FR: I just had a date with a girl i met on Myspace

[JH6]

Originally posted by sapphire
Pretty much sums it up.

Internet chicks are some of the flakiest you will find. Even the one you may think are LTR material. That is why I don't waste time and spend as little money as possible and try to close the deal on the first date.

I couldn't agree any more. Many of them are just looking for hookups. I've closed the deal with several myspace girls on the first date, then they never want to talk to you again. Its just a hookup to them.

The other type on myspace is virgins. If you are shopping 19-23 year old girls like I am (i'm 23 by the way). Its amazing you thought there was no such thing, but i've met two in the past month. You know they aren't going to give it up until you commit to them, and its not going to happen so just next them.

Actually, to be honest, I've met some really awesome girls on myspace also. Probably my best girl who's a friend I met her on there back in june. We are best of friends, and hookup once in a while. Its a great relationship.

Bottom line, roll the dice see what you get. And for god sakes, wrap it up.

 

[everywomanshero]

Guys are the problem

Women aren;t the problem, we are! Stop making plans with women on major holidays. Make out with women in bars on Holiday, not resting your fate on some freaking Internet chic. In a bar if a girl flakes, big deal there is 100 more. Next time tell her to meet you @ xyz party or bar and don';t even expect her to show up/.... and if she does she'll prolly fidn YOU in another womans arms anyway!

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Ok This is exactly what she sent me today on Myspace. Please guys what do you think I should do now?


[I am so sorry about the other night. This is a little embarrassing, but i will tell you none the less. Due to the fact that I am not technically employed anywhere permanently and full time, i have run into a bit of a snag with finances, i.e. cell phone bill. I had let that one slip, and right now am fighting to get my number back. It is important that you know I am not avoiding you.

When you become a T-Mobile employee, you are given the option to a rate plan at an unbelievable low rate. However, upon termination, you have ten days to move this into your name. My ten days was not up until the third. However if the phone is suspended for non payment, or is cancelled, the number itself is lost, reguardless of how long the number has been yours.

Unfortunetly, that is what has happened to me. Lucky for my T-Mobile has a 24 hr customer service line, so I am on the phone with them right now via my sister's cell phone to get mine turned back on.

It is late and I did not want to call. I just got home from my parent's house, and I will call tomorrow. I work 12-5 and would like to see you.

However, under the present circumstances, i understand if you never want to see me or talk to me. I have stood you up now twice and for that I am sorry. That was not my intention, not ever.

I hope to hear from you soon, and while I cannot talk on my phone at work, I will message you to let you know when my cell phone is working again.]

 

[Mr. Delicious]

anyone???

 

[Sp1kez]

Give it a try man, you got nothing to loose now.

Personally I've met 2 girls off myspace, one of them ended up being really fun to be around with and the other one ended up not talking much at all, in-person pick ups are the besta nd there is no substitute for them.

PS: What thread are you talking about in your first post?

 

[Inc. ©]

Ok, definitely give it a try. I don't see how a girl could make up an excuse like that. She sounds like a keeper to be honest with you. Also, she seems very self respecting so she's already disapointed in her self for standing you up twice so I wouldn't give her much **** about it. I don't think the regular DJ tactics will be that useful on her.

 

[Xtravaganza]

Next her. She's fukkin' with you. She would have called you from her landline if she was interested at all. Or is it that all the phone numbers in her cellphone get wiped when she doesn't pay a bill...?

 

[Edwinjcb]

You got screwed, man!!! Just another ****ing lying *****, I'm afraid.

 

[GropeDope]

Most b!tches on MySpace are LOOSE as sh!t. I've got a friend who banged 4 different MySpace hoes last year...most of them on the first day they chilled..and I'd say he's only average in the looks department. You probably could have had an ONS if you played your cards right it sounds like. Find another one.

 

[Edwinjcb]

Wait, I take that previous posting back. I didn't read that she had contacted you again. Here are my thoughts.

Yes, she could be totally lying to you, but why? Maybe she had plans with another guy that didn't work out, and now you're suddenly "in demand" again? Possibly.

But her story could be legit. Weird things do happen. I had a woman fail to call me once who later claimed she dropped her cell phone in the gutter and it quit working until she got a new one. Ever since she's been quite normal with me so I'm just concluding that her story and reason for not calling is true.

If you like this chick, seems you don't have much to lose, but keep her on a short leash if you give her another chance. Watch her carefully, especially her behavior. And remember this rule: Actions speak louder than words. Pay more attention to her actions than on what she tells you. It's very easy to get sucked into believing a convincing story, but never forget to compare what she tells you with her actions. Good luck!

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Actions do speak louder than words. Thats definately true. Basically I talked to her for a while. She apologized again and said she didnt deserve another chance. Later on we set up another date that is going to happen tomorrow. Hopefully she wont stand me up on this one. She told me she wants to hang out all day together.

Without thinking about it I did say "hey if you cant make it be sure to call me this time" I probably shouldnt have said it but it just slipped out. she was just like "Ok"

I will post an update on what happens tomorrow

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Check this Bullsh1t out.

Ok we schedule our date today and I get pretty close to her apt complex. I get a text message from her saying hey i just woke up it will only take me 30 minutes to get ready though. I sent one back saying ok. She then writes one back that says come on over if you want right now it wont take me long. I said ok again.

Literally 30 secs go by before I get to her apt gate. You have to type in a code that rings the persons cell phone so they can let you in. So I do that and guess what? No F*cking answer!! I call back on my phone a couple minutes later and no answer again. I sent a text saying are you almost ready about an hour later and got no response. Its now almost three hours later and still no word from her. Please explain the logic behind this??? I am completely lost on why she didnt just cancel instead of saying come on in I will be done in a few minutes.

 

[bacchus]

Dude, I knew after your first post that this chick was a flake. I can't believe you talked to her AGAIN after she flaked for a second time. It was obvious those stories were BS. I was laughing to myself while I followed this thread, because I KNEW that she'd stand you up a third time. I felt it in my gut.

Hate to say it.... but you might as well wear a sign on your forehead that says "I'm an AFC... Please Fvck with my head." This chick's an attention wh0re, and you're giving her all the validation she needs by falling for her games. Next time, tell the b1tch straight up "listen, you stood me up and I don't tolerate that. If you want to see me again, come over to my place tomorrow... and bring food." She'd probably have said no, but at least she'd RESPECT you as a man. She was never interested in you at all dude... not even during the first date. Those weren't real IOIs (indicators of interest). Some girls just make out with you, or even fvck you once to "hook" you, and then they thrive in the attention you give them afterwards as you chase them around like a cat chasing a mouse.

Don't waste any more time or emotional energy on this one.. and more importantly, LEARN from this.

NEXT!

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Originally posted by bacchus
Dude, I knew after your first post that this chick was a flake. I can't believe you talked to her AGAIN after she flaked for a second time. It was obvious those stories were BS. I was laughing to myself while I followed this thread, because I KNEW that she'd stand you up a third time. I felt it in my gut.

Hate to say it.... but you might as well wear a sign on your forehead that says "I'm an AFC... Please Fvck with my head." This chick's an attention wh0re, and you're giving her all the validation she needs by falling for her games. Next time, tell the b1tch straight up "listen, you stood me up and I don't tolerate that. If you want to see me again, come over to my place tomorrow... and bring food." She'd probably have said no, but at least she'd RESPECT you as a man. She was never interested in you at all dude... not even during the first date. Those weren't real IOIs (indicators of interest). Some girls just make out with you, or even fvck you once to "hook" you, and then they thrive in the attention you give them afterwards as you chase them around like a cat chasing a mouse.

Don't waste any more time or emotional energy on this one.. and more importantly, LEARN from this.

NEXT!

You know I know you are right. When I got stood up on the second date when she said her uncle had a heart attack. I started feeling in my gut that she was going to be shady. I should have followed it. Normally I when I get stood up thats it and i dont talk to the girl anymore. This one was different though because I had never ran into a shady girl that had excuses that sounded legitamate and kept saying she wants to see me and be with me. Thats what threw me off.

I definately learned from this. It was a whole new kind of shady. I think I am done with chicks for a while. I cant ever find any normal ones. I feel the effort of dealing with games and drama is not worth the rewards.

 

[Tweek_1984]

You seem to be taking the wrong attitude.

Its like in the game of soccer, my dad always used to tell me, 'let the ball do the work'.

Its the same with game - let the chicks do the work and you'll score no probs.

The dinner date sounded fine, but once you get people not answering phones and avoiding you, move on! Don't keep prodding a dead horse.

 

[OfficeSpace]

So was she better looking or worser looking in real life than her pics on myspace? just curious... I've heard that some chicks look better in their pics than in real life.. was this the case?

 

[Juan_Man]

To me, it seems like there a gender role reversal. The girl wanted sex and you (the guy) wanted a relationship. Usually, it's the other way around. The girl wanted you to put out on the first date, you didn't, and so she bounced. Unless you did something terribly AFC between the first and second date, this is the only explanation as to why this girl would show such strong interest one night only to become completely disinterested.

 

[Ricky]

I hate flakiness. This does remind me why i like to **** girls early on other than just for obvious reasons.

At least you get the goods.

I would **** with this one a bit just to teach her a lesson. Tell her she owes you big time. Tell her she has to buy you dinner, than take her home and **** her.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

I guess this one cant die. Ok three days later after she stood me up this last time she sends me this on myspace....

"Bottom line. You scare me. I mean this in the best way possible. You see, I like you, very much in fact, and that scares the hell out of me. I am off work tomorrow and I am on call Monday, but I doubt that they will need me. With that said, I want to still see you. However, I think that I might need to get over myself and bite the bullet. I know you probably hate me and are pissed, so I propose that we try this aquarium thing one last time. Third times a charm and if you hate me, never want to see me again, whatever, then I understand.

It has been a little bit since my last relationship, and I have gone on dates, but I have not liked anyone as much as you and I am terrified of getting hurt. I hope you understand and that this is the last time. After this I will not try again. I want to get to know you better. If you do not after everything that has happened, then I understand. I will let sleeping dogs lie. "


So I basically just replied with I dont appreciate you wasting my time by standing me up because my free time is valuable to me. If you really want this to work you need to set something up this time. I am done.


So then this morning she sends this back....
"Yes last relationship ended due to lying, cheating, and stuff on his part. I am open to love, and I do truely believe that you have enough heart to go around. I am not this closed off usually. Unfortuneately for you, this is a bad thing. I am with you and the only way I can explain it is because I do like you so much. I think that our first date went well also, and yes I was telling the truth. I have never been out to be made a liar, or been known as one.

I am just scared, nervous, you name it i have felt it. At this point, I agree, I need to set up a time. Yes cold feet is not something that is a common thing with me. I feel like I should say it again.

I think that I am on call alot this week. Unfortuneately, they do not need me much now that the holidays are over.

Therefore I will be calling you on one of your days off to try to set something up. I have classes online, and on Monday and Wednesday nights. Usually until 9:30 or so. So we can go either way. I say a good movie, sit and talk. Who's house, I do not care.

Well I will talk to you soon. I hope that this sounds good. Please do let me know if something does not work for you."

I figure if she wants to set something up and come to my house I really dont care if she doesnt show up at this point. No skin off my back.

 

[Legend]

Its kinda crazy she's acting like this after one date. RED FLAG.


At this point see where it goes but dont think about her to much.