Friend acting all weird

[dillin]

Whenever I'm at my friends house chilling with his brother and he's there with his girlfriend he gets all weird around me. One time I was sitting on the couch and they walked in and she came and sat next to me and put her hand on my thigh as she goes to sit down and I look up and my friends giving me this really dirty look and it was so awkward I started laughing and he said some stuff about it.

Another thing was like I wasnt at his house for awhile and then they both walk in and he is like "hey how come out of nowhere you show up the same night I'm here with my girlfriend?" and I'm like "I am always here anyways". He says this kinda stuff all infront of his girlfriend too.

His girlfriend did hook me up with her best friend already and this guy knows I'm a big time player so I'm wondering what to do here. He was always fine before I hooked up with her friend and that was when he realized how big of a player I was and thats when he started all saying **** when they are around me.

He then all starts trying to get me to breakup with my girlfriend on top of that for some reason.

 

[b's nuts]

****ty, slap his ***** ass.

 

[golf299]

y does his gf think it's ok to put her hand on your thigh? and y do u let it happen? i believe u r both disrespecting your friend.

 

[dillin]

Originally posted by golf299
y does his gf think it's ok to put her hand on your thigh? and y do u let it happen? i believe u r both disrespecting your friend.

I didn't want it to happen I was just sitting there.

He knows how I am with women it's like one time we were at a party and everyones all being a wussy and I come in and start getting things flowing and next thing you know this same girls 2 good friends are grinding up on me, one in front and one in back and these are suppost to be the good "nice" girls too. I'll just be sitting down enjoying myself talking to some girls next thing I know I have this chick shaking her ass in my face.

I just feel that my friend doesn't trust me around her because he sees what I have done with all her friends and he knows I'm a big time player.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by golf299
y does his gf think it's ok to put her hand on your thigh? and y do u let it happen? i believe u r both disrespecting your friend.

i believe u r gonna have to learn some grammar.

Fvck your friend. He's just insecure that his girl is going to ditch him for you. Hash it out with him and tell him that you aren't digging that whole 'insecurity' vibe.

-Cyrano

 

[golf299]

yeah, CyranoDeBergerac, you're probably right on multiple fronts. i should learn some grammar because im just an uneducated moron. his friend is just being an insecure pu$$y, and they should talk about it.

however, you are essentially incorrect in your evaluation of the situation. dillin has absolutely no right to call his friend out on his insecurities in this situation. it is not his friend who needs to change his attitude/thinking.

if dillin were really this guys friend, which is suspect at this point, he would respect his friend and stay away from his gf. he could also suggest that his friend talk to his gf about her behavior. this guy sounds like an afc and simply needs some guidance.

cyano, i believe this quote by you explains you and your disrespectful nature: "Fvck your friend." obviously you have no true friends if this is your advice.

 

[joey37]

I agree with you golf and I think his grammar is worse than yours. As far as these a$$ wipes who think they're big time players by stealing another guy's girl, one of these times you're going to do it with the wrong guy's girl and that shlt can get pretty heavy.

 

[dillin]

Originally posted by golf299
yeah, CyranoDeBergerac, you're probably right on multiple fronts. i should learn some grammar because im just an uneducated moron. his friend is just being an insecure pu$$y, and they should talk about it.

however, you are essentially incorrect in your evaluation of the situation. dillin has absolutely no right to call his friend out on his insecurities in this situation. it is not his friend who needs to change his attitude/thinking.

if dillin were really this guys friend, which is suspect at this point, he would respect his friend and stay away from his gf. he could also suggest that his friend talk to his gf about her behavior. this guy sounds like an afc and simply needs some guidance.

cyano, i believe this quote by you explains you and your disrespectful nature: "Fvck your friend." obviously you have no true friends if this is your advice.

Yeah he is pretty AFC actually, his girlfriend knows I'm a player too because I hooked up with her best friend and partied with all her other friends.

I don't mean to go all deep into things but I do think if it came down to it she would go for me I can just see it in her eyes but I'm not gonna do that to my friend.

I actually did stop going around her aswell though and havent seen her for a little over a month but last time I was with my friend he was on the phone with her and he she was telling him to tell me she says "hi" but he never said anything till later that I night I told him to tell his g/f "hi" since I'm cool with her and I have hooked up with her friends.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Chillin Dilin,

This fool knows that he has a hor for a girlfriend!! I say treat her like the hor that she is and treat him like the pvssy that he is. His scorn should be directed at the hor who instigates such behavior and discussion and not at the hor's target!

Men don't get emotional or fret over losing a hor to another man, because men know and accept the nature of a hor and understand that they are only the next pimp in line.

Only chumps have this weak confrontational thinking around and over a hor and most likely will end up marrying such physically and psychologically 'damaged goods' (or should I say 'damaged bads'').

Tell your pvssy friend to private message me so that I can put him on the correct path and thinking when it comes to mastering and controlling the 'hor mindset'!!

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by golf299
yeah, CyranoDeBergerac, you're probably right on multiple fronts. i should learn some grammar because im just an uneducated moron. his friend is just being an insecure pu$$y, and they should talk about it.

however, you are essentially incorrect in your evaluation of the situation. dillin has absolutely no right to call his friend out on his insecurities in this situation. it is not his friend who needs to change his attitude/thinking.

if dillin were really this guys friend, which is suspect at this point, he would respect his friend and stay away from his gf. he could also suggest that his friend talk to his gf about her behavior. this guy sounds like an afc and simply needs some guidance.

cyano, i believe this quote by you explains you and your disrespectful nature: "Fvck your friend." obviously you have no true friends if this is your advice.

You see? It wasn't so hard typing in all those extra letters was it?

I say fvck his friend because dillin's question wasn't whether or not to move in on his friend's girl. His problem is that he's not trying to do that, but his friends acting like a grade A azz-hole. This is why I say fvck him...don't let him get to you.

I disagree that our man dillin is the one in desperate need of an attitude overhaul. His friend is letting his own paranoid insecurities cause a rift between him and dillin, and now he's even trying to get in between dillin and his girl?!?!?!? This is not a healthy friendship for Dillin or his friend. If he's insecure with Dillin around his girl now, he's going to be insecure with Dillin around his girl later, and that's a serious trust issue. Dillin meanwhile has bent over backwards to be respectful of his friend. This is a cancer on their bond as brothers and it needs to be excized now. His friend needs to take his head out of his azz and if it takes Dillin calling an intervention to do it, I say go for it.

" Hey X, you know you're my bro, but what's this attitude when your girlfriend's around? You know I'm not going to disrespect you like that. Bros before hoes. But now I'm seeing you try to come between me and mine? Wtf?"

Part of being a friend is looking out for one another and keeping things sqare between you, and if that means calling bs on your boy so you and him can avoid some major head-aches later, then you gotta do what you gotta do. I for one don't make a habit of going along to get along with people. I don't need friends who can't or won't have my back enough to tell me when I'm doing something self-destructive.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[dillin]

One time it was me, my friend and his girlfriend and we were just watching TV and he tells me "hey do you still ever talk to your g/f anymore?" and I'm like "yeah I called her a couple days ago" because I only call and see her once a week and then he starts telling me how she is seeing other guys and stuff like that and then his girlfriend tells me how she isn't seeing anyone else but I know he's lying about the other guys because I had his brother ask him about it and he told him how he is just saying it to make me mad and jealous.

He's being a **** about it but now since I havent been around her he's being fine but I don't get why the hell he said that **** about my g/f just to get me pissed when he knows it's not true.

And I honestly want NOTHING to do with his girlfriend anyways it's just like it gets annoying as hell how he is acting since I've been friends with him almost my entire life.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by dillin
He's being a **** about it but now since I havent been around her he's being fine but I don't get why the hell he said that **** about my g/f just to get me pissed when he knows it's not true.

Assuming he's lying, he's trying to re-enforce three things:

1) He's reminding you that you already have a girlfriend, in case you had momentarily forgotten and were thinking about going after his.

2) He's talkins sh1t to you in front of his girlfriend to embarass you in front of his girl and show that you'd be bad boyfriend material, just in case she forgot she already had one.

3) He's trying to convince himself he's not the only one who's insecure.

You gotta put the brakes on this. Now.

-Cyrano

 

[myfriendblu]

Hey,
I bet there is alot more going on here than dillin cares to admit to (or even realizes whats going on). Sure, this other kid is an insecure AFC, but I bet dillin is doing a little more than being a complete nice guy. I have seen this type of situation before. Now Im not saying dillin is all cok blocking and being a chump, but Im more than willing to bet that he is showing her signs of IL that she is picking up. Dillin might not even realize he is doing this, but i bet he is. Just simple little things, but enough for people to notice.

 

[dillin]

2) He's talkins sh1t to you in front of his girlfriend to embarass you in front of his girl and show that you'd be bad boyfriend material, just in case she forgot she already had one.

That ones it because he trys to all act like he is the sh!t when he is around his g/f and like he is better than me when I'm not even saying anything, like I'll be walking around the house and theyll be in the room watching TV and he'll start going crazy and is like "omg get the HELL out of my room!!!!" and gets this crazy ass look on his face. He gets uneasy as hell when I'm around both of them and he starts giving me funny looks and acting all weird and like when were sitting on the couch one time she comes and sits next to me and he's like "omg WTF get away from him and come sit next to me!" and he grabs her away.

I didn't say this before but this is where it gets scary, one time he has some guy call me up and saying he's my girlfriends boyfriend and he's going to beat the **** out of me if I ever call her again and this is my only warning and whatnot. I figured out it was him because I got him to admit it to me a few days later. It just pisses me off sooo much because he only started doing this once I hooked up with her best freind because before he NEVER did anything like this.

Now that I got the hell away from her he is just totally fine again, it gets scary the **** he says and the way he acts when it comes to her.

 

[dillin]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Hey,
I bet there is alot more going on here than dillin cares to admit to (or even realizes whats going on). Sure, this other kid is an insecure AFC, but I bet dillin is doing a little more than being a complete nice guy. I have seen this type of situation before. Now Im not saying dillin is all cok blocking and being a chump, but Im more than willing to bet that he is showing her signs of IL that she is picking up. Dillin might not even realize he is doing this, but i bet he is. Just simple little things, but enough for people to notice.

Ok I will admit that I get that lust feeling when I look at her but I would NEVER do anything on it.

 

[willo]

Simple

Take him aside and tell him you don't want his gf because you already have one and if you didn't, you wouldn't go for her anyway. Then leave her alone and if she touches you, tell him to control his woman in front of her in a jovial way.