FR: SamePendo meets all women at his gym in a week.

[drift king]

Ouch!

Ipod chicks are a chapter by themselves. You take baby steps, you were kind of intrusive, I'll teach you how not to be intrusive, since some women do really want to work out. Be polite to her and all. Say hi, but that's all. When she's using a spot/excercise you want to use, wave at her so she gets eye contact with you and say:

"Hi, good morning/afternoon/night . . are you using this?" Ignore her immediately after, not even looking at her. And continue that way until my guide pops up.

an update samependo.. in past couple weeks i've taken it marginally further by talking to her making her laugh c+f etc. left it on a high note cos ppl were walking past us as we talked constantaly so felt uncomfortable number closing.

long story short, saw her yesterday talked as she was leaving but shoulda realised she had to go cos stuck around chatting too long. same sh*t really c+f, neg hits, kino. had her laughing ecstaticly.. but found out she living with her bf so its def no go there. question for me to you is.. if you find out said person has a bf is that a typical cue for you to leave? what would you say if you heard that?

i was thrown off a bit cos i assumed she was single and i did pretty well hopefully creating some attraction. i f*cked up by staying on longer and started asking questions about her relationship with him.. which i see now comes across as bit intrusive and pointless and too obvious. it got to the stage where i said something and she didn't want to answer so said 'ok i have to go now' i tried my best to keep my cool and said goodbye with a handshake rather than a typical kiss and hug goodbye.. 1 cos i'd thought she'd flinch at that moment if i went for it and 2 cos in that instant i'd thought it might throw her off a bit into confusion.

basically what im asking is that if you've established rapport but then find out she has a bf etc, what do you say/do next to exit the situation on a high note? (i don't necessarily mean get the girl.. but just leaving on a high note rather than how i did it.)

 

[drift king]

same pendo?

 

[SamePendo]

You act like nothing happened. You take it like she said something from cosmo. Remember, actions more than words. But she doesn't sound interested. Continue with the rapport, avoiding the friend zone, and afterwards have her over for "a movie/dinner" at your place. Meanwhile, you know, spin other plates.

I've been busy not able to do the gym thing.. I'll try to do as much as I can today.

 

[drift king]

lol SamePendo i got another query for you..

I've been somewhat a victim of my own sucess and got into a very embarassing situation whereby i went to another location of my gym chain where all the women are by far the best looking. Unfortunately i got carried away with the sarging and ended up talking to this good looking but average bodied chick with a big ass.

I was so determined to make a move with her i didn't take the subtle hints she wasn't interested at all. I made light convo initially while she was on the machines then she moved off. Later when i went to go stretch she was around the corner there and i couldn't help myself wander in the vicinity then go next to her. Basically I f*cked up big time and became a pest cos she said to me 'OK can i get back to training now?!'

the worst bit was after cos i didn't know what to do so i just sat there embarassed and continued what i was doing hoping she'd leave eventually and then i could leave. But then one of the gym trainers came over and started partaking in convo with her and i thought 'great she's gona b*tch about me to him and he's going to ruin my rep..'

low and behold thats exactly what happened. i had my earphones in so they thought i couldn't hear what was being said.. she whispered something to him like 'oh my god that guy tried it with me..' then he laughs goes 'Nice. i'll walk you down' with him trying to be like a hero like he thought i was gona follow her down or some sh*t. As this happened i heard her talking quite loudly as they walked away 'oh my god i was trying to listen to my ipod and he...'

i didn't hear the rest but safe to say i was embarassed as hell after that and kind of decided to forget picking up girls in the gym after this bad experience..

my question to you is.. if i see her again or i see that particular trainer again.. what is the best way to handle the situation and act?

i feel like i cannot try picking up any girls at that gym any more in fear of the repercussions of gossip that might spread either by this b*tch or that d*ck trainer. Unfortunately this particular gym is the best one of the chain and i really don't want to have to relocate to another one and miss out on all this potential but i feel like i've been permenantly ****blocked now and will have a constant reminder of the embarassment of this situation every time i go there now.. somewhat living in fear of what happened even thought chances of me bumping into her again might be slim.

what would you do in this situation samependo?

 

[drift king]

thanks Shezz. Samependo?

 

[drift king]

HB with BF

met this HB8 with a bf on mon. got her digits but she revealed straight after she had a bf, but i didn't even batter an eyelid at it and not brought it up since.

fast forward to now, i saw her again she said hey to me and i went over to chat to her.. (probably a bad move if im following sosuave rules..) stayed for too long.. chatted for 20mins, kino'd, c+f'd, couple of neg-hits.. but still the convo seemed to go onto mundane afc boring LJBF stuff.

I probably shoulda let her come to me to make me look more higher status than her etc, unfortunately no other HBs around to give me social proof.

what would you suggest I do now to get her?

I thought i'd do the opposite of what I've been doing and suddenly act distant and uninterested.. not partaking in convo with her, not going up to her anymore, letting her come to me, and when she does still end the convo quickly and act distant. would this trigger a reaction in her to wonder why i'm acting distant?

I feel like im close to being LJBF'd at the point of no return, any suggestions anyone?

(please no replies about moving on cos shes got a bf etc etc, just constructive advice about what the next move should be please. 99% of women i meet have bf's so at some point i'm going to have to go for one of them given i can't keep nexting to another one with a bf)