FR: How i dealt with breakup and kept the girl

Trance

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Me 23, my girl 18. After we went on a 1 week trip to spain that was just awesome, a couple days latter she wanted to talk to me about our relation.
Then she told me she wasnt confortable with our relation, that she needed to think about things are realize what she really feels. That she only had one LTR, and then only 1 week boyfriends, (we're up to 4 months), and she needed space to figure things out.
I told her that if that's what she wants, she will have the breakup, i like her a lot but she better realize what she wants fast, cause i wont put up with ****.

This was on a saturday, we had this talk and after droping her home i came to my place and turned msn on. Started talking to some ppl, some girls, and i tell one i talk a lot on msn that i just broke up. She tells me "oooh you must be feeling bad right now, do you want to come over to my place?". She told me where it was, and i tought about it for a while and did go. I left my place again at 4:30 am. Found a couple of friends in the way and smoked a joint with them, then got over to her place. Her parents where home so i climbed over her bedroom window!
Once there, she closed the windows, lights were all already out, only a small window light. I sat by the bed, and so she did really close to me. I knew instantly that she wanted to kiss me by the way she was talking and getting close to me, but i kept it cool, pretended i didnt realize that. She touched me a couple times, and i did nothing, i was just needing an ego boost.
When i was going away, she asked "can i hug you?" and i said she could have asked before. I hug her and leave.

Couple days latter, i tell her im coming home by train, and she tells me she could pick me up at the station, which i agree. So she did and parked near my place, and we were there chatting for like 40m. She was all over me, and when i said i was leaving to see chelsea-bayern, and hugged me, and tryed a kiss. I didnt kiss her, she hugged me harder, and i eventually kissed her twice and left with a no big deal smile, winking at her.

Guess what, when i got back home my Ex, or my GF calls me crying, saying she saw me in the car with the other girl! She was desperate, she realized i wasnt gona sit back not even 1 week waiting for her altough i told her i like her a lot (and i do, or else i would rather be with the other girl). I told her that we should talk the next day, and so agreed.
So we met the next day, and she told me she is more than ready to be in a stable relation with me, that she cant live without me. So we got back together.
 

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if only ALL breakups or "time to figure thing out" lines end up to be truthful

but the truth about it, 90% of the time its just a cop out and a easy way to let somebody down
 

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Nicely done!

You let her know that you are a hot commodity and aren't going to wait around for anyone. Good work bro.
 

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Beside that, i made plans for 1 month, and i have birthday dinners every saturday untill may, which she is going with me cause i want being with both her and my friends.
 

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Just more proof that jealousy (the girl seeing you with another girl) is the most powerful motivator for attracting females.
 

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Nicely done.... Now make sure that she knows well that if she gives u any more of this breakup sh!t that u WONT give her another chance. Otherwise... I wish the 2 of you the best off luck man:up:


Laterz...
 

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if i was you, i'd keep seeing the other one on the side as well, this gf of yours isn't all that stable. but each to his own.

you handled yourself very well.
 

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i liked the part about the champions league the most. bad game from bayern though:down:
 

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Trance

Is this the same girl you have mentioned in past that wanted a break because her friends were talking s.hit behind your back?

So this is the second breakup drama?


Kaine
 

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Yes... but....

Originally posted by Kaine
Trance

Is this the same girl you have mentioned in past that wanted a break because her friends were talking s.hit behind your back?

So this is the second breakup drama?


Kaine
Correct.

But from further speaking to Trance about it we came to the conclusion that she in fact DOES want to be with him, but like alot of girls out there, is confused, and especially seeing as she is only 18 years old, a girl at that age tends to get confused alot, especially when it comes to a SERIOUS relationship, much like the one Trance and this girl has.

We also came to the conclusion that being 18 and being confused etc is NO excuse to be full of sh!t all the time, and that if she does something like or similar to this again in the future then Trance will swiftly tell her to take her confuseness and her bullsh!t, and find another guy that will put up with it. So in other words, he is giving her one LAST chance, which i see nothing wrong with it, given these circumstances.

Once again Trance, I hope all goes well with her, but remember, DONT let her take you for a "ride"... She gives you sh!t like this (breaking up) again, you NEXT her asap, but lets hope that she has come to her sences, for HER sake;)


Laterz...
 

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congratulations, man, u did it all right! good luck with the girl!
 

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After a couple fights we came up with a gre8 solution! We're having sex everyday, so if we have any issue, we make truces on bed the same or next day! What other best way to deal with this? So we'll be having the best time, and probably avoiding further issues (that i wont tolerate anyway).
 
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