FR: Groupy Chick(A shyt test or what squirrles)

[iqqi]

ok. Now I am reading the responses. I might have to give squirrels a damned REP for this one.

I'd think after the "dinner" thing, I probably would've been "done".

As in for the rest of the night, I was there on my own...if she wants to be an insuffrably rude wh0re, then she can do it on her own time.

If you were enjoying the show, between sets, give her, "look, it was nice meeting you, but this isn't gonna work. I think you should go. Good night". Offer a hand as a polite gesture...I'm sure knowing nothing of manners, she won't appreciate it, but whatever......


You can do better.

Jitterbug's posts were right on too, but I guess that is one bonus of being an egotistical self absorbed jack@ss.

Seriously, Solo, you may be lacking big time in confidence.

NC has been implemented

Dude, in this case, I don't think NC is necessary. are you trying to get her back? Get over her? It's not that serious. If you want to do something nice, I'd give her a reality check. Tell her that you aren't interested, and why. Otherwise, forget NC. It's straight adios, forever.

 

[Jitterbug]

Great post, only I don't hate women as much. I would actually ask her - "Hey i don't think this is going anywhere, you see any quality girls here?"

If she says "why do you think that?"

say "Well, by your attitude, I don't want to be a d!ck but I like spending time and having fun with people who want to do the same with me.."

Then I would go and talk to other people and girls..

I hate women? Walking out on a woman with terrible date manners is not hating women. Stop the projection, buddy, and this is a men's forum, so cut that feminist shaming language out. Those things you'd say to her sound hateful, with a heavy dose of passive aggressiveness. If you need to call her out on her bad behaviours, do it like a man. However, she's a complete stranger, so there's no need for that, not to mention that someone with such poor manners wouldn't understand anyway. Just find some excuse and get out of there. Let her own hamster drive her crazy.

 

[Solomon]

Seriously, Solo, you may be lacking big time in confidence.

Dude, in this case, I don't think NC is necessary. are you trying to get her back? Get over her? It's not that serious. If you want to do something nice, I'd give her a reality check. Tell her that you aren't interested, and why. Otherwise, forget NC. It's straight adios, forever.

Not trying to get her back, last time I checked NC wasn't use to getting chicks back

You know Iggi you may be right about the confidence thing a lot has happened in the last year and right NOW I'm just trying to get my mojo back, hasn't been easy


YOU GUYS ARE RIGHT, IT SUCKS BUT TRUST I'M STILL LEARNING IF I WASN'T I WOULDNT BE HERE

THANKS FOR THE HONEST FEEDBACK GUYS

 

[Amazing]

I hate women? Walking out on a woman with terrible date manners is not hating women. Stop the projection, buddy, and this is a men's forum, so cut that feminist shaming language out. Those things you'd say to her sound hateful, with a heavy dose of passive aggressiveness. If you need to call her out on her bad behaviours, do it like a man. However, she's a complete stranger, so there's no need for that, not to mention that someone with such poor manners wouldn't understand anyway. Just find some excuse and get out of there. Let her own hamster drive her crazy.

Ah, sosuave, it's like a new insecurity every day, never fails.


Yes, yes, you.

I would've walked away on the spot and I couldn't give a flying rat's arse about some random POF chick, let alone a disrespectful groupie slvt, who may think less of me (big fvcking deal!).

Now who talks like this?


Here is the thing about loving women - either you love all or you love none. That's the rule, I didn't make it it's just the way it is. Sure some women suck but you don't let it bring down the general love - so in this case judging by your complete overreaction I can sense women might irritate you.

Good news is it is fixable, good luck

 

[Jitterbug]

Are you completely retarded or just a little bit drunk atm?

Walking away from a hugely disrespectful woman means I hate women?

Go away.

 

[Warrior74]

I have to agree with Jitter.




And this is pretty high up there on the list of idiot statements.

I love women, but I hate disrespect. Why would I hate an entire gender when I can hate people for personal reasons? it's far more satisfying that way.

This. Like and Love are two different things. I like women as a group, I love a few as individuals, and I hate few as people. Binary thinking is awesome.

 

[Amazing]

I am sorry I should have been clear, Love is a state of mind, I am talking about Loving people in general, giving Love, one ultimate Love bringing people together.. that kind of thing. There are different words for it but Love is a most recognized one.

I am not talking about being in love with a particular person, big difference.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Here is the thing about loving women - either you love all or you love none.

Absolutist tripe.

 

[glass half full]

This is the reason every guy needs a really good female friend, that he can call on to "drop in" so you two can play games on her. It will give you some fun, and a reason to go have a couple drinks afterwards and laugh it off.

People like her are not worth wasting your time on.

 

[Knight's Cross]

Solomon,
Been there. The first time I walked out on a disrespectful date was not easy. All my life I had been programmed to be respectful to people. So just up and walking out seemed like a totally foreign concept. I still hate to do it. However it is CRITICAL to your self respect. I've only pulled that option like 3 times in the past decade. Every time though as soon as I got away from the date I felt HUGELY relieved. It's easy here for SS posters to tell you to do it. However I know in my own personal life its not easy to do. I only pull it if a huge red flag appears. You had a couple from the way you described that date.
Good points by all posters:
1. Always have an escape plan on date 1.
2. Always show up with your own transportation for both people.
3. Always go in with 0 expectations (this one is not easy, but hugely valuable).
4. Have a backup date with another chick planned, or available in the next 24 hours. This gets your mind off the (hope this turns out right) mentality.

Do yourself a favor. Erase her # from your phone, and delete all messages on receipt.
KC

 

[Solomon]

Solomon,
Been there. The first time I walked out on a disrespectful date was not easy. All my life I had been programmed to be respectful to people. So just up and walking out seemed like a totally foreign concept. I still hate to do it. However it is CRITICAL to your self respect. I've only pulled that option like 3 times in the past decade. Every time though as soon as I got away from the date I felt HUGELY relieved. It's easy here for SS posters to tell you to do it. However I know in my own personal life its not easy to do. I only pull it if a huge red flag appears. You had a couple from the way you described that date.
Good points by all posters:
1. Always have an escape plan on date 1.
2. Always show up with your own transportation for both people.
3. Always go in with 0 expectations (this one is not easy, but hugely valuable).
4. Have a backup date with another chick planned, or available in the next 24 hours. This gets your mind off the (hope this turns out right) mentality.

Do yourself a favor. Erase her # from your phone, and delete all messages on receipt.
KC

Hey KC

Thank you for the advice, however if you look at the post date this happened two and half years ago, IDK why someone upped it now. After this date the girl did contact me once but I didn't respond and never heard from her again. 2011 was a ugly year for me in the game, even uglier then this year.

But you're right it's not hard walking away from dates. I've walked away from dates before or kicked someone out my house since but it's not easy. I was in another date not long ago back in August some chick I met on OKC she was bigger then her profile pic. I was so pissed I stuck it out for an hour and left it was a terrible date because I was not attracted to her what so ever. I went to rib shack got some ribs whilst she was texting me asking me to come to another venue her and her friends where at. I basically send her a pics of the ribs telling her I rather eat those then be with her and never contacted her again.:crackup:

 

[Solomon]

That's pretty ****ing rude considering she did nothing to you. Have some class, your obese yourself.

Says the Hypocrit who spends his time berating "Fugles" on POF

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2097534&postcount=12

:kick:

Hypocrite!

 

[scrouds]

Mmmmm ribs

 

[lifeislearning]

I would have said something open and honest about the texting and stories about other guys. You have to set a precedent and I think everyone deserves one warning. Too many ladies these days need to be told you won't stand for that nonsense. Something like, "I think the wireless might be better back at your place. Why don't you save the texting for when you get back there."

Unless someone can think of a better line...

 

[Zunder]

Here is the thing about loving women - either you love all or you love none. That's the rule, I didn't make it it's just the way it is.

Surely you jest?

Edit: Should have read the whole thread. I see other's let him know what an idiotic retard statement that is.

 

[glass half full]

I would have said something open and honest about the texting and stories about other guys. You have to set a precedent and I think everyone deserves one warning. Too many ladies these days need to be told you won't stand for that nonsense. Something like, "I think the wireless might be better back at your place. Why don't you save the texting for when you get back there."

Unless someone can think of a better line...

+1.

 

[lifeislearning]

Just had the opportunity to face this situation myself. Plate told me about a recent date with another guy...

Life: "Hope you enjoyed your one."
Plate: "One what?"
Life: "One story I'll listen to about a guy other than me."

This was her way of saying my date was the best she's had. Informed her she'll have to class it up if she wants another. Girls are silly