Foreplay/Sex Tips

[Rubato]

I know there is a section on this in the DJ Bible, but I'm looking for something a little more detailed. And I think this may be an area of weakness for this website because I don't see many threads that address issues like this. Some guys simply either don't know wtf they're doing when it comes to expressing their sexuality or are bad at it. Who cares why. And it's not an easy thing to admit or ask about either.

Now, lol, my problem isn't that I don't know what I'm doing. I'm good at getting a girl off. But I'm not asking this for the benefit of other people either, I think sexual expression is very important and something you can never be too good at.

What are some resources that give good advice or tips you guys have on how to be a better kisser, better at foreplay, give better/faster orgasms, how to turn a girl on faster and more effectively, and have better sex?

I'm leery of reading whatever I would find on some men's magazine website because of the tendency a lot of those have towards feminized bents. I don't want feminized sexuality. I want something dominant, masculine, and effective.

Thank you.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Rubato,
" I want something dominant, masculine, and effective"...seems like an oxymoron....Sorry mate you have to do it their way,slow,soft and gentle...failing that get a blow up Dolly LOL.

 

[speed dawg]

Foreplay doesn't have to involve food and loungerie. I don't do that gay crap either. I'm not going to leave rose petals in a bathtub or sip champagne. Fvck that noise.

Break out a video camera. Go parking. Go find a public place. If you feel like you have to act a certain way, it's not going to work. It has to be relaxed and fun. If a girl ever hounded me about doing a bunch of romantic stuff, I knew she wasn't the right girl for me. It should just flow naturally.

 

[Barracuda]

Take a look at this video.

3 pron stars explain the real way to go down on a chick (and if you think it's anything like what you see in pron, you're VERRRY mistaken).

The vid is an hour long and goes into a lot of detail about what your average pvssy will respond to best.

Obviously NSFW!

This will tell you most of what you sound like you need to know.

http://video.xnxx.com/video1373046/how_to_eat_*****_like_a_champ_full_video_

 

[ebracer05]

Samspade, a lot of the items in your list seem like they would be difficult to transition in to. I don't see how you can avoid being the "scary dude who breaks in her house" when you're telling her to blind fold herself or you're tying her up!

I'm not trying to read too much in to what you said, but I'd like a little bit of clarification. In my view a dominant dude does what he wants. I always just start removing a girl's clothing if we're going to have sex. There have been times I'll call her or text her and tell her to be naked when I get to her place, but I don't think I've ever told a chick to take her clothes off before. With your list, are these things you should be doing to the girl or things you should be telling her to do?

I totally agree with you about a woman getting off on the fact that she turns you on. But I think you're underemphasizing the orgasm. I don't think it's a holy grail or anything like that, but if you can please a woman sexually and still get your piece, you're going to be a more desirable lover than a guy who cannot please a woman as well.

And finally man, one thing I've never felt congruent with is talking dirty to a chick. What do you do there? Based on everything else you've said, it sounds like you'd want to make some noise or words to indicate she's getting the job done for you, and probably issue some commands to. What is your take on that?

 

[iqqi]

The best foreplay involves making a girl want it, and then making her wait for it. The more you tease her, the wetter she gets, the better it is.

You do know how to prolong the teasing and anticipation, do you not? If not just say so, and I'll give you some tips.

The best sex involves the mind.

 

[hithard]

And finally man, one thing I've never felt congruent with is talking dirty to a chick. What do you do there? Based on everything else you've said, it sounds like you'd want to make some noise or words to indicate she's getting the job done for you, and probably issue some commands to. What is your take on that?

While not really classified as dirty talk, dirty speak 101 would be telling a chick
"Damn you're so tight I'm about to pass out".
It has always worked wonders for me (Even though at times it was like throwing a sausage down the hallway) and they always start to push back and work it harder. Getting them feeling confident about their bodies opens them up to the dirty wilder side of sex. Throwing in guerrilla style tactic compliments about yourself will put it in here mind you are good at what you do.

 

[AW1983]

7. Her orgasm is not as important as you think.

To expound on #7: There is way too much written and said about the female orgasm. It's one grand shyt test.

Man I could not agree more. Just do your thing and also make a minimal/respectable effort to get her off. But mostly the former. I remember there was one girl I had a fling with for a few months a couple years ago. This girl was head over heels for me. Worshiped the ground I walked on...in that way that only younger women are able to.

Anyway, I would bang her for hours and she loved it but never climaxed as far as I could tell. At first I took it as a bit of a challenge and tried a few different things and then I was just like "fvck it" and just did my thing. She was so into me she cried the day I moved out of town and was depressed for months afterward. So sometimes a chick can be super into you and the whole nine yards, and it just ain't happening for whatever reason.

 

[ebracer05]

All right iqqi, I'd like to hear what you have to say. I think I would be more successful if I got better at the mental game. At the end of the day I'm a horny dude and have a difficult time restraining myself from the girl. Samspade said this is good and so far it's worked for me, but I can also see how building crazy anticipation is good.

Women do this all the time. What are some good ways for a man to do it back?

 

[iqqi]

Mental game comes from connection, conversation, stimulation that is not physical. Eye game comes in here. Does she think you are sexy?

As for actual sex, I recommend all men watch lesbian porn. The stuff without toys and dildos.

Also try stopping once you get a girl frenzied with your great foreplay skills. If she gets mad, and starts begging for it, then give it to her.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Here is what I know -

1. Women love being tied up
2. Women love being photographed/filmed naked
3. Women love a man who holds them down (not too much force of course)
4. Women love being told what to do
5. Women love being blindfolded
6. Women love a man who f's like an animal
7. Her orgasm is not as important as you think.

To expound on #7: There is way too much written and said about the female orgasm. It's one grand shyt test. Not saying you shouldn't help her get off. But too many men get wrapped up in it and forget about themselves.

I promise you, if you play the role of Dominant Male, tell her to take her clothes off, do this and that, etc., and nail her in a way that it's obvious she turns you on, she will be turned on. She wants you to want her. Women want to know that they make men horny.

Just remember that it's all a conceit. She doesn't really want a scary man to break into her apartment and have his way, but she wants the fantasy. The same way we all want the rush of a roller coaster without the consequence of a plane crash.

I agree with all of this once the trust factor has been set into place. Not all women are going to do this the first of second time you have sex. She has to trust that your control over her will cause her the maximum amount of pleasure.

You have to be confident in the fact that you know her body and can make it *** whenever you want it to. Confidence comes through experience and you're not going to get everything right in one session. It takes practice. Lucky for you practicing is the best part

I learned that even running your fingers around the back of her neck and arms are pretty good erogenous zones when it comes to foreplay. Doing this light touching from the back is exciting because she doesn't know where your hands are going to go next. Running your fingers lightly from the top of her neck and the base of her spine will make her hair stand up.

Try to avoid the really sensitive areas like the nipples, ass and vagina area if you're revving her up. Work around the area to the point where you can feel her body begging for those parts to be touched. Sometimes her hands will guide you in that area if she wants it bad enough. Try resisting for a few more minutes...it'll make her crazy.

Light touching in public like that, but more subtle can get her really wet too. Kissing on the neck and shoulders, moving her face up to yours with your hands to kiss. All very romantic and erotic.


I HAVE SOME REALLY OTHER FU<KING NASTY TRICKS TOO THAT'LL MAKE HER SQUIRT ALL OVER YOUR FACE IN UNDER A MINUTE!!!


PM me.

 

[marmel75]

Best thing I ever did was watch a video series called "2 girls teach sex"...

If u want to be a good doctor u go to Med school...a lawyer, law school, a teacher, teaching college.

But if you want to get good at fvcking you are just supposed to "figure it out"? Sorry, best investment of time I ever made...