For EVERY guy under 25 (hell, every guy) who has watched PORN

[ka_mate]

In the age we live in, most guys have looked at porn both intentionally and accidentally on the internet.

Religion with its traditional views has always opposed it but it has been easy for us to ignore their views as they are also against the use of condoms.

I use to look at porn occassionally, well more than I liked to anyway and one day when I was watching hardcore pornography (full on sex scene) and I wasn't even at all aroused I realised that there was a problem.

Whether or not you think your porn usage is harmful check this site out and watch some of the videos on how porn rewires your brain and how young men (17-25) have developed erection problems and can't get aroused by having sex with a woman.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

I'd always felt guilty about watching porn and after looking at this site I am currently over 100 days porn free and have no intention of stopping. More importantly, I FOUND THAT GIVING UP PORN HAS IMPROVED MY SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.

I think that after 40 days of no porn and also I gave up masturbation my brain realised that 'hey! I'm not getting an orgasm unless a girl gives it to me' and this change of mindset gave me increased confidence and a desire to be with women. I no longer feel ashamed of my sexuality which makes me a more sexual person (I'm sure you know the benefits of this).

When you look at porn you can rationalise not talking to that girl at the party or bar because you tell yourself 'oh well I'll still get to have an orgasm tonight watching porn so it doesn't really matter whether I talk to her or not'. Don't make approaching girls harder than it needs to be

Thanks for reading

 

[TheMale]

I'd always felt guilty about watching porn

that's the way i feel too !!
i thought i was the only one

anyway thx for sharing !

 

[ka_mate]

Thanks mate,

An interesting idea that is argued on the link is that when you feel 1. Guilty about looking at porn and 2. Nervous about being caught your body responds to how it usually does in 'dangerous' states of high emotion and releases an increased amount of adrenaline into your body.

Remember the first time you clicked past that "You must be over 18 to view this video, are you over 18?" page when you were younger and how you felt apprehensive about whether somehow you would get caught.

Having an increased level of adrenaline heightens the release of dopamine (a hormone in the brain which makes you feel good, released during orgasm and looking at porn) which in turn rewires your brain crave the sensations of adrenaline and dopamine again (which is why people look at porn again).

Basically, over time the amount of dopamine released by the brain decreases. Suddenly, the bikini pictures are as exciting for you and you go looking for more hardcore, new, explicit material. By constantly seeking 'novelty' men become desensitised to sexual stimulus and explains the amount of very, very hardcore and often disgusting porn on the internet. Once normal sex becomes 'vanilla and boring' people go looking for other videos such as anal, domination, transexual so that they get their fill of 'novelty' and to increase the dopamine release in their brains.

 

[sighsigh]

I'm curious, what kind of porn do you guys masterbate to?

I personally almost always just jack off to static pictures of women in bikinis (think Swimsuit Illustrated level stuff). Sometimes I just jack off to a girl's face (if she's really cute looking). I find I alternate between face and body. If I jack off to a naked woman, it has to be a really nice, pleasant looking picture.

I find the 'hardcore' stuff absolutely disgusting. Like, say you just simply type in 'porn' into google and click on the resulting links. The stuff there doesn't seem to turn me on at all. It's just so vulgar. But that stuff seems to cover the internet... is this what most guys jack off to?

 

[ka_mate]

sighsigh a few questions

how long have you been looking at porn?
how old are you?

I know what you are saying I remember the first time I accidentally downloaded a BJ video and was absolutely disgusted (I was only 12-13) and I remember vowing to never look at porn again. However since then I would have looked at porn 200+ times. The escalation is scary. You don't understand how scary it is to be watching both the stuff you are talking about and 'hardcore' porn at age 17 and not having any sort of erection.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Stare into the abyss long enough and eventually the abyss will stare back at you.

 

[f283000]

I personally almost always just jack off to static pictures of women in bikinis (think Swimsuit Illustrated level stuff). Sometimes I just jack off to a girl's face (if she's really cute looking). I find I alternate between face and body. If I jack off to a naked woman, it has to be a really nice, pleasant looking picture.

According to ancient sex knowledge every time you ejaculate you are losing your life force. Of course we know from modern science that you lose a lot of zinc every time you ejaculate (check the link in my signature about masturbation).

If i'm going to be ejaculating you bet it's going to be with a woman not to the image of some porn sloot on a computer screen

I don't know if you are into metaphysics or ancient knowledge but something for you to consider and do some reading on.

 

[sighsigh]

Whoops double post.

 

[sighsigh]

sighsigh a few questions

how long have you been looking at porn?
how old are you?

I know what you are saying I remember the first time I accidentally downloaded a BJ video and was absolutely disgusted (I was only 12-13) and I remember vowing to never look at porn again. However since then I would have looked at porn 200+ times. The escalation is scary. You don't understand how scary it is to be watching both the stuff you are talking about and 'hardcore' porn at age 17 and not having any sort of erection.

It does sound like I'm underdeveloped or something lol eh? I'm 20 and a half. I've probably been watching girls in skimpy swimsuits since... 11?

I will sometimes watch naked sex scenes, but they have to be ones from Hollywood movies or something and well-done (I really like the ones from Korean dramas). But graphic webcam videos and such that you find on hardcore porn sites isn't anything I'm into at all.

 

[TheMale]

tell me, guys, seems you have a lot of knowledge about the subject ;p
how come sometimes while you sleeping you can jack off ? and how to help that ?

 

[SeymourCake]

I'm gonna check this out when I get home. I'm currently in my college campus right now, and I don't want people around me seeing that I'm checking something like this out.

 

[yaynyppys!]

101% of Americans are fat

I would like to draw your attention to Part 3 of that series:

66% of Americans are overweight.
35% of Americans are obese.

That means 101% of Americans are fat. WTF! I'm sure glad I'm Canadian.

Seriously though, I have a bachelors degree and a masters degree in math and I can't figure this out.

Well other than that, it's an interesting series, although not very scientific.

 

[ka_mate]

I would like to draw your attention to Part 3 of that series:

66% of Americans are overweight.
35% of Americans are obese.

That means 101% of Americans are fat. WTF! I'm sure glad I'm Canadian.

Seriously though, I have a bachelors degree and a masters degree in math and I can't figure this out.

They would have calculated these figures using BMI (Body Mass Index) A somewhat accurate measure of whether a person's body weight is healthy.
If you get a score of
<20 you are classified as underweight
20-25 health weight
25-29 overweight
>30 Obese

The BMI isn't particularly effective because it doesn't take muscle mass into consideration (eg. A lot of rugby and NFL players are considered obese even though they are elite athletes).

What I imagine they should have said is that by the BMI index
66% of Americans are either classified as Overweight or Obese
and that 35% are classified as Obese

Do you seriously have a master's in maths? how's the working out for you?

 

[Huffman]

My take is that masturbating to porn is TOO EASY.
Hell, you can bust a nut to porn even if you're been drained and stressed out. For this people turn to more and more extreme porn.

But I've made a rule of masturbating only to memories, or imaginations. No external pictures or sounds. That way I have to imagine and picture what exactly I'm doing to the girl in my mind.

Not only is it more rewarding, also you notice that sometimes you feel like masturbating but you're not horny enough. That's a paradox, is it? Well guess again, you want the easy feel-good drug, and you're a junkie.

Not using porn has helped me listen to my body more, and you end up jacking only when your body needs it.

 

[ilikecharlene]

pop culture and (in young guys at least) peer pressure makes guys think porn is real life sex. of course, it is a depiction of sex, but not a realistic one. I could play FIFA 12 on my PC, but this doesn't mean actual soccer in a big European league is like that.

Porn is simply entertainment, nothing more, that's why it was invented, that's why it exists. It should be taken with a pinch of salt, not absolute reality.

 

[Jariel]

I don't need to click that link to know that it's true. Like all things, sex has a way of losing its novelty and instead of being something naughty, fun and special, it's just commonplace in today's society.

Up until my mid 20s I could get seriously aroused by a lingerie catalogue or a woman in tight clothes and a sex comedy like Porky's would get me so turned on I would have to jerk it about 5-10 times that same night. Nowadays, it takes a lot to get me excited and even a naked HB9 with huge breasts kneeling down and giving me a blow job gets a bit boring from time to time.

 

[sighsigh]

I don't need to click that link to know that it's true. Like all things, sex has a way of losing its novelty and instead of being something naughty, fun and special, it's just commonplace in today's society.

Up until my mid 20s I could get seriously aroused by a lingerie catalogue or a woman in tight clothes and a sex comedy like Porky's would get me so turned on I would have to jerk it about 5-10 times that same night. Nowadays, it takes a lot to get me excited and even a naked HB9 with huge breasts kneeling down and giving me a blow job gets a bit boring from time to time.

Uh, that has very much to do with the natural decline of libido. You peak at ~17 and it's all downhill from there. Women supposedly peak at ~29.

 

[Nicholas]

I see you guys often advise DJ juniors to cut the masturbation. I myself am not that much of a masturbator, maybe once in 3 days and I do agree that it shouldn't be done on daily basis. But I've seen guys talking how they stopped wanking and watching porn and making such a big deal out of it. Are there any noticable results of cutting it?

I actually think one should slap the monkey occasionally, that way it perhaps can be productive. I noticed that after not wanking for a while I become desperate and dreamy. It affects my daily socializing with chicks - I try harder not to mess up, over-analyze and we know that this is generally unattractive.

Can wanking actually be the way of releasing tension and keeping the beta thinking away from your everyday? If you don't over do it, I think yes.

 

[CoolBlue]

I would like to draw your attention to Part 3 of that series:

66% of Americans are overweight.
35% of Americans are obese.

That means 101% of Americans are fat. WTF! I'm sure glad I'm Canadian.

Seriously though, I have a bachelors degree and a masters degree in math and I can't figure this out.

Well other than that, it's an interesting series, although not very scientific.

Are you for real? I can't believe you are a math master.

Obese people are overweight too. Figure that out.

Does the figure make sense now?

 

[JohnChops]

Great thread, if your gonna get your nut its 10000000000x better getting it from a woman rather than your hand. I stopped watching porn and masturbating 2 weeks ago and it feels pretty good.