Friend destroied my game

[PRMoon]

A few days ago I had a half way decent girl come over my house. I'd met her at a party and she said she'd like to stop by the next time I had a day off.

Anyway my friend stops by the same day. Apparenty he had off of work so he'd bless me with his presense. He's an okay guy, definatly not one of my wingmen, but he's a guy to hang around with ya know.

So he arrived before she did and asked if he could fire up my x-box (hey somethin's gotta keep me out of trouble during the day) and play for a bit. I figure why not, he's harmless enough, when she stops by he'll know to leave.

Wrong! Even after telling him that I had a lady stopping by he couldn't get a clue if Holmes himself smacked him in the face with it. She gets there and sits on my love seat, next to me while my still playing x-box friend sat on the sofa. I tried to have a standard conversation with the girl, "How long have you been her?" "I like those nice white kicks" "Have you been the the bars/clubs her?" etc etc etc. My friend however used more profound satments like "I only go clubs if I want to f*ck a b*tch" and "All the girls here are just wh*res, there's no hope." To cite some of the NICER things he said.

I had no chance. She was ready to leave maybe 20 mins after being there. I could see it on her face and by the way she was sitting. I didn't even bother telling her that I'd call her when she rocketed down the stairs out of my appartment. In fact I've already taken her name out of my phone.

With friends like that who needs enemies, huh?

 

[rgeere]

You shouldnt have let him come over; bad lesson learned there.

 

[Kaine]

If he doesn't. You tell him to leave.

What's the issue?

Kaine

 

[PRMoon]

Didn't really invite him persay, as he kinda just showed up. I believe it's refered to as "The pop in", and I'm far too good of a host to turn down any one from my door. By the time there was an opportunity for me to ask him to leave the damage had hit like a suprise attack and I saw more to come.

Also I should point out that I wasn't 100% into this girl. She was nice enough looking, but I don't get the total vibe from her. Maybe because I didn't get to know her well enough, but still I'm not feeling too bad about the situation, just kind of shocked that I could get bum rushed like that. I don't get my game knocked out like that by my friends all too often.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Kaine
If he doesn't. You tell him to leave.

What's the issue?

Kaine

The issue is that no matter what he would have done in result he screwed up by letting his friend over period. He literally put himself in a lose/lose situation where no matter what he would have done, had he stayed there [,and he did] he would have to choose between putting up with disrepect from his supposed friend [,which he chose] and the risk of looking like a totally insecure assh0le who is out of control [with the risk that the girl would be disturbed by this and not impressed].


The only way that he would have truly salvaged himself after 'making the mistake' of letting his friend over was by not allowing the girl to see his friend playing videogames like some pre-pubescent teenager and smacking against women out of jealousy. The tactful thing to do [after the mistake] would have been to just go somewhere else while his friend was there playing video games. I suppose that if he was as harmless as the thread starter has first asserted he would not have stolen or broken anything while they were gone. I am assuming this of course.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by rgeere



The only way that he would have truly salvaged himself after 'making the mistake' of letting his friend over was by not allowing the girl to see his friend playing videogames like some pre-pubescent teenager and smacking against women out of jealousy. The tactful thing to do [after the mistake] would have been to just go somewhere else while his friend was there playing video games. I suppose that if he was as harmless as the thread starter has first asserted he would not have stolen or broken anything while they were gone. I am assuming this of course.

True, there's a bar across the street from my house I totally should have taken her over there... ah well if I really wanted it to work out I would have thought of something like that on the spot, but I didn't. Experience is my teacher.

 

[Kaine]

I still don't see the issue.

The girl turns up, you ask him to leave.

It is your house. Do you need a note from your mom?

If you weren't planning to game the girl, fine. You have no issue.

Kaine

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Kaine
I still don't see the issue.

The girl turns up, you ask him to leave.

It is your house. Do you need a note from your mom?

If you weren't planning to game the girl, fine. You have no issue.

Kaine

Let me explain the problem with the viewpoint you just presented.

If the thread started had any sort of tact to begin with, he would have told his friend that he was busy or had plans and did not have time to lounge around with him.

By allowing his friend to stay the only other way to salvage his tact was to go some place else and not let the girl see him there.

Maybe he could have resorted to some form of violence against his friend WHILE the girl was there. This is actually the last thing he should have ever resorted too if at all. It's easy to say 'it's my house,' as justification to this, but just remember that there is very little chance that this would impress the girl if she was anything worth keeping. Girls like agression with tact, if they see you beating unjustly on other people all it would do is make them wonder if you would ever unjustly beat them. That's not the way to get a girl.

 

[rgeere]

In case anyone is thinking of replying and saying that it would have been just to physically throw the guy out of the house or beat him up in front of the girl, I have one last thing to say.

When you are with a girl you arn't the one who decides what is just if you want to keep her. If you screw up, she isn't going to stay with you no matter what the circumstances. What this means is that you should learn some tact or risk looking like an idiot. And if you are idiot, then stop posting here; you'll corrupt people.

 

[Kaine]

Hahahaha

I never implied you had to beat your friend senseless. If you need to do that then your friends don't respect you. I suppose the reason I say this isn't a issue is that I couldn't see myself in that situation, because I command respect from all my peers.

I'm not going to go about explaining how to be assertive. The only lesson I see here is that you shouldn't be putting other peoples needs before yours. I classify this as the nice guy mindset.

How do you command respect is a whole new thread in itself

If you still see this as an issue then we obviously live in different worlds

Kaine

 

[rgeere]

Ohhh, that's what you are saying ...

I agree with you then.

 

[AverageFC]

My friend however used more profound satments like "I only go clubs if I want to f*ck a b*tch"

hahaha that really cracked me up. Your friend is a dumbass. Beat him like a redheaded stepchild.

 

[xhikari]

he seems so dumb, does he even get to F**K a B**CH in the first placE????

 

[PRMoon]

I doubt it, he kind of looks like a rounder verson of jason alexander... you know george.

I remind you that this is NOT one of my wingmen.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by rgeere
The tactful thing to do [after the mistake] would have been to just go somewhere else while his friend was there playing video games. I suppose that if he was as harmless as the thread starter has first asserted he would not have stolen or broken anything while they were gone. I am assuming this of course.

thats what i thought too. go to another room, go to the back yard, front door, give her a beer or something dude. Or not even, if he's a good friend and you trust leaving him at your place...you couldve went with the girl elsewhere, say a local bar.

but what i think happened was your friend subconsciously (or purposely) ****-blocked by not leaving and saying sh!t like that.

Now you've learned your lesson, never have that friend around when you're with a girl.

Thats why mostly i dont introduce girls i know to my friends, they will most likely get jealous and try to put me down. They are close friends, but jealousy/envy is something they should really avoid.

 

[Bussey]

Personally, in that situation, which I have been in....

I took her out of the living room, and too my bedroom. We talked for a bit, and then went at it. Why the **** did you stay there when your friend was being a bigger ****block then a chicks friend?

If not another room atleast go for a walk to the nearest corner store or something man!

I don't blame the guy, he was just there. I blame you for not getting out of there...

 

[PRMoon]

Like I stated before If I really wanted to game on this girl then I would have come up with something to get us out of there. Typically I don't sit around for train wrecks like that. But when it happened I was so shocked about the whole thing, and I guess inside I thought it was kind of funny how he completely neutralized whatever starting point I had hit with this girl. Like I spotted a deer and he instantly fired a round straight up in the airl. It was really that bad.

I don't have a shortage of women guys so let's not get too hyped up about this one. I've got a lot of game and it's rare that one of my own is even in position to take me down. So for it to happen in such a helpless way was definately worth noting for me, and sharing to you.

 

[Bussey]

Haha, my situation wasn't that bad.

Soooo often we all have those moments that we wish were videotaped!

I'd certainly like to see how that went down haha.

 

[Tkman]

Originally posted by PRMoon
My friend however used more profound satments like "I only go clubs if I want to f*ck a b*tch" and "All the girls here are just wh*res, there's no hope." To cite some of the NICER things he said.

He ain't lying player

 

[MrHarris]

I can't stop lauging my ass off!!!!!!!

Man you need to straighten your boy out.