FR: Daygame in NYC 5 - new goal

Rocky_Wayne

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Today I approached about 9 sets. 2 of them turned out to be cougars from up close, but not from far away, so i didnt even put much effort into those sets. One thing I have to work on is my reaction time. I sometimes spend more than 10 seconds deciding if i should approach or not. This leads to missing many sets.
There are 2 sets that did stick out:

Set 1: A hb9.5 walking kind of fast in a very sexy outfit. I open with my usual asking for where is x place it seemed like she was going to continue walking but the way i just stuck there looking at her and my good tonality made her turn at the last second. I told her shes a got a great style and that the real reason why i stopped her was because she grabbed my attention. She was saying thanks and I as im trying to talk she gives me the bf excuse and is continuing to walk. I like this set because I have a goal of forcing conversation with a walking set, and that is exactly what i accomplished with this one and with others, but this one was the hottest. I'm going to push it further with sets like this next time.

Set 2: Girl standing by herself. I open with an indirect opener, she says she doesnt know. She seems 19 or 20 and is the shy type. I commented on her slight accent and asked her where shes from, shes from cali. She seems very uninterested and uncomfortable so i eventually bailed. I should've definetly stayed and make her leave. I should've at least given her a high five before bailing.

The more i think about my recent sets the more i believe i have to make a new goal. I started this month with the goal of getting comfortable with awkwardness, but i feel like what was awkward for me back then, like approaching, is not awkward anymore after doing it so much. I also feel like I get affected by how my sarging goes. Meaning that if it goes good today, i expect it to be good or better the next day, but if the next day sucks and i dont get any success i feel disappointed at myself. Today i feel the negative emotions since yesterday was a good day.

Because of this, my new goal is going to be to just take the action that can get me rejected. For example today as i was getting to the train station i see this very cute girl standing by herself, i didnt approach her because i was just tired and in my mind, after nothing but rejections, i assumed she would reject me also so why waste my time. This is me loosing sight of my goal of just going through the actions with caring about the outcome. Under my new goal I would've approached her by saying hi, introducing myself and shaking her hand. This is unlikely to get any results, and is likely that she wont want to talk, but my new goal says that i have to take those actions that might result in a rejection
 

thunder_god

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Props for having the balls to approach random girls. I still haven't gotten the confidence to do this yet.
 

Rocky_Wayne

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Fly by night - trying to get a high 5 from a stranger thats uncomfortable talking to you is awkward so this is why i should do it.
Thunder god - approaching requires no confidence to start just motivation. In fact one the reasons why i approach is to gain the confidence.
 
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