Interesting story, thanks for sharing and good luck with it continuing if it's going as you like as it sounds like a fun experience for you to learn from. Being friends with strippers can be a fun ride and also dangerous, so be careful with dr*gs and g*ngs and such. Some say that "Stripper 101" is don't be seen as a customer, so take m*ney out of the equation and then see how it goes. I would not be a LT bf with a stripper, so my goal would be to f*ck. Getting a stripper from a club to meet in public is quite an accomplishment that few guys ever have happen. Usually as other commenters said it is by just happening to meet through your social circle and then find out she's a dancer (don't call her a stripper).
Here's how it would go with me. We meet for food (but don't go in), hey that's a cool car let's see this bad boy (get in it), drive this around the block (I reach over and rub her leg, she reaches over and rubs my c*ck, you know my place is right over here I have to get something), we go in my place and we have a drink, I kiss her firmly as my built up hormones of wanting to ravage her from the moment I saw her in the club come to a head and my c*ck is already erect, I put on a condom and begin to f*ck her (I say,"I have wanted to f*ck you so much," and she says, "I have been waiting for you to f*ck me"). Inviting her to an event you were already going to is good. It's better to keep phone calls with women brief (just enough to set up the next meet). It's usually better unless in a LTR to never say any personal feelings. Dinner dates are not the ideal first date, drinks or a walk or a venue is better. I'm usually not a fan of paying m*ney for s*x, but in a case where that much has already been spent, then if it ever happened make sure to NEVER verbally say "m*ney for s*x" or "m*ney for s*xual act" in the U.S. where it's illegal. If she asks for a donation before or after then that was the deal. Stripper agrees to a second dinner, "hey meet me at my place and we'll go from there, as long as you're here let me show you something," we do not make it to dinner.