For every guy who worries about competition from other guys, READ THIS.

[disciple]

I was just looking through different posts on the DJ Forum and I saw a post from someone that said he felt inferior because he looks at other guys who are taller or have muscles, etc., etc.

Instead of just replying to his post, I decided to post my reply here in the tips section because I know there are other guys who feel this way and in this way more guys can be helped.

So here is my reply.

My attitude about competition is this:

There is NO ONE to compete against except yourself.

There is only one of YOU in this entire world just as unique as a fingerprint or a snowflake.

No one else in this world can compete with you in terms of being YOU.

Once you come to appreciate and develop your own strengths and minimize your supposed flaws or shortcomings, you realize that you truly are a unique package.

Just have the mentality that you are different from the other guys around you, not in a bad way but rather in a good way.

You are the only raspberry ice cream in a store full of vanilla ice cream.

Or the only luxury car parked on a street full of sportscars.

Just find your own sense of style and your own uniqueness and use that to stand out and show some confidence in what you have to offer and other people will see you as having great value because there is no one else quite like you.

That especially goes for hot chicks.

They are tired of the same guys talking the same sh*t, dressing the same, using the same corny ass lines, trying to impress them with their money, cars, looks, etc.

Women are generally bored by most men they encounter.

That's why they go nuts over a guy who is really different from the rest.

Instead of comparing yourself to the other guys you see and wish you were more like them, learn to be unique and when the women take notice of you, you'll start to see those same guys you envy start to envy you and wonder what is it that YOU HAVE that don't have.

Ya feel me?

Why not give all those bored ladies a refreshing taste of something new, like you.

Go find some girls who are used to drinking Coke (all the other guys) and offer them a nice, cold, refreshing Sprite (you).

I'm sure you'll find plenty of them that will appreciate you and literally bend over just to show you how much (I make myself laugh sometimes).

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

if i know the girl likes him then i see him as competion. But if i just see a guy at a disco or somthing i never think hes competion (cos maybe hes gay )

 

[disciple]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk

if i know the girl likes him then i see him as competion. But if i just see a guy at a disco or somthing i never think hes competion (cos maybe hes gay )

Even if I know that the girl likes some other guy (assuming it's not a friend of mine), she is still on the market.

The thing about girls is that they will often settle for the best they think they can get at that time.

Maybe this other guy seems like the best offer at the moment.

But wait, she hasn't gotten a taste of me yet.

Now ultimately she will choose who she wants to f*ck with but never count yourself out without having given her a chance to experience your charm and charisma first.

If she chooses him, then according to the pimp's code, you bow out gracefully and keep it moving and go one to the next one.

There will be others who will appreciate what you have to offer.

One person's garbage is another person's gold.

 

[dice]

good post, i gota question tho, what about when you display ur uniqueness and other males ur with feel that you're trying to "beat" them so they start taking shots at you (happens alot on dating shows), should a DJ keep his focus on the girl by ignoring the a**hole(s), or just say F it and use this as a chance to use ur DJ wit and power and verbally humiliate him in front of the girl so he knows not to mess with u again

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

im not woried or intimiadated if she likes some one else but i do except the fact there is competion in that case.

 

[disciple]

Originally posted by dice

good post, i gota question tho, what about when you display ur uniqueness and other males ur with feel that you're trying to "beat" them so they start taking shots at you (happens alot on dating shows), should a DJ keep his focus on the girl by ignoring the a**hole(s), or just say F it and use this as a chance to use ur DJ wit and power and verbally humiliate him in front of the girl so he knows not to mess with u again

Don't get caught up going tit for tat with losers.

As a true DJ, you are on a higher level than they are and you don't want to waste valuable mackin time f*cking with idiots.

They are only jealous bums who are trying to f*ck up your game because they probably have no real game except talking alot of sh*t and trying to impress or buy a b*tch.

NEVER lose your focus on the task at hand which is to bed that beauty.

If another guy says or does something to make you look stupid in front of a girl, DO NOT lose your cool or act weak.

Remain calm, cool, and composed and have a smile on your face like your saying, "Its a shame what desperate losers have to do just to try to keep all of us real men from getting the p*ssy".

Remember, a woman is ALWAYS watching you to see how you handle yourself in different situations.

Handle it like a man and she'll respect you as one and see the other guy as an a$$hole, which is what he is anyway.

Then put your attention back to her and try to isolate her and get her alone with you and away from the scavengers.

 

[jiza101]

Nice post man.. But i have a problem with being unique, i'm not exactly sure what makes me unique, do i need to find more about myself or something.. I know all my mates pretty well and to me they are all the same, when i do unique things they shoot me down, i just laugh. So what steps do i have to take to find this uniqness the girls see, and that im comfortable with.

 

[Mitza]

I was just looking through different posts on the DJ Forum and I saw a post from someone that said he felt inferior because he looks at other guys who are taller or have muscles, etc., etc.

Instead of just replying to his post, I decided to post my reply here in the tips section because I know there are other guys who feel this way and in this way more guys can be helped.

So here is my reply.

I was the person who open that topic.Nice ideas, i like that, i take some notes, and i'll use them.

Thx !

 

[Luscious]

A very, very good post.

 

[disciple]

Originally posted by jiza101

Nice post man.. But i have a problem with being unique, i'm not exactly sure what makes me unique, do i need to find more about myself or something.. I know all my mates pretty well and to me they are all the same, when i do unique things they shoot me down, i just laugh. So what steps do i have to take to find this uniqness the girls see, and that im comfortable with.

I'll give you some quick tips on finding your own uniqueness.

The first thing you need to focus on is OBSERVATION.

Not so much observing yourself as observing the other guys around you.

It doesn't really matter where you are---work, school, the street, out shopping, etc., it really doesn't matter.

Just start observing the other men around you and notice how they talk, how they carry themselves, how they dress, how they talk to women, etc., and you will begin to see alot of patterns emerging.

You'll notice that certain behaviors, styles, ways of talking and thinking, are pretty common with most of the guys around you.

Keep in mind that these are the same guys that women get approached by or date about 99% of the time.

So how do you make yourself unique?

Simple.

DON'T DO THE THINGS YOU SEE GUYS COMMONLY DOING, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN.

It is a fact of human nature that most human beings are conformists.

They basically conform to whatever everybody else is doing around them.

Who are the people who stand out and get noticed in life?

The people who are NOT like everybody else.

So NEVER be afraid to go against the grain and walk your own path.

There are two types of uniqueness though.

There is COOL UNIQUE and WEIRD UNIQUE.

When Michael Jackson was younger (back in the Thriller days), he was considered cool and unique because of his talent and now is still considered unique but now it's for being one of the weirdest dudes on the planet.

Now you may not be able to sing, write songs, or dance like Michael Jackson and you don't have to.

The key is to be both unique and cool at the same time.

First off, what is being cool or what is considered cool?

My definition of being cool is a person who expresses their personality, has certain values or beliefs that they live by, and really doesn't care who likes it or not.

We speak of a person like this as being "cool" or "real" because even if they express the negative side of their personality sometimes, you are still in touch with something real, and nobody likes a phony.

Think of people that you consider to be cool.

It could be a friend or a celebrity.

Now think about what it is about their personality that makes them so cool to you.

For example, I respect George Clooney because he is a top level actor in Hollywood, has tons of chicks chasing him, yet is still a man's man and from all accounts, the kind of guy who would watch a game and drink a beer with you and the fellas.

Or a Russell Crowe, who is another man's man and who reputedly would get more upset if one of his animals croaked than if a chick left him.

As you look at the personality traits of those you look at as cool, add whichever ones that you like to your own personality.

Just make sure that you don't add something negative or self-destructive.

None of us, famous or not, is perfect and we all have our positives and negatives.

Absorb the positive and reject the negative.

Also, while it is good and useful to emulate the positive or useful traits of great men, it does not mean to become anyone's clone either.

We all have our own personality and it is unique by itself.

The problem is that most of us don't fully express the real us because we are too busy trying to be like everybody around us.

Well guess what, everybody around you is trying to be like everybody else around them too so you see how there are few true leaders and innovators in this world.

So to summarize my points:

1) Don't conform

2) Be bold and original

3) Emulate the positive or useful traits of people whom you think of as cool or that you respect.

4) Learn to express your own personality and don't worry about what other people think.

I think about wraps it up so get out there and put this stuff to work for you.

 

[comic_relief]

good post

I just realized that part of my old game that I seemed to have lost was that I was a writer and could put in anyone to my stories. Usually women would ask me to and I did and make them laugh at it.

I'm guessing that you are talking about that, be bold, creative, and most certainly don't conform to other people.

 

[jiza101]

All my friends ALWAYS quote movies and tv shows, and bag eatchother... So that means i wouldnt quote movies and not bag people which i dont, so i can be a little uniqueness there, but with other things like not doing what they do, i guess it just takes time, cause i need to find hobbies and im not sure where to look. Any ideas ?? I try to be unique aswell and my mates just make fun of me, they say im dirty and ****, yet they say more dirty **** than me. I just want respect, but they wont let go of the rep they have on me.
Ive realised i actually am different to most my mates, and sometimes they turn against me for that, but chicks dont notice it and still go for my mates who try to act cool and just bag eatchother.. Im lost Then again i dont go out partying heaps since im not 18 and the only chicks that my mates hang with are school friends not chicks they have never met before which might notice me. Whenever i try to be alpha in my mates group i usually get shot down. Any ideas

 

[Double]

work out.