Engineers are a unique case when it comes to women. No other college course produces so many socially deficient guys
If you think about it, two equally nerdy guys can enter college and do say computer engineering and commerce. The commerce guy's social group is likely to mainly consist of well adjusted guys and girls. Gradually, he too will learn common social skills and get better at the whole dating thing.
The enginneer however can quite easily have a social group consisting of shy guys and little women. The guy now has little impetus to change as he can delude himself into thinking everything is fine as the others in his social group are the same. Some guys do develop social skills eventually. Some like myself finish college and wonder what all the talk about easy hookups was about
So what to do about it now. The main benefit of engineering courses is that you're quite likely to obtain a decent paying job. Use it! A lot of this site's advice admonishes the idea of spending more on the girl than she spends on you. That idea though is only valid if you have experience. If you're a 23 yo with very limited sexual experience, its unlikely that you're great in bed. Nothing wrong with that, experience improves performance.
So how do you keep a girl around if you're competing with better sociallly, sexually experienced guys for girls. Spend money on her. I'm not talking lavish amounts but generally pick up the tab for say lunch. The biggest obstacle for the late bloomer is getting that first serious relationship (> 2 months) Use your money to help keep her around. Getting some experience is critical, how you get it is irrelevant.
If you think about it, two equally nerdy guys can enter college and do say computer engineering and commerce. The commerce guy's social group is likely to mainly consist of well adjusted guys and girls. Gradually, he too will learn common social skills and get better at the whole dating thing.
The enginneer however can quite easily have a social group consisting of shy guys and little women. The guy now has little impetus to change as he can delude himself into thinking everything is fine as the others in his social group are the same. Some guys do develop social skills eventually. Some like myself finish college and wonder what all the talk about easy hookups was about
So what to do about it now. The main benefit of engineering courses is that you're quite likely to obtain a decent paying job. Use it! A lot of this site's advice admonishes the idea of spending more on the girl than she spends on you. That idea though is only valid if you have experience. If you're a 23 yo with very limited sexual experience, its unlikely that you're great in bed. Nothing wrong with that, experience improves performance.
So how do you keep a girl around if you're competing with better sociallly, sexually experienced guys for girls. Spend money on her. I'm not talking lavish amounts but generally pick up the tab for say lunch. The biggest obstacle for the late bloomer is getting that first serious relationship (> 2 months) Use your money to help keep her around. Getting some experience is critical, how you get it is irrelevant.