zekko
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For those of you who are married, engaged, cohabitating, or just plain in a "serious" relationship:
How sexual are you with other women?
I work with a lot of people so I get to observe a lot of behavior. I'm noticing that most guys are frequently making VERY sexually suggestive remarks to the attractive women around them. And the women respond. Some of these guys are married.
I'm in a position of authority so I don't feel quite as free to be making these sexual remarks all the time, because that might open me up to a sexual harassment suit (I've seen it happen to guys before). I don't want to give my power away to some floozy. But I'm also happy in my LTR so I don't feel it's appropriate for me to be going beyond a certain point, even outside of work. It's different for guys who are actually looking to cheat.
The main thing is, you can see that these guys are creating a lot of attraction with their sexual come ons. I feel that I should be generating just as much attraction as anyone else, or more, without even trying Is this something I should be doing, just because I'm a male? Is this something you do? Has it ever caused any problems?
This is related to what brought me here in the first place. I had several married buddies who seemed to be getting a lot of female attention. I then realized they were flirting with these girls like crazy, being very openly sexualy aggressive (not around their wives of course). I realized they were seeking the attention, they had to have it. I'm just wondering if this is indication of a marital problem, or if this is just the way married guys should act?
How sexual are you with other women?
I work with a lot of people so I get to observe a lot of behavior. I'm noticing that most guys are frequently making VERY sexually suggestive remarks to the attractive women around them. And the women respond. Some of these guys are married.
I'm in a position of authority so I don't feel quite as free to be making these sexual remarks all the time, because that might open me up to a sexual harassment suit (I've seen it happen to guys before). I don't want to give my power away to some floozy. But I'm also happy in my LTR so I don't feel it's appropriate for me to be going beyond a certain point, even outside of work. It's different for guys who are actually looking to cheat.
The main thing is, you can see that these guys are creating a lot of attraction with their sexual come ons. I feel that I should be generating just as much attraction as anyone else, or more, without even trying Is this something I should be doing, just because I'm a male? Is this something you do? Has it ever caused any problems?
This is related to what brought me here in the first place. I had several married buddies who seemed to be getting a lot of female attention. I then realized they were flirting with these girls like crazy, being very openly sexualy aggressive (not around their wives of course). I realized they were seeking the attention, they had to have it. I'm just wondering if this is indication of a marital problem, or if this is just the way married guys should act?