This probably ain't a big deal to most, but today I had my first true cold approach and thought I'd share...
First of all let me say that I've been reading this board for a couple years, and it's been a big help in making me more confident in general, but I never really applied it to getting girls.
There's this really cute girl I've seen on my campus every M and W, so today I grew a pair and decided to talk to her for the first time. I go into the cafeteria area and notice her sitting on some stairs on the other side of the room. She didn't notice me but I walked up to her and sat down next to her...
Me: Mind if I join you?
Her: OK.
(she seemed really annoyed that I was talking to her)
Me: My name's TJ...I've seen you around school so I thought I'd say hi...
Her: Hi...my name's Kat. You're a smoker, huh?
Me: Yeah...can you smell it?
Her: Yeah. My grandmother just died of lung cancer and smoked all through her chemotherapy. You should really quit...
Me: That's too bad...
(in my mind I'm thinking "wow, this is off to a GREAT start...")
After that we had some small talk about our classes we had that day. She asked me my major and it turned out we were both psych. majors, so we talked about that for a while. The whole time the conversation didn't flow very well...I was kind of nervous and I'm sure she picked up on that. Eventually the conversation died and I said I had to leave, and that I just wanted to see what kind of person she was (she was kind of *****y, so maybe that was a subtle jab at her) and left. The original plan was to ask for her number, but it just didn't feel right asking her after that awkward convo.
I'm kind of glad that I got the balls to talk to someone I didn't know, but honestly I thought I'd feel better than I do now. I mean, I feel kinda dissed by the whole thing. I'm sure that with more experience I'll get less nervous and less hurt when it doesn't go well, but I don't know if this was any help in getting me over my fears...
Well, I'd love to hear any comments or advice...
First of all let me say that I've been reading this board for a couple years, and it's been a big help in making me more confident in general, but I never really applied it to getting girls.
There's this really cute girl I've seen on my campus every M and W, so today I grew a pair and decided to talk to her for the first time. I go into the cafeteria area and notice her sitting on some stairs on the other side of the room. She didn't notice me but I walked up to her and sat down next to her...
Me: Mind if I join you?
Her: OK.
(she seemed really annoyed that I was talking to her)
Me: My name's TJ...I've seen you around school so I thought I'd say hi...
Her: Hi...my name's Kat. You're a smoker, huh?
Me: Yeah...can you smell it?
Her: Yeah. My grandmother just died of lung cancer and smoked all through her chemotherapy. You should really quit...
Me: That's too bad...
(in my mind I'm thinking "wow, this is off to a GREAT start...")
After that we had some small talk about our classes we had that day. She asked me my major and it turned out we were both psych. majors, so we talked about that for a while. The whole time the conversation didn't flow very well...I was kind of nervous and I'm sure she picked up on that. Eventually the conversation died and I said I had to leave, and that I just wanted to see what kind of person she was (she was kind of *****y, so maybe that was a subtle jab at her) and left. The original plan was to ask for her number, but it just didn't feel right asking her after that awkward convo.
I'm kind of glad that I got the balls to talk to someone I didn't know, but honestly I thought I'd feel better than I do now. I mean, I feel kinda dissed by the whole thing. I'm sure that with more experience I'll get less nervous and less hurt when it doesn't go well, but I don't know if this was any help in getting me over my fears...
Well, I'd love to hear any comments or advice...
