duke007
Master Don Juan
This is a continuation of my earlier field report about the Maltese girl. You can read all about it here:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=36618
I'd like to tell you guys about the date because although it went to plan, I think I got in over my head.... I seem to have gotten all the DJ concepts just from copious reading but have limited experience. This was only my second date, so I used all my skills and abilities learnt thus far.
I went to her house and the parents were there, they let me in and I had to wait with them for about 5 minutes. Scary! lucky they weren't crazy ethnic parents and they were very nice but still it wasn't ideal for my sake.
We went bowling, I won both games by a lot. Teased her in a playful manner whenever I got the chance. Initially I noticed with the high fives and stuff she was holding on to my hand longer than normal.
BUT, one thing disturbed me. I didn't notice at the pub, or on the way there because I am trained to look at the eyes (she is shorter than me anyway). But when she went up to bowl, I couldn't help but notice she had a fat arse! It was bizarre, like a petite, skinny normal top half and then oversized bottom half! I took a double take, I was devastated but didn't show it. Just as long as I kept looking at the top half!
So I had to fix her rating to a 6, potential for 7 if she toned that arse!
This date was motivated by the recent tip about boyishness and being unpredictable. So this is where the fun began. We played a little dare game where we took it in turns to complete a dare in the bowling alley.
I made her walk up to a family's bag of Doritos and eat some right in front of them. She did it, amazed I got a shy girl to do that! She dared me to order some Chinese food at the cafeteria (they jsut have hot dogs and junk like that), which I did without hesitation. Got a funny reaction.
Later we went for coffee and ice cream and flitted between intelligent conversation and unpredictable jokiness. I was really on top of my game and she was eating it right up.
To give one example I used this pattern (spoken with a straight face):
"There's something from my past you should know."
Then she looked serious and I kept on with it:
"I'm a reformed kleptomaniac. Sometimes it's hard to cope.....yadda yadda"
I said it convincingly so she believed me and while I was talking started putting sugar sachets in my pocket. When she noticed she was cracking up laughing and couldn't stop. I knew this pattern would be money!
About now, c0ckblocking friend from the pub SMSs asking how it's going. Damn! So I take her phone and wrote in, "I can't believe this jerk!" She thought that was funny and we sent it off.
There was a lot more of this stuff which I won't go into, but I was being a lot of fun.
Then on the drive back I used that tip where you ask her to describe her favourite colour, animal and body of water in three words. Her answers for the last one were: Puddle - small, different, wet. So I teased her about that for a while.
We get back to her house, I walk her to her door and go for the kiss close. She's not 'shy' at all! She went right for tongue from the get go and wouldn't let up. I'm taught to expect an innocent kiss after the first date, not full-on tongue action! I improvised with the situation, but still I didn't know what the hell I was doing!
. So yeah that was my first kiss ever and it was quite advanced for a beginner, not that I f*cked it up or anything. So I said I'd call her and left.
Now, for the point of this post. I don't hate large women, but her arse really was too wide for a girl of her size. She definitely wasn't genetically fat or anything, so surely that will melt away after some hard work in the gym. I tried to hint at getting her to the gym but she doesn't want to go alone. Does anybody have advice to convince a girl to lose weight for you? I know you have to tread carefully round an issue like this and I'm at loss as to what to do.
Also, probably even more importantly something concerned me. That was her intimating at up to 5 times throughout the night that we would be together in the future (ie when you get to know my parents, forgot other things but it DEFINITELY was hinting that she want's a long term relationship, which I DON"T WANT.)
It was only a date, I want to date her semi-regularly for up to two months until I consider committing. I don't want a girlfriend, she should have understanded from my personality I was that type of guy but she obviously didn't.
It seems to be something about Australia. We don't really have a 'dating culture' like in the States. I don't know anyone who dates many girls at once, and people that have hooked up became official almost right from the start. It seems like over here, a date is some sort of a commitment.
I may be over-reacting but this reality is concerning me a bit, because I'm hoping this girl doesn't consider a tongue kiss to be a LTR-starter. Aussie DJs provide any insights?
So this was my second date (total that is, first with her) and I pulled out every trick in the book. I was funny, intelligent and confident. And this obviously floored her. But I didn't realise that being a DJ was so powerful. I've underestimated my abilities and got myself way in over my head.
While this website teaches us how to attract women, it doesn't really equip us to handle its many consequences. I don't want to NEXT too early, but I'd really love some honest advice about how to handle my situation.
Cheers.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=36618
I'd like to tell you guys about the date because although it went to plan, I think I got in over my head.... I seem to have gotten all the DJ concepts just from copious reading but have limited experience. This was only my second date, so I used all my skills and abilities learnt thus far.
I went to her house and the parents were there, they let me in and I had to wait with them for about 5 minutes. Scary! lucky they weren't crazy ethnic parents and they were very nice but still it wasn't ideal for my sake.
We went bowling, I won both games by a lot. Teased her in a playful manner whenever I got the chance. Initially I noticed with the high fives and stuff she was holding on to my hand longer than normal.
BUT, one thing disturbed me. I didn't notice at the pub, or on the way there because I am trained to look at the eyes (she is shorter than me anyway). But when she went up to bowl, I couldn't help but notice she had a fat arse! It was bizarre, like a petite, skinny normal top half and then oversized bottom half! I took a double take, I was devastated but didn't show it. Just as long as I kept looking at the top half!
So I had to fix her rating to a 6, potential for 7 if she toned that arse!
This date was motivated by the recent tip about boyishness and being unpredictable. So this is where the fun began. We played a little dare game where we took it in turns to complete a dare in the bowling alley.
I made her walk up to a family's bag of Doritos and eat some right in front of them. She did it, amazed I got a shy girl to do that! She dared me to order some Chinese food at the cafeteria (they jsut have hot dogs and junk like that), which I did without hesitation. Got a funny reaction.
Later we went for coffee and ice cream and flitted between intelligent conversation and unpredictable jokiness. I was really on top of my game and she was eating it right up.
To give one example I used this pattern (spoken with a straight face):
"There's something from my past you should know."
Then she looked serious and I kept on with it:
"I'm a reformed kleptomaniac. Sometimes it's hard to cope.....yadda yadda"
I said it convincingly so she believed me and while I was talking started putting sugar sachets in my pocket. When she noticed she was cracking up laughing and couldn't stop. I knew this pattern would be money!
About now, c0ckblocking friend from the pub SMSs asking how it's going. Damn! So I take her phone and wrote in, "I can't believe this jerk!" She thought that was funny and we sent it off.
There was a lot more of this stuff which I won't go into, but I was being a lot of fun.
Then on the drive back I used that tip where you ask her to describe her favourite colour, animal and body of water in three words. Her answers for the last one were: Puddle - small, different, wet. So I teased her about that for a while.
We get back to her house, I walk her to her door and go for the kiss close. She's not 'shy' at all! She went right for tongue from the get go and wouldn't let up. I'm taught to expect an innocent kiss after the first date, not full-on tongue action! I improvised with the situation, but still I didn't know what the hell I was doing!
. So yeah that was my first kiss ever and it was quite advanced for a beginner, not that I f*cked it up or anything. So I said I'd call her and left.Now, for the point of this post. I don't hate large women, but her arse really was too wide for a girl of her size. She definitely wasn't genetically fat or anything, so surely that will melt away after some hard work in the gym. I tried to hint at getting her to the gym but she doesn't want to go alone. Does anybody have advice to convince a girl to lose weight for you? I know you have to tread carefully round an issue like this and I'm at loss as to what to do.
Also, probably even more importantly something concerned me. That was her intimating at up to 5 times throughout the night that we would be together in the future (ie when you get to know my parents, forgot other things but it DEFINITELY was hinting that she want's a long term relationship, which I DON"T WANT.)
It was only a date, I want to date her semi-regularly for up to two months until I consider committing. I don't want a girlfriend, she should have understanded from my personality I was that type of guy but she obviously didn't.
It seems to be something about Australia. We don't really have a 'dating culture' like in the States. I don't know anyone who dates many girls at once, and people that have hooked up became official almost right from the start. It seems like over here, a date is some sort of a commitment.
I may be over-reacting but this reality is concerning me a bit, because I'm hoping this girl doesn't consider a tongue kiss to be a LTR-starter. Aussie DJs provide any insights?
So this was my second date (total that is, first with her) and I pulled out every trick in the book. I was funny, intelligent and confident. And this obviously floored her. But I didn't realise that being a DJ was so powerful. I've underestimated my abilities and got myself way in over my head.
While this website teaches us how to attract women, it doesn't really equip us to handle its many consequences. I don't want to NEXT too early, but I'd really love some honest advice about how to handle my situation.
Cheers.
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