Former fvbk buddies

[Maeisgood]

Last spring semester, I had this girl that I was fvck buddies with. We used to have sex several times a week, depending on our schedules. We decided that a real relationship would probably not work out because we only knew each other for a month and lived far away from each other. This was easy because I didn't really like her until I saw her again this fall. A month into the summer she came over and it was like old times.

Now its fall semester and she's not interested anymore. She hangs out with the same people I do and its very strange. She lost interest in me and went for this other guy but it doesn't look like its working out between them. My first choice would be to resume what happened in the spring. How can I do that? I'm not being too needy because I don't call or IM her unless she does first.

 

[Weak_Game]

Act like you don't care. Pretend you almost have other plates spinning. When she sees you don't even give a rat's ass what shes doing. Hell even bull**** with her and act like that little thing between the 2 of you never happend. You will be banging her in 2 weeks.

No one here really understands the tool of silence is in our arsenal. It can be used so many diff ways all with the same outcome to drive someone back into our life.

She dosent exsist anymore, pursue other girls, she will chase you.

I don't chase them i replace them.

 

[KillaCam]

Weak_game brings up valid points.

You mentioned the word "interest" in there. There is no interest, it is physical, nothing more nothing less. Casual sex is no strings, no worrying, no thinking. What she does with other people means absolutely nothing to you.

It's a temporary thing. Move on. If she wants you, she will come after you. Either way you need to pursue other options.

 

[Maeisgood]

Thanks for the advice.

I think its strange how chemistry just randomly disappears. Any theories?

 

[PRMoon]

Hmm. I doubt it's over and I would imagine you could resume your physical relationship with this girl at anytime, if the sex was that good. Even though things may not be going well between her and the b/f, it's likely they're having sex (I mean was having sex with you an the two of you weren't even in a relationship).

I'd just stand by, don't do anything out of the ordinary, just be her basic level friend as usual with no strings and bide your time. The easier you make it for her just to be "normal" around you and your mutual friends then the more likely she'll ease back into your friends with benefits relationship.

 

[backbreaker]

all relationships end at some point in time.

"We will always have Paris"
- Humphrey Bogart

don't be so worried about what happens in the future.. just savor all the times you did tap that ass. everytime you look at her, just remember how you had her ass red for slapping her and how you liked the way her breasts moved when she was on top of you.

Then move on.

If I were you, after that, I wouldn't WANT to **** her again. I do F-buddy relationships, but on my terms... this relationship is not on your terms.. not by any stretch of the imagination.. you make it sound like she is doing you a favor by ****ing you.

I like sex, but I put my dignity first, plus there are literaly billions of women out there, i am sure a couple of them wouldnt' mind ****ing your brains out on a regular basis

 

[NewMan]

All good advice.

 

[Maeisgood]

I'm so confused by this.

Last semester, she was so into me that she wanted sex even when I was sick, coughing and hacking in her face. I have no idea what I did that worked so well and I have no idea what I did that caused her to stop. If I figure it out then it would help me with her or other girls.

I'm so frustrated by my situation because not that I'm so whipped by her, its that I always get into similar situations. Girls get really into me. I've heard that they've cried over me. Its just something about me that eventually makes them leave that I'm not getting. In the past it was because I was afraid to hook-up with them. I had no idea how to initiate it. With this last one I did, but I think the summer break interupted it. I don't know why things haven't resumed. I'm afraid that I'll screw things up with whatever girl I meet next.

 

[Hitman10000]

Think of F*ck Buddies as Dating Paris Hilton.

Would you want Paris to be the mother of your children? Can you stand her for 6 months, 12 months, 3 years??? Do you think you can talk about your inner dark secrets with someone like Paris Hilton?

 

[Maeisgood]

Hitman, you have a good point.

At the time I was involved with her, I didn't think of her as a fvck buddy. I wanted her to be my girlfriend. It was difficult to figure out what she wanted. The whole time I was waiting for her to admit that she loved me. She would say things like "Never leave me," "come make love to me," and "I just had a dream we had sex" among them. From what I've read on these forums, I learned to wait for the woman to admit it first. She was probably one of the biggest learning experiences of my life.

A couple of weeks ago, I confronted her on these things. She said after being with me, she learned that I wasn't what she was looking for. I didn't get a clear answer as to why. This is because I made a mistake. If I knew everything I should have learned, then she would have gone for me.

The mistake could have been I never made an attempt to see her over the summer. Maybe it was that I didn't have sex with her as much as she wanted. Her friend lectured me on it and it was extremely embarassing. I'm not sure what her probelm is. I was afraid that if I showed too much interest she'd lose interest. I hate the whole reverse psychology thing we have to do to get them to like us. That whole acting like you don't like them to make them like you more. And then after we were doing stuff, she would always say, "If you don't __ me, I'll find someone who will." I hate that whole brinksmanship game girls play. I've seen my friends fight with their girlfriends all of the time for the stupidest thing.

 

[Maeisgood]

I found out why she stopped liking me. Someone said she said I was "miserly and cold." I am miserly, but I'm not sure where "cold" came from.

When a woman calls a man "cold" what does that mean? A girl told me that a lot of girls call a lot of guys "cold."

 

[Hitman10000]

Here's an idea, put this gal in the backburner but look for other girls.