friend acts like an idiot and gets girls

[Snowman23]

okay I got this friend of mine, I guess you'd say he's confident, but he acts goofy. we were walking through the mall and out of nowhere he walks over to the piano and starts singing and trying to play puff the magic dragon. the group we were with laughed.

then we went into american eagle and there was this gorgeous girl working there. we walk past her and he goes "how many times do you get hit on during the day? I bet your boyfriend drives a Porsche. I drive an accord so I'm not gonna flirt with you." she laughed and seemed flattered. now his actual girlfriend is pretty cute, but I just don't see how this behavior is attractive. he's done stuff like this to other girls and it's worked. but people here say it's AFC.

maybe I'm missing something.

 

[mothballs]

What you're missing is that he has the guts to do outlandish things and it doesn't sound like he's afraid to be laughed at. There are a lot of women who like goofballs on the surface... if he's got a more serious side he can switch to when things get more intense... he's gonna get laid. People who are different and outgoing are way more successful than different and introverted. And, a man playing an instrument and singing (or even just singing), whether he does it well or not, is gold my friend.

 

[K.Pez]

i bet if you approached that girl and started flirting with her you would have gotten a similar reaction. the last thing that an employee at those retail stores is expecting is to get hit on - they probably hope for it, but they don't expect it haha. so why didn't you approach her before your friend, is the question.

 

[Aragon034]

I agree with Mothballs. i used to (and still do on occasion) act like a goofball to get attention and entertain myself, but as soon as the conversation goes a bit more serious, i change tact as well.

I think of it as a form of C&F, or as i'd rather call it, confident and playful. it's great for social occasions and the more you do it, the more natural it becomes.

and yes, chicks dig a guy who can sing without getting embarrassed. Church has proven this to me

 

[magickarl]

Anyone who calls behavior like that AFC is probably still a virgin...

Two lessons here:

1.) Balls.

One thing women love in a man more than anything else is balls.

Faking confidence can work.
Being unafraid of women is better.
But if you have straight up balls, you are going to get laid.

Sounds like your friend has a set of balls on him. Even if he is kind of goofy, it takes nuts to be able to just put yourself out there like that.

2.) Fun.

Another thing women love is to have fun, and to be around fun people.

Everyone likes to have fun.
You know the funnest people to be around?
The people who don't take life too seriously and spend too much effort trying to come off as the smooth, reserved guy with witty pick up lines. Give up on the James Bond stuff. At least until you get an Aston Martin and become a secret agent.

Even if he is kind of goofy. I bet he had more fun than you did. In fact, he sounds like a pretty cool guy. Hell, hes your friend isn't he? Probably because you too recognize that he is a fun person to be around.

Take a leaf out of your friends book.

 

[darkstarrr]

What you're missing is that he has the guts to do outlandish things and it doesn't sound like he's afraid to be laughed at. There are a lot of women who like goofballs on the surface... if he's got a more serious side he can switch to when things get more intense... he's gonna get laid. People who are different and outgoing are way more successful than different and introverted. And, a man playing an instrument and singing (or even just singing), whether he does it well or not, is gold my friend.

Couldn't have said it any better.

OP I have a friend who is very similar to yours. We were at a bar 2 weeks ago and he was 1/2 drunk and acting like a complete tard. When I got there he was with a girl and making out on and off. I thought to myself wow this must be the girl he told me abotu last week. When I went over to them he had to re-ask her name when introducing me to her. They had just met an hour earlier!!

Just one example of the antics this guy was putting on - he basically made some random comment to every single girl who walked by him or whom he walked by. Telling them he loves them and they are aan angel. Don't Stop Beleiving by Journey came on and he started doing the Michael Jackson Thriller Dance. They were eating it up. He eneded up bringing one of the chics home. Lucky for him he lives a lot closer to the city than I do.

I'm going to start acting a little more goofy, too. But as mothballs said - you got to have balls and can't be afraid of chics or rejection.