For those in LTRs... when was the time to move in together?

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...You mentioned before failure is too costly. Which of these is more definitive of failure? Breaking your vows? Or sustaining an unhappy relationship?

If you're unsure, why get married? What will getting married offer you personally as a man that you couldn't achieve through a comitted relationship without marriage?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

That's exactly why you should give cohabitation at least a year prior to marriage.

In whose house, what happens if it doesn't work? Who leaves? Who has to start over at square one?

This is why I say do the long vacations first. At least each has mutually neutral corners to go to after the fight.

 

[ready123]

If you're unsure, why get married? What will getting married offer you personally as a man that you couldn't achieve through a comitted relationship without marriage?

that's a good point. never thought of it like that

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

that's a good point. never thought of it like that

Read this thread.

A Misconception about Marriage

 

[ready123]

Read this thread.

A Misconception about Marriage

thanks brotha

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I made a big mistake a few years ago and let my girlfriend move in. I didn't even ask her to live with me. She just gradually kept bringing more and more of her stuff to my place and before I could think she was living with me. That was a big mistake and it took forever to get rid of her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... I didn't even ask her to live with me. She just gradually kept bringing more and more of her stuff to my place and before I could think she was living with me. ....

:cuss: I hate it when that sh1t happens! Get up on a Monday morning, brush your teeth and notice right before the spit that you are brushing your teeth with someone else's toothbrush then you shoot Crest Wintergreen out your nose! :cuss: And don't get me started when another woman finds someone else's toothbrush and you have to make up a excuse...

"What? A pink toothbrush? Ohhh...Uhhh yeah, that's mine... I had run out of toothbrushes and I went to the store, right; and all they had were toothbrushes in those two-packs, right; but the only kind that they had left was the one with a pink and a blue one, right; so I had to but that one because I hadn't brushed my teeth in about a week, right; so since I am a man I used the blue one first, right; but somehow I misplaced that one, right; so I had to start using the pink one, right; but I didn't want to use it because I'm a man, right; plus I wanted to save that one for you, right; but I couldn't because I know that you like fresh breath, right; so that's why there's a pink toothbrush..."

"Huh? There's a green one on the sink too? Ummm, That's the one I use for the dog.

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Oh come on, don't tell me I'm the only one who's had to use that excuse...