Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Background: This is trickiest one I've had in a while so I've decided to write a field report about it. There is a girl I'm seeing in my extended social circle, we've been on a couple of dates, they went well but after the most recent one 2 weeks ago she began to take days to reply to texts and basically said she was too busy to meet up. Clear sign of disinterest. In my mind I cut my losses and moved on, I was okay about hanging out with her in a group setting and it wouldn't be awkward because most of our mutual friends didn't really know we were seeing each other. So we get to Thursday, I get the text to come out on a night and she's going too. Great. But there is also another girl going that I've had my eye on and they're good friends, I have no idea if she knows the situation but I set my sights on her for the evening.
Last night:
A few hours before we were meant to be meeting up, she starts messaging me again asking what time I'm going to get there and basically just keeping me updated about her movements. She even double messaged me a few times and considering how she was acting in the previous two weeks, I know she's playing games. We arrive and she's as friendly and chatty as ever, almost like nothing has changed. Later on we're in our group, we're all chatting and it's normal but I want to feel the temperature of what's going on a little so I start referring to her "buddy" and I can tell she doesn't like it. Interesting but doesn't prove much. Later on one of the guys we were with inadvertently blurted out that I fancied the other and the look on her face was priceless. He realised what he did and took it back but she gave the game away.
The night goes on and she corners me and wants to chat about what was going on between us. I guess I need to add a bit more context here, I didn't really chase her or say anything about how she acted. I just took the message, backed off and saw my other girls. No damage done. But she said she liked how relaxed I was about everything and that most guys get possessive over her quite quickly. She was even self aware enough to tell me why.
After all this, it wasn't clear so I did what I usually do and escalated the situation. I tried to kiss her but she gave me the cheek. I asked her what was up and she told me that she heard something about me, which was troubling her. I think one of the guys must have mentioned another girl I was seeing at one point but there's no use crying over spilled milk. As always I don't really react, I've found that by not giving them that feedback through facial expressions, it sends their mind in overdrive.
However, there is one more turd in the punch bowl for this chick because her friend is making eyes at me. I don't know her too well but I know she thinks I'm good looking. Up until later in the night I had been ignoring her and I know she didn't like that. But we began to catch each others eyes a little too much. I felt the connection, so she did too. She comes up to me holding some intense eye contact and says "you're naughty, I'm not getting involved in your games." I just continue staring into her eyes and all this is taking place about 3 feet away from this other chick. As far as I'm concerned that's a green light, no words were spoken previously but she felt that shït.
Anyway for the rest of the night, the original girl is as good as gold. She came onto me and kissed me. But it's getting late and people are heading home. She lives locally so invited a few people back to stay at hers, myself included. However, everyone except one other guy has disappeared, and he lives miles away and a cab would cost a lot. She's insisting that he comes back to hers and he's unsure what to do. At this point, privately to me she says the famous words "I'm not having sex with you tonight." I don't react but I know it's on her mind. I don't think I've ever not had sex with a girl who has said that. But she's really trying to convince this other guy to just stay at hers because he was very drunk so needed looking after. However, he insisted that he got a cab so we sent him on his way and got our own cab back to hers.
We get inside and lay down on her bed and start making out. She takes her jeans off. But she wont let me take her top off. We make out some more and I take it up a notch and become more aggressive. She likes it but she still wont take her top off and tells me that if she does we'll definitely end up having sex. That was her mental barrier. I go to take her top off again and she complies. Shes loving it, she tells me how much she's always wanted to fück me and she tells me to get a condom and it's a done deal.
But considering how much shït she thew at me, I expected more LMR but I guess her mind was pretty much made up by then. There wasn't any real resistance once I was back at hers. She definitely tried to trip me a up a few times during the night though and I feel like I dealt with it well. In the morning we fück again and chat. She says that she has no idea how to read me because I haven't really chased her and she's used to guys chasing her. I can imagine most guys tripping up somewhere along the line and I don't usually get these sort of tests from girls anymore. Maybe it's because she knows me a little better so has more of an idea what I'm about. She knows what she's doing, she told me that she knows the way she acts winds guys up. It even wound me up a bit but I know it's better to just leave it and get on with something else because if they're interested they'll come back to you. The next week or two should be interesting but I'm definitely wary of this one. Next up her hot friend.
Last night:
A few hours before we were meant to be meeting up, she starts messaging me again asking what time I'm going to get there and basically just keeping me updated about her movements. She even double messaged me a few times and considering how she was acting in the previous two weeks, I know she's playing games. We arrive and she's as friendly and chatty as ever, almost like nothing has changed. Later on we're in our group, we're all chatting and it's normal but I want to feel the temperature of what's going on a little so I start referring to her "buddy" and I can tell she doesn't like it. Interesting but doesn't prove much. Later on one of the guys we were with inadvertently blurted out that I fancied the other and the look on her face was priceless. He realised what he did and took it back but she gave the game away.
The night goes on and she corners me and wants to chat about what was going on between us. I guess I need to add a bit more context here, I didn't really chase her or say anything about how she acted. I just took the message, backed off and saw my other girls. No damage done. But she said she liked how relaxed I was about everything and that most guys get possessive over her quite quickly. She was even self aware enough to tell me why.
After all this, it wasn't clear so I did what I usually do and escalated the situation. I tried to kiss her but she gave me the cheek. I asked her what was up and she told me that she heard something about me, which was troubling her. I think one of the guys must have mentioned another girl I was seeing at one point but there's no use crying over spilled milk. As always I don't really react, I've found that by not giving them that feedback through facial expressions, it sends their mind in overdrive.
However, there is one more turd in the punch bowl for this chick because her friend is making eyes at me. I don't know her too well but I know she thinks I'm good looking. Up until later in the night I had been ignoring her and I know she didn't like that. But we began to catch each others eyes a little too much. I felt the connection, so she did too. She comes up to me holding some intense eye contact and says "you're naughty, I'm not getting involved in your games." I just continue staring into her eyes and all this is taking place about 3 feet away from this other chick. As far as I'm concerned that's a green light, no words were spoken previously but she felt that shït.
Anyway for the rest of the night, the original girl is as good as gold. She came onto me and kissed me. But it's getting late and people are heading home. She lives locally so invited a few people back to stay at hers, myself included. However, everyone except one other guy has disappeared, and he lives miles away and a cab would cost a lot. She's insisting that he comes back to hers and he's unsure what to do. At this point, privately to me she says the famous words "I'm not having sex with you tonight." I don't react but I know it's on her mind. I don't think I've ever not had sex with a girl who has said that. But she's really trying to convince this other guy to just stay at hers because he was very drunk so needed looking after. However, he insisted that he got a cab so we sent him on his way and got our own cab back to hers.
We get inside and lay down on her bed and start making out. She takes her jeans off. But she wont let me take her top off. We make out some more and I take it up a notch and become more aggressive. She likes it but she still wont take her top off and tells me that if she does we'll definitely end up having sex. That was her mental barrier. I go to take her top off again and she complies. Shes loving it, she tells me how much she's always wanted to fück me and she tells me to get a condom and it's a done deal.
But considering how much shït she thew at me, I expected more LMR but I guess her mind was pretty much made up by then. There wasn't any real resistance once I was back at hers. She definitely tried to trip me a up a few times during the night though and I feel like I dealt with it well. In the morning we fück again and chat. She says that she has no idea how to read me because I haven't really chased her and she's used to guys chasing her. I can imagine most guys tripping up somewhere along the line and I don't usually get these sort of tests from girls anymore. Maybe it's because she knows me a little better so has more of an idea what I'm about. She knows what she's doing, she told me that she knows the way she acts winds guys up. It even wound me up a bit but I know it's better to just leave it and get on with something else because if they're interested they'll come back to you. The next week or two should be interesting but I'm definitely wary of this one. Next up her hot friend.