FR: Gym chick

[Bingo-Player]

Cold approached a chick in the gym yesterday we have been checking each other out for a while she is sort of what i would usually go for brunette, petite and cute but with just enough curves to make her sexy a good 7.5

Anyway i could tell she was nervous but i settled her down we had a bit of flirty / banter and then i told her to give me her phone so i could giver her my number

As i was putting my name in she goes oh not another "J" my ex was a "J" and he was a pr1ck

I played it off and said well ive got two J's in my name so i hope you can handle it and walked off to continue training

Then like 10 mins later she approaches me again and tells me she doesn't know if her contact lens has fallen out !?!

I busted her balls and said " well what do you want me to do about it" she liked this..... i said i couldn't see it anyway

As i was finishing up in the gym i could see her on a machine with her back to me so as i was walking past i decided to go for broke

i gently tapped her on her a$$ and said "message me later"

she looked at me and smirked

( obviously i wouldnt advise normally doing this , it's an extremely high risk play that could easily go pear shaped but sometimes you've just gotta have balls and go with your gut )

Sure enough by the time i got home she had text me....... twice

I guessed interest must have been pretty high

we had some more flirty banter and i decided to shoot my shot and ask if she was free for drinks this weekend

She said she was working this weekend,

I said that sucks , but we can still be friends ( someone on here came up with this line and i think its great)

She continued flirting for a while longer and told me what had happened with her ex who had actually been cheating on her with her best freind

I exited the convo shortly after that and left her on read

I was kind of dissapointed she didn't offer a counter date as the vibe between us was definitely there , but after hearing what happened with her best freind and her ex i kind of understood she may be a little cautious after something like that happening and i did shoot my shot very quickly

So i'm not sure what to do now i don't want to get sucked into texting all the time it's not my style

maybe just wait until i see her in the gym again ? build up some more trust and rapport

If anything this field report was a good lesson for me on why you can't be super direct with every woman you meet some of them are gonna want that trust there first before committing to anything

Let me know what you guys think

 

[Barrister]

Cold approached a chick in the gym yesterday we have been checking each other out for a while she is sort of what i would usually go for brunette, petite and cute but with just enough curves to make her sexy a good 7.5

Anyway i could tell she was nervous but i settled her down we had a bit of flirty / banter and then i told her to give me her phone so i could giver her my number

As i was putting my name in she goes oh not another "J" my ex was a "J" and he was a pr1ck

I played it off and said well ive got two J's in my name so i hope you can handle it and walked off to continue training

Then like 10 mins later she approaches me again and tells me she doesn't know if her contact lens has fallen out !?!

I busted her balls and said " well what do you want me to do about it" she liked this..... i said i couldn't see it anyway

As i was finishing up in the gym i could see her on a machine with her back to me so as i was walking past i decided to go for broke

i gently tapped her on her a$$ and said "message me later"

she looked at me and smirked

( obviously i wouldnt advise normally doing this , it's an extremely high risk play that could easily go pear shaped but sometimes you've just gotta have balls and go with your gut )

Sure enough by the time i got home she had text me....... twice

I guessed interest must have been pretty high

we had some more flirty banter and i decided to shoot my shot and ask if she was free for drinks this weekend

She said she was working this weekend,

I said that sucks , but we can still be friends ( someone on here came up with this line and i think its great)

She continued flirting for a while longer and told me what had happened with her ex who had actually been cheating on her with her best freind

I exited the convo shortly after that and left her on read

I was kind of dissapointed she didn't offer a counter date as the vibe between us was definitely there , but after hearing what happened with her best freind and her ex i kind of understood she may be a little cautious after something like that happening and i did shoot my shot very quickly

So i'm not sure what to do now i don't want to get sucked into texting all the time it's not my style

maybe just wait until i see her in the gym again ? build up some more trust and rapport

If anything this field report was a good lesson for me on why you can't be super direct with every woman you meet some of them are gonna want that trust there first before committing to anything

Let me know what you guys think

Good job with your approach. Enjoyed reading it.

That said - this chick is clearly not over her ex. I think that is pretty obvious. Only use her for sex if given the opportunity. I would wait until you see her in the gym again since she offered no counter date and go for other women in the meantime.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Cold approached a chick in the gym yesterday we have been checking each other out for a while she is sort of what i would usually go for brunette, petite and cute but with just enough curves to make her sexy a good 7.5

Anyway i could tell she was nervous but i settled her down we had a bit of flirty / banter and then i told her to give me her phone so i could giver her my number

As i was putting my name in she goes oh not another "J" my ex was a "J" and he was a pr1ck

I played it off and said well ive got two J's in my name so i hope you can handle it and walked off to continue training

Then like 10 mins later she approaches me again and tells me she doesn't know if her contact lens has fallen out !?!

I busted her balls and said " well what do you want me to do about it" she liked this..... i said i couldn't see it anyway

As i was finishing up in the gym i could see her on a machine with her back to me so as i was walking past i decided to go for broke

i gently tapped her on her a$$ and said "message me later"

she looked at me and smirked

( obviously i wouldnt advise normally doing this , it's an extremely high risk play that could easily go pear shaped but sometimes you've just gotta have balls and go with your gut )

Sure enough by the time i got home she had text me....... twice

I guessed interest must have been pretty high

we had some more flirty banter and i decided to shoot my shot and ask if she was free for drinks this weekend

She said she was working this weekend,

I said that sucks , but we can still be friends ( someone on here came up with this line and i think its great)

She continued flirting for a while longer and told me what had happened with her ex who had actually been cheating on her with her best freind

I exited the convo shortly after that and left her on read

I was kind of dissapointed she didn't offer a counter date as the vibe between us was definitely there , but after hearing what happened with her best freind and her ex i kind of understood she may be a little cautious after something like that happening and i did shoot my shot very quickly

So i'm not sure what to do now i don't want to get sucked into texting all the time it's not my style

maybe just wait until i see her in the gym again ? build up some more trust and rapport

If anything this field report was a good lesson for me on why you can't be super direct with every woman you meet some of them are gonna want that trust there first before committing to anything

Let me know what you guys think

Def stay away from texting. Use it to maybe continue to banter a tad but mainly to set up that meet up. Also, a red flag bringing up her ex. I mean it was fast, usually it happens on the first date but on the approach? Clearly not over.

Anyway, one of the ways I vet women out is to passively/indirectly (with time) find out their opinions about her exes. If its all been chaos and resentment then it is likely you will eventually become that p*ick. Women that bash on their exes are sort of like damaged goods in my book.

Anyway, she knows you're interested, let her come to you and chase you if she wants it. Bottom line stop analyzing the situation and carry on.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Bingo-Player]

Good job with your approach. Enjoyed reading it.

That said - this chick is clearly not over her ex. I think that is pretty obvious. Only use her for sex if given the opportunity. I would wait until you see her in the gym again since she offered no counter date and go for other women in the meantime.

Cheers

She did say the relationship ended 2 years ago but obviously theres still damage there compounded by the fact her freind is now with this guy

women cannot cope with rejection at the best of times and i think this one is probably experiencing a whole new level of pain

I am interested in smashing her , but i don't get sucked into feels with girls anymore primarily because i know they are usually harbouring feels for ex's or other men and they can turn cold very very quickly leaving us wondering wtf happened

I always keep interactions extremely non committal emotionally anyway

As i said its a good example for others in both approach and female dynamic

 

[manfrombelow]

As i was finishing up in the gym i could see her on a machine with her back to me so as i was walking past i decided to go for broke

i gently tapped her on her a$$ and said "message me later"

she looked at me and smirked

( obviously i wouldnt advise normally doing this , it's an extremely high risk play that could easily go pear shaped but sometimes you've just gotta have balls and go with your gut )

Sure enough by the time i got home she had text me....... twice

1. Man, I felt proud reading this. In this time and age of false sexual harrasment charges and MeToos, you took a great risk, but you got rewarded nonetheless. This showed you had balls made of titanium, and you should be proud of yourself.

we had some more flirty banter and i decided to shoot my shot and ask if she was free for drinks this weekend

She said she was working this weekend,

2. It's totally ok for targets to decline our date offer. It doesn't mean the end of the courtship.

My advice: Hit her up again, better face-to-face the next time you see her at the gym. If she says no to your date offer the second time, next her. But it's highly unlikely she'll say no since her IE has been very high according to your words.

Again, best of lucks brother. Like @Barrister , I enjoyed reading your story too.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Well played my friend, the arse tap was ballsy as frak, my hat is off to you sir.

The bush is in your hand, or is it your hand in the bush (or wait there's a bird in there somewhere) - sh1t I always mess up my metaphors

If your intent is to smash and go, the job is 95% done - what does it matter if you show some slight vulnerability to get the prize? You're going to bolt anyway - so text a little and set up the crime scene, then enjoy the heist and getaway. Of course, unless this is about perfection and the process being flawless is that important to you. The truth is that no plan ever survives contact with the enemy.

Cold approached a chick in the gym yesterday we have been checking each other out for a while she is sort of what i would usually go for brunette, petite and cute but with just enough curves to make her sexy a good 7.5

Anyway i could tell she was nervous but i settled her down we had a bit of flirty / banter and then i told her to give me her phone so i could giver her my number

As i was putting my name in she goes oh not another "J" my ex was a "J" and he was a pr1ck

I played it off and said well ive got two J's in my name so i hope you can handle it and walked off to continue training

Then like 10 mins later she approaches me again and tells me she doesn't know if her contact lens has fallen out !?!

I busted her balls and said " well what do you want me to do about it" she liked this..... i said i couldn't see it anyway

As i was finishing up in the gym i could see her on a machine with her back to me so as i was walking past i decided to go for broke

i gently tapped her on her a$$ and said "message me later"

she looked at me and smirked

( obviously i wouldnt advise normally doing this , it's an extremely high risk play that could easily go pear shaped but sometimes you've just gotta have balls and go with your gut )

Sure enough by the time i got home she had text me....... twice

I guessed interest must have been pretty high

we had some more flirty banter and i decided to shoot my shot and ask if she was free for drinks this weekend

She said she was working this weekend,

I said that sucks , but we can still be friends ( someone on here came up with this line and i think its great)

She continued flirting for a while longer and told me what had happened with her ex who had actually been cheating on her with her best freind

I exited the convo shortly after that and left her on read

I was kind of dissapointed she didn't offer a counter date as the vibe between us was definitely there , but after hearing what happened with her best freind and her ex i kind of understood she may be a little cautious after something like that happening and i did shoot my shot very quickly

So i'm not sure what to do now i don't want to get sucked into texting all the time it's not my style

maybe just wait until i see her in the gym again ? build up some more trust and rapport

If anything this field report was a good lesson for me on why you can't be super direct with every woman you meet some of them are gonna want that trust there first before committing to anything

Let me know what you guys think

 

[manfrombelow]

And yes, like @Modern Man Advice said: The phone (and all kinds of chit-chat tools) is ONLY for setting up the date, not for meaningless chatting. OP, never forget it.

 

[manfrombelow]

Cheers

She did say the relationship ended 2 years ago but obviously theres still damage there compounded by the fact her freind is now with this guy

women cannot cope with rejection at the best of times and i think this one is probably experiencing a whole new level of pain

I am interested in smashing her , but i don't get sucked into feels with girls anymore primarily because i know they are usually harbouring feels for ex's or other men and they can turn cold very very quickly leaving us wondering wtf happened

I always keep interactions extremely non committal emotionally anyway

As i said its a good example for others in both approach and female dynamic

I think it's none of your business what happened between her and her ex. I would not give a fvck about how her ex cheated her and how she thinks about men in general. Not my problems anyway.

All I care is to make a date happen and give her orgasm, everything else can wait!

 

[2Rocky]

She's on read right?

"So when are we getting together if you are working this weekend?"

Do not respond until she offers options or a specific date....

 

[Dr.Suave]

No counter date? Hmmm..... Dissappear a week and then text her: "When are you free to go out?". It has worked for me

 

[Bingo-Player]

Cheers for the feedback everyone some good nuggets of feedback and advice in there

I think i will now wait for either

A) her to double message me

B) i see her in the gym ( will push the drinks topic harder then )

C) if i don't see her in the gym next week will do this

Dissappear a week and then text her: "When are you free to go out?". It has worked for me

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RE A$$ tap - like i said this is a risky ASF play but if the chick is Vibing with you and pretty chilled then there is absolutely no reason as to why she wouldn't like it

I'd imagine you also get bonus points with her for outrageous confidence and also immediately ensures she knows you will be fvcking her at some stage

Some guys i know in the gym were looking at me like " i cannot believe you just did that'

 

[Stoic]

Sounds like you did things right.

That is a bold approach. Grabbing her a$$ definitely set you apart and sexualized everything from the get go.

I always tell myself with women and life, that when choosing between options, I will choose the boldest one.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Nice, good FR. I'm glad more guys are approaching women at the gym again.

If anything this field report was a good lesson for me on why you can't be super direct with every woman you meet some of them are gonna want that trust there first before committing to anything

Agreed here, things like Gym require you to slowly build rapport and indirect. Direct works better for street or club approaches.

 

[Bingo-Player]

To update this i went to gym Monday and this evening as usual and haven't seen her

She isn't there all the time and i know she genuinely works weird hours sometimes weekends and evenings , will train again tomorrow anyway but if she ain't there tomorrow i think i'm going to have to ( sigh ) get involved in another text convo

problem is i really don't want to get dragged into a......

" HEY WYD" text convo because we all know how well women respond to them , at the same time i don't want to become a dancing monkey with some far fetched text opener

Also so far avoided adding her on IG or any other thirsty media

So guys & @BeExcellent your opinions do i

A) wait it out until i bump into her again naturally and then go for the kill

B) add her on IG and start up fresh convo on there

C) Text her some mundane crap and try to schedule a date ?

 

[EyeBRollin]

The two major mistakes:

1) Keep your paws to yourself. The arse tap was not a good idea. You are a thirsty molester when you do that.

2) When asking for a date, be specific with the date, time, and location. Being vague is unacceptable. The woman has nothing to respond to.

“What are you doing this weekend” is weak af. She could be working one day, both days, mornings, overnight, whatever. She has no idea what time you are asking for. Generally speaking stay away from asking girls out on Friday or Saturday before you have smashed them. She will notice, trust me.

For now, I’d pick up the phone and call her right now. If she doesn’t answer, shoot her a text asking her out for a specific day (Sunday thru Thursday) for a beverage at a specific time. Have a few locations in mind close to the gym since that is your only point of reference logistically. Do NOT double text after this. If she doesn’t respond in a few days go ahead and delete her number.

Let us know how this works out.

Also, don’t expect to see this girl at the gym again. You probably creeped her out with your molestation.

Men, gym girls are bad targets. If you want a fit baddie, get a second gym membership at a larger gym. Keep your main gym sacred, for working out. The other gym for bagging chicks.

 

[Suave88]

The two major mistakes:

1) Keep your paws to yourself. The arse tap was not a good idea. You are a thirsty molester when you do that.

2) When asking for a date, be specific with the date, time, and location. Being vague is unacceptable. The woman has nothing to respond to.

“What are you doing this weekend” is weak af. She could be working one day, both days, mornings, overnight, whatever. She has no idea what time you are asking for. Generally speaking stay away from asking girls out on Friday or Saturday before you have smashed them. She will notice, trust me.

For now, I’d pick up the phone and call her right now. If she doesn’t answer, shoot her a text asking her out for a specific day (Sunday thru Thursday) for a beverage at a specific time. Have a few locations in mind close to the gym since that is your only point of reference logistically. Do NOT double text after this. If she doesn’t respond in a few days go ahead and delete her number.

Let us know how this works out.

Also, don’t expect to see this girl at the gym again. You probably creeped her out with your molestation.

Men, gym girls are bad targets. If you want a fit baddie, get a second gym membership at a larger gym. Keep your main gym sacred, for working out. The other gym for bagging chicks.

I was going to point out the arse tap, but I saw so many members agreeing with......i always knew in the back of my head that it was wrong, but I assume he should know that. Anyway, I am glad some1 clarified it.

 

[Bingo-Player]

The two major mistakes:

1) Keep your paws to yourself. The arse tap was not a good idea. You are a thirsty molester when you do that.

2) When asking for a date, be specific with the date, time, and location. Being vague is unacceptable. The woman has nothing to respond to.

“What are you doing this weekend” is weak af. She could be working one day, both days, mornings, overnight, whatever. She has no idea what time you are asking for. Generally speaking stay away from asking girls out on Friday or Saturday before you have smashed them. She will notice, trust me.

For now, I’d pick up the phone and call her right now. If she doesn’t answer, shoot her a text asking her out for a specific day (Sunday thru Thursday) for a beverage at a specific time. Have a few locations in mind close to the gym since that is your only point of reference logistically. Do NOT double text after this. If she doesn’t respond in a few days go ahead and delete her number.

Let us know how this works out.

Also, don’t expect to see this girl at the gym again. You probably creeped her out with your molestation.

Men, gym girls are bad targets. If you want a fit baddie, get a second gym membership at a larger gym. Keep your main gym sacred, for working out. The other gym for bagging chicks.

I'm not sure if i agree with all of this some is way too sensational and over analysed

It's common knowledge (or at least should be by now) that if you do not push the boundaries with a woman she will quickly dismiss you to the freindzone, ive seen it happen a million times IRL and there are a million threads and stories about it online

You do not get laid "playing it safe"

I agree you don't generally want to be going around tapping random women on the ass because your gonna wind up in prison in this melodramatic "me too" society we have engineered it was a risky play

With that being said if a girl is interested in you , (and I've been with enough women to know when the signals are there ) at some stage you need to put your balls on the line and make a move whether you do this sooner or later really doesn't matter it just needs to be done end of story

I would rather be crowned a " thirsty molester" than booted into the freindzone any day of the week

With this specific girl i gained more from the move than i lost and she will remember it and hopefully it would have given her a little tingle because she was attracted to me , if she was that offended i have no doubt i would have been lambasted or had the feds at my door by now

instead she instigated by messaging me which to me confirms she probably did like it

RE - setting up a date i agree you want to be specific but i didn't ask what she was doing and there's only a certain amount of specific you can be with a woman who doesn't owe you anything

i asked if she was free to go for drinks , generally you wouldn't be going for drinks at 9 o'clock in the morning she said she was working anyway this could be a fib or it could be genuine

Anyway after mulling it over i think texting does more damage to interest than the worth of it , I'll be patient and wait till i see her again and pick it up from there

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Nice job! Bringing the ex up this soon is kinda odd though.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I was going to point out the arse tap, but I saw so many members agreeing with......i always knew in the back of my head that it was wrong, but I assume he should know that. Anyway, I am glad some1 clarified it.

The subtext of this is that you were waiting for someone else to make a move and too afraid to express your own opinion which is actually pathetic

You will never get laid with this mindset

 

[kavi]

I think with the $ss tap, she definitely knows you are hungry for her and wanna bang. Her txting and flirting with you might be her just bantering and playing games, seeing how much you want it and how you gonna chase her.

I think you did get friendzoned tbh and it was probs the tap that done it. But I dunno different girls react differently, a shy girl with less 'game' might think it hot but a more confident girl could just play you for laughs.