Your GF/FB/ETC will do whatever she wants to do. They may tell the truth about what they do, they may lie about what they do, they may lie some and tell the truth some, they may twist the truth, etc. Whatever the case may be, you have NO control over what she does unless you kill her.
So worrying about it, feeling bad about it, thinking about it, whining about it, feeling helpless about it, questioning her about it, snooping trying to find out stuff about it, reasoning about it, lying to yourself about it etc will all take you to a dead end.
It’s also a waste of energy, time, and life.. Logically there WAY to many females on the earth for us to even get close to the point of doing what I mentioned above.
But it’s understood that it’s a hard thing to just brush off and NOT stress about because were under the command of many different chemicals that have a biologically sound reason for doing what there doing.
If it wasn’t for one factor then we’d be completely screwed. This factor is we have control over one thing, and that is OURSELF.
Having control over ourselves means that were in our current relationship by CHOICE. It also means we have the power to look through the chemicals and either sit and stress over something that is out of our control, or do activities like talking/hanging out with friends, meeting new people, approaching new girls, spending time with family, working towards academic/career excellence, hobbies, overcoming fears etc. Doing these thing will actually benefit ourselves
When you catch yourself worrying about what your gf/fb/etc is doing repeat this to yourself
“I have no control over what she does, but I do have control over myself and my energy will be better spent doing X”
Then DO X immediately. Try this for 21 days.
(X is something on the lines of what I wrote above)
So worrying about it, feeling bad about it, thinking about it, whining about it, feeling helpless about it, questioning her about it, snooping trying to find out stuff about it, reasoning about it, lying to yourself about it etc will all take you to a dead end.
It’s also a waste of energy, time, and life.. Logically there WAY to many females on the earth for us to even get close to the point of doing what I mentioned above.
But it’s understood that it’s a hard thing to just brush off and NOT stress about because were under the command of many different chemicals that have a biologically sound reason for doing what there doing.
If it wasn’t for one factor then we’d be completely screwed. This factor is we have control over one thing, and that is OURSELF.
Having control over ourselves means that were in our current relationship by CHOICE. It also means we have the power to look through the chemicals and either sit and stress over something that is out of our control, or do activities like talking/hanging out with friends, meeting new people, approaching new girls, spending time with family, working towards academic/career excellence, hobbies, overcoming fears etc. Doing these thing will actually benefit ourselves
When you catch yourself worrying about what your gf/fb/etc is doing repeat this to yourself
“I have no control over what she does, but I do have control over myself and my energy will be better spent doing X”
Then DO X immediately. Try this for 21 days.
(X is something on the lines of what I wrote above)
