For the ladies in the house

[Player_Supreme]

I got this idea from reading Watertigers post under Lying (lieing thread). She said she was talking to a "cool" guy.

So Ladies if you could describe a "cool" guy to us fellas. List your criteria and description of what turns you on:

 

[iqqi]

what i want in a man period

here is something i posted under another thread:
"
in general, i want a man of principle, a man of morals, a man who is strong enough to have those qualities and still be able to have an open mind. honesty, morality, loyalty, intellect, as well as other qualities, would all follow suit under those 3 things.

a man with humor is very important. times are tough these days, i don't want a man who is too sensitive, i want a man who can laugh about things and see the humor in bad situations, or sensitive situations.

and a good heart. by this i mean a man who is not cruel. a man who does not demean others just to give himself meaning. i have never liked men who make fun of and ostricize others. but then again, this is representative of a strong man."

 

[iqqi]

what makes a guy cool

1. sense of humor
2. sense of self
3. easy going (calm, cool, collected)
4. valuable (if ya know what i mean ya know what i mean)
5. if he's really cool, then he'll be a little "off" ha ha. what i mean by that is sometimes you will think he is the most intelligent, sane person in the world, then other times you will realize he is a fcuking wacko, and doesn't give a shiat.

 

[00Kevin]

Re: what i want in a man period

Originally posted by iqqi
here is something i posted under another thread:
"
in general, i want a man of principle, a man of morals, a man who is strong enough to have those qualities and still be able to have an open mind. honesty, morality, loyalty, intellect, as well as other qualities, would all follow suit under those 3 things.

a man with humor is very important. times are tough these days, i don't want a man who is too sensitive, i want a man who can laugh about things and see the humor in bad situations, or sensitive situations.

and a good heart. by this i mean a man who is not cruel. a man who does not demean others just to give himself meaning. i have never liked men who make fun of and ostricize others. but then again, this is representative of a strong man."

where art thou iqqi?

NO girl i know has ever said this. NO girl even understands this. Good for you.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

How come I never hear women say mental stability?

 

[WestCoaster]

Admire what she said, not sure I believe it

No offense, but I've heard this stuff 100 zillion times and the first guy a woman gravitates to is the jerk. It's all over this board and in these forums. Jerks make them laugh (for two weeks, then the schtick wears off), are sexy (for two weeks, then they're boring), etc.

Loyalty, commitment, character ... liked hearing it, just don't believe it, unfortunately. I've tried to hang my hat on a lot of those qualities and still do. I don't have a problem getting dates, but LTRs and deep commitments often elude me because even the brightest, most intelligent women I know still gravitate toward the biggest a-holes on this planet and seriously aren't into the qualities that you posted, even if they say they are.

Thus, this site, which has enabled me to keep my qualities, but also learn C & F, staying cool and collected, and believing in oneself even if the women are acting weird or not around.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Re: Admire what she said, not sure I believe it

Originally posted by WestCoaster
No offense, but I've heard this stuff 100 zillion times and the first guy a woman gravitates to is the jerk. It's all over this board and in these forums. Jerks make them laugh (for two weeks, then the schtick wears off), are sexy (for two weeks, then they're boring), etc.

Loyalty, commitment, character ... liked hearing it, just don't believe it, unfortunately. I've tried to hang my hat on a lot of those qualities and still do. I don't have a problem getting dates, but LTRs and deep commitments often elude me because even the brightest, most intelligent women I know still gravitate toward the biggest a-holes on this planet and seriously aren't into the qualities that you posted, even if they say they are.

Thus, this site, which has enabled me to keep my qualities, but also learn C & F, staying cool and collected, and believing in oneself even if the women are acting weird or not around.

Because those are the things a woman suppose to say in the man they want.

But my question still stands about wanting someone mentally stable.

Huh Ladies?

 

[Starman]

"1. sense of humor
2. sense of self
3. easy going (calm, cool, collected)
4. valuable (if ya know what i mean ya know what i mean)
5. if he's really cool, then he'll be a little "off" ha ha. what i mean by that is sometimes you will think he is the most intelligent, sane person in the world, then other times you will realize he is a fcuking wacko, and doesn't give a shiat."


Iqqi please stop describing me.

Ya gotta be cautious about what women say they want on this forum..

if you have heard of "groupthink" where people say what you want them to, so that they are part of a group (DJ)

and iqqi's description fits the bill of the DJ philosophy

I dont think women necessarily want the "jerk"


but they want a MAN..who wouldnt think twice about leaving them..if they ever get disrespected

A Man who both by his looks/sexuality/characteristics..has NO PROBLEM getting other women..

EYe Candy..How many men do you meet that ARENT mentally stable?? sure there are some..but thats a woman thing

 

[Player_Supreme]

Re: what makes a guy cool

Originally posted by iqqi
1. sense of humor
2. sense of self
3. easy going (calm, cool, collected)
4. valuable (if ya know what i mean ya know what i mean)
5. if he's really cool, then he'll be a little "off" ha ha. what i mean by that is sometimes you will think he is the most intelligent, sane person in the world, then other times you will realize he is a fcuking wacko, and doesn't give a shiat.

What counts as a sense of humor to you iggy? and what do you mean by sense of self...expand on this a little.

 

[Wild at heart]

Player, its straight forward.

A guy who can make her laugh, and a Guy who knows where his d*ck is.

LOL

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Not really anything new to add...

Basically, the girls on this site know what they are talking about... they are cool chicks it seems... Sad but true... a lot of girls I know their lists would read like this:
*Good looking
*Nice body
*Nice car
*Lots of money
*Buys me things
*Calls me every day
*Kisses my ass

Now my list would read more like what iqqi said... (Of course, this was if I was actually looking for a relationship with a man... which I'm not ).

* Funny For me, sense of humor is absolutely #1... if you can't make me laugh then you aren't worth my time. I know that sounds b*tchy as hell, but that is a priority for me.
* Reliability That doesn't mean I would take him for granted... What I mean is this: I don't need a guy to call me a hundred times a day or to see me every day BUT... if you SAY you're going to call me, you better do it. If you make plans, you better show up. That is my #1 pet peeve, from men AND women.
* Intelligent ... note, I didn't say "educated"... There a lot of people out there with degrees that you can't hold a conversation with and then there are people who may not have a huge "knowledge" but they can still understand what you're talking about and hold a conversation. (I mean I could never be with someone totally ignorant... but that's different.)
* Creative This doesn't necessarily mean artistic (although I have had a thing for artists, musicians, performers, and writers in the past )
* Independent/Care-free What I mean by that is that he doesn't follow his friends (or me) around like a sheep. He isn't obsessed with what people think of him. He's easy-going, care free... Doesn't stress about BS.
* Similar Interests/Beliefs/Morals Like I said above, independence is important... I don't want him agreeing with me blindly... And we should have SOME things we disagree on, but if we disagree on too many things then we'll be debating/fighting all the time.
* Attractive/Sexy Now this doesn't mean he has to be society's version of "good looking"... Anyone who says looks aren't at all important is lying, but looks aren't EVERYTHING. To me a guy needs to have SOMETHING about him that I find attractive, but in all honesty I like a guy with a "flaw" or two much more than some "perfect" looking guy. And "Sexy" isn't really about looks so much as it is about attitude and for lack of a better word "aura" (I CAN'T believe I used the word "aura" ... let the flames begin!)
* Sexual Not to be confused with "sexy"... I am a very sexual and sensual person and I enjoy sex and I expect any man who is with me to feel the same and to be sexually compatible with me.
* Honest Don't lie to me, don't cheat on me, don't play me for a fool. Or I'll kick your ass.
* Respectful Have respect for me... that doesn't mean you have to treat me like a queen or anything like that. Just treat me like a human being, like an equal. (I'm not one of those chicks that goes for bull**** "chivalry"... if you want to open the door for me or pay for my dinner, that's cool, but do it because you're a nice person, not because I'm a weak, inferior, female I don't want to be with someone who only shows respect for ME.)
* Has direction I don't need a guy with money, or a great job or anything... I'm not shallow and I'm not a gold-digger. But if a guy is unemployed and doesn't even try to find work, then that's unacceptable. You should be doing something with your life. (And preferably you should enjoy it). I'd equally date a rich lawyer or a poor garbage man or a struggling artist or whatever... It's about responsibility, not about money.
* Gets a long with my child I'm not looking for a new daddy... already got one of those... I don't introduce new guys I date, but if someone is going to be in a LTR with me, they better at least get along with my child somewhat or they aren't someone I can see in our lives.

Now THAT to me is a guy who is cool. I'm not sure what society's definition of "cool" is exactly, but I'm sure that most of the "cool" guys aren't so cool in my book.

 

[bugsquish]

Re: Not really anything new to add...

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Of course, this was if I was actually looking for a relationship with a man... which I'm not

So long as they are

*Good looking
*Nice body
*Nice car
*Lots of money
*Buys me things
*Calls me every day
*Kisses my ass

they'll do for now, right Bubu? Sounds like u described my ideal girl!

 

[Player_Supreme]

Re: Not really anything new to add...

excellent answers Malibu. I appreciate your contribution.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

I'd be interested in what traits women of different age groups want in men. For example, what do girls ages 18-22 look for? How about 23-28? 29+? 35+? 40+?

 

[MR_PERFECT]

$20 says Sexy_Malibu is ugly. Good-looking women don't talk like this.

Why do all women need guys that "make them laugh", like we are only there for their entertainment?

 

[Click Here]

I'll tell you what cool is.

Cool is the guy whose got on the tight black Tee and is lighting up a cigarette.

Cool is the guy with a stubble beard and perfect hair even when he takes his helmet off (cool guys all ride motorcycles)

Cool is the guy who doesn't talk much, women dwell on his every word and even laugh at things he says that would not be so funny if he werent so cool.

Cool is the guy who doesnt give a ****, but looks in windows from time to time to make sure his hair still looks like its from a movie.

He goes into bars, sits down, doesnt really look around and women still come and talk to him. He seems like he's never to excited about anything, but hes not really "depressed".

This guy can and probably IS ****ing your gf.

Thats what girls really think is cool, dont listen to there honesty pincipal moral bull****.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

*music stops*

Click Here,

I'm going to assume you're joking

 

[Thoroughbred]

Oh **** I gotta go get a motorcycle now sine I wanna be cool

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by Click Here
I'll tell you what cool is.

Cool is the guy whose got on the tight black Tee and is lighting up a cigarette.

Cool is the guy with a stubble beard and perfect hair even when he takes his helmet off (cool guys all ride motorcycles)

Cool is the guy who doesn't talk much, women dwell on his every word and even laugh at things he says that would not be so funny if he werent so cool.

Cool is the guy who doesnt give a ****, but looks in windows from time to time to make sure his hair still looks like its from a movie.

He goes into bars, sits down, doesnt really look around and women still come and talk to him. He seems like he's never to excited about anything, but hes not really "depressed".

This guy can and probably IS ****ing your gf.

Thats what girls really think is cool, dont listen to there honesty pincipal moral bull****.

LOL!!!!


This certainly is one type of cool. The silent bad boy.. there's no doubt about that. But there are different kinds of cool. I'm too lazy to elaborate, maybe someone else can take off somewhere with that.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Being "funny" and being "cool" are the two most important things to a woman.

Why, because chicks know they basically have two different personalities:

- the I'm have fun, laughing, this is exciting side (so you better entertain me and make laugh loser); and,

- the I'm going to be a b1tch now side (so you'd better be cool enough to take it up the as4 while I'm doing it loser.)

It's all very logical isn't it. (Or is that emotional rather than logical.)