FR: I thin I ruined my chances by "nexting her"

Masked_angel

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Okey so after the girl I got jealous I suddenly started searching for new girls to date and started to test some new pickup stuff :)

From facebook I started to message this very cute girl. (note I’m translating this from Swedish to English so that you guys know)

Me: Shiet you look like Tania Raymonde.
She: Should I take that as a compliment or? :p
Me: It depends on if you have something going on besides your looks.
She: haha I’ll take that as an yes

*days later*
Me: ouch you changed profile picture, I’ll think I have to take back my compliment. ;D
She: haha f*ck she was hot
Me: Which country are you from? Syria?
She: Yea, Syrian from Syria.
Me: Seriously I should get a goldstar
She: Gold I don’t know but perhaps 2 silver stars
Me: Only 2?
She: You want more?
Me: If I get 2 you get only 1 :O
She: No because im worth 3 :O
Me: If you are worth 3 then im worth 5 :O
She: Now your just cheating
Me: Do you say that to all guys you think are cooler than you?
She: Who said you are cooler than me?
Me: Its just a fact
She: which is wrong
Me: aww, your sweet, know you are allowed to be my friend *click*
She: haha thanks (A)
Me: How adventurous are you from 1 to 142452433252
She: I’m probably 142452433253, I think. You?
Me: I’m 142452433254 :D
She: That’s very adventurous, so your not calm?
Me: Im kind of calm. But Love new challenges. You? Aww are you only 142452433252? That’s a pity. If you had higher numbers I would personally take you on a adventure.
She: I’m either very calm or very aggressive, like rollercoaster haha the truth is I’m 142452433258 but I didn’t want to chock you that much. (A)
Me: And know you expect me that I’m going to take you on an adventure?
She: Nope,-.- im going on an adventure by myself. But if you don’t want to join then..
Me: -.- I don’t think you could handle me…
She: Its rather YOU who can’t handle me. (A)
Me: Do you say that to all guys you think are cooler than you? (A)
She: So you still think your cooler then me?
Me: Boys think, men know ;)
She: haha yea yea if you say so -.-
Me: Give me your number and we shall see
She: 5234252* and the last number you must guess
Me: You know what, I’m giving you the opportunity to get to know me in Win/Win way. IF you give me your number I will text you so you get mine. Because I have no need or time for guessing your number. Give me your whole number or bye.
She: The last number is 7 which you could of guessed?

Okey, after this we texted eachother. But I was never serious, she would text me asking. “whats up?” etc.. It was the same time as I was going out with the girl, who made me jealous .
Either way I started gameing her more, giving her goldstars if she was nice and we started planning that she would buy me dinner .
I text her (don’t remember the exact text because I deleted them all) but she flakes saying that she has to go on a family dinner etc.. “Sorry, I can’t today, I feel so bad, I seriously can’t”. I accept it and we plan another time.
We meet up, and I choice the place. So we went playing squash. She was first very rejective about sporting; she wanted to go somewhere eating. Either way we started talking, and we were touching each others hands laughing and having a great time. She smiled and laughed so much about my C/F comments that she TRIED HARD not to laugh. She really sucked at squash haha. So I teached her a little and did some more kino.
After the squash game, we went towards our busses. I gave her the squash ball and said, if something brings you down. Take this ball squeeze it and think of me, and you will suddenly become happy.
We sit next to eachother, its very cold. We talk to eachother. More kino, I get to kisses on the cheek but can’t manage to kiss close. It gets colder and a tell her to come closer. I have her in my arms, our faces are like 5 centimeter from eachother. I am holdning her hands. I grab her try to kiss her but fail. She turns her head away, and still we are holding each other trying to get warm. I tell her kiss me on the cheek and she goes. “I know how you guys think, you’ll just turn your face and kiss me”. We went into deeper subjects and she tells me that she can usually figure guys out. But can’t figure me out. She continues with saying. I know nothing about you. I grab her fingers and say I have three rules. “honesty, trust and respect”. She smiles more. I skip my buss, she skips her buss and we start to call prank calls and laugh. I the end we said goodbye and I just went. She was “whha?” Don’t you say goodbye? And I grabbed her and kissed her. She just looked at me.
Days later I text her, You still just have 2 goldstars out of 5. When you get the 5 I’ll give you a gift.
We plan for a second date and here is when everything just went to HELL!
Okey, so we plan and I text her and told her meet me 19.00 for tickets to The Final Destination.
She: Oh that sounds really nice but I can't today.
Me: Ok, you lost a gold star.
She: I really must go out with my friends, but I can see if I can leave them. But the chances are very small.
Me: No need for that.
She: Are you angry at me? -.-
Masked_angel: Nope, I'm going out with someone else instead.
She: -.-
Okey so she flaked and I believed I handled it well. Only three days later she texted me.
She: hey :D
Me: Hello
She: hello hello
Me: Do you always send unnecessary text?
She: Not that I know of.
I don’t remember exactly what we texted but it ended up with. Forcing her saying an apology and pay back by offering a massage and 1 dinner. And meeting me for cinema this Friday. And I told her that it is rude to flake. That if she does it again I’ll say goodbye.
Some days later. We plan, everything seems perfect and she suddenly today she text me and tells me
“Sorry I can’t meet you, I’m going out on with my sister on Friday :D” (note the positive smiley)
I’m ****ing pissed! I don’t know why, but seriously I have turned into mode 4 behavior it’s that bad!
So I answered with “ok, I don’t even want to see you any more :D”.
And boom, I got no answer and I think I ruined all my chances.
And **** I really liked this girl. Guys what do you think? I told her I would say bye bye if she flaked. Did I make the right decision? Or was it the same mistake done as the jealousy thread?

Best Regards
Masked_angel
 

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Ummm nexting isn't a stragety to get a girl, its a mechanism for you to go out and find a different one. She flaked too much, you ditched her. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. Go find other poon now.
 

ChalengeGuyFan

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Maybe my understanding is bad, but I think she said the sister thing in a playful manner.
 

DJCorleone

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Emma said:
What's with the gold star thing?
Some PUA rubbish, i remember reading it somewhere before.

And yeah, your last text was just awful, and scrousters right.
 

Scars

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Stop over qualifying yourself. That's why her IL turned to dust.

You had her in the palm of your hands, dude.

Your last text was definitely not the right answer. Girls make plans and have lives too, you can't get mad at her or upset for it. It's most likely your fault she blew you off anyway. She put the smiley thinking you would be cool and wish her to have a good time (in a way testing to see what your reaction would be), but instead you just looked like an assh0le and not in a good way. You failed. Over qualification is bad.

Your trying way too hard. Relax.

There's a chance she might come back, but unfortunately for you you're going to have to put on this complete ****head front all the time or she's going to realize you're a fake.

Remember the formula.

C+F = attraction.
Once she's attracted there's no reason to constantly neg her or DHV all the time. From there it's all about standing your ground and being a man.

scrouster said:
Ummm nexting isn't a stragety to get a girl, its a mechanism for you to go out and find a different one. She flaked too much, you ditched her. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. Go find other poon now.
Tru dat. Rep +1
 

I Am Lost 18

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Dude, what the fvuk did you do that for?

You had her in your palms, you OQ'ed yourself. Girls have lives too, you can't just expect her to ditch all her plans and her life everytime YOU want to meet her.

And it was about her "SISTER" for crying out loud. If anything, that's the least of the worries and definitely not a reason for you to go "A-hole" mode and slam down on her like that.

You started well, and took too much pride in yourself and didn't see the hole in the pathwalk. You fell, and failed.

Now, if you can somehow climb out, and fix things, that's a different thing. But you're down there for now.
 

Masked_angel

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I've learned my lesson, thanks guys for your responds :)

Best Regards
Masked_angel
 
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