articles recently and really enjoy them. They are filled with insight and answers that I have always needed.
I have a situation with an ex best friend. We have known each other for years and when we first became friends we where really there for each other but eventually I moved away and did not talk to her for almost four years.
I recently came back into the area, after a trip around the world and becoming a single dad. On a day I was feeling particularly lonely I decided to look her up and give her a call. Apparently I called just at the right time because she was having trouble with her husband who she is separated from and has two kids with.
Long story short, she expressed great interest in seeing me and after that she expressed great interest in me. So we broke the rules and got together. It was great because I felt such a strong bond with her that I knew this had to be meant to be, it was fate. Everything seemed to be going fine until one day I freaked out on her because she did not call me after a night of partying. I told her that I was upset because I genuinely cared about her well being. But that didn't help and needless to say a few days later she pulled the " I just want to be friends card". Her excuse was that her best friend is my ex and she thinks that she would not like us being together.
That was years ago though and I feel like it's just an excuse.
I understood though, I ****ed up, so after a couple of attempts to get her to reconsider, I gave up and decided that friends was better than nothing.
I tried it for a couple of weeks, calling her to see how things where going, not pressuring her at all. When she and her kids got sick I tried to be supportive, but I soon came to realize that I was the one making all the effort and she was making none. So I decided to test her and I stopped calling and e-mailing, I haven't done anything and neither has she. The problem is that I still have strong feelings for her even though I have other girls who want to be with me all I can think about is her.
Is there any way to salvage a relationship with her?
Down and Out Steve
I have a situation with an ex best friend. We have known each other for years and when we first became friends we where really there for each other but eventually I moved away and did not talk to her for almost four years.
I recently came back into the area, after a trip around the world and becoming a single dad. On a day I was feeling particularly lonely I decided to look her up and give her a call. Apparently I called just at the right time because she was having trouble with her husband who she is separated from and has two kids with.
Long story short, she expressed great interest in seeing me and after that she expressed great interest in me. So we broke the rules and got together. It was great because I felt such a strong bond with her that I knew this had to be meant to be, it was fate. Everything seemed to be going fine until one day I freaked out on her because she did not call me after a night of partying. I told her that I was upset because I genuinely cared about her well being. But that didn't help and needless to say a few days later she pulled the " I just want to be friends card". Her excuse was that her best friend is my ex and she thinks that she would not like us being together.
That was years ago though and I feel like it's just an excuse.
I understood though, I ****ed up, so after a couple of attempts to get her to reconsider, I gave up and decided that friends was better than nothing.
I tried it for a couple of weeks, calling her to see how things where going, not pressuring her at all. When she and her kids got sick I tried to be supportive, but I soon came to realize that I was the one making all the effort and she was making none. So I decided to test her and I stopped calling and e-mailing, I haven't done anything and neither has she. The problem is that I still have strong feelings for her even though I have other girls who want to be with me all I can think about is her.
Is there any way to salvage a relationship with her?
Down and Out Steve
