For all you ****s, don't underestimate the power of being nice.

[IamtheAlphamale]

There seems to be this thing at this forum where people think they need to be ****s. Well the truth be told, you don't need to be mean or anything really. Just have backbone. At first you should be careful about neg hits and that stuff because its too much risk for the start. I personally am trying to be nice as much as possible. Girls love MEN that are nice. Now as long as your not being needy and stuff like that being nice is one of your most powerful weapons. Don't underestimate it. I have tried it all,being an ******* and all that and it works great for me. But I personally don't come off as too nice or whatever you want to call it. Try to be a nice guy it will help you more than you think. I don't really know what else to say here except its very very helpful and makes picking up easier.

 

[Obsidian]

Try to be a nice guy it will help you more than you think.

I tried that for 20 years. Get a clue.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

You have no idea what your talking about

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

I could go way more into detail here but I won't. I'm not saying be an 'afc'. Pook even says this.

 

[Serialized3]

It really doesn't matter how you act around a girl that already likes you, but do you have success being nice to girls that are hotter/more social than you?

 

[Jariel]

I'm with you 100% on that.

My current girlfriend and some of my exes all said they steered clear of me for ages because they thought I was a player and assumed I'd be arrogant. But once they got to know me and found out I am a genuine good guy, they knew they wanted to be with me.

The key word there is "genuine".

 

[Ratisson]

i agree. I think a good word to use though is being a "gentleman". I think this is what ur trying to say. When these guys hear "nice" the instantly assume that ur groveling over her, and putting her up on a pedestal, when ur actually not. When i think of "nice" i think of treating the girl with respect, not not being a d1ck by putting her down and sh1t like that. Ur only gonna get somewhere by being a d1ck by acting like one on girls who have low self esteem. girls with high self esteem are gonna realise ur being a d1ck just to try to get into their pants. They're not gonna like it. They want a gentleman./nice person, who treats them with respect. Good post.

 

[Agent Zero]

 

[The Forms]

You can be nice as long as you let your intentions be known. Most of the guys around here have figured out by now that it isn't the "being nice" that made you an AFC, it is the being a ***** that made you one.

Women will respond well to a guy who is nice to them. Nice doesn't mean giving her every thing she wants or asks for. Nice isn't sitting around and listening to her problems when she's had a bad day (unless she's already your girlfriend. Then, well, that's part of your job).

The guys who think being "nice" is bad are guys who haven't seperated "nice" from "being a *****."

 

[frisco]

Its about being nice but almost in a sarcastic nature. Its like when i approach girls i come off as Nice but i only use being nice to kinda get what i want out of my approaches. I also am good at realizing when someone is trying to use my Niceness against me. Thats usually when i through a neg or two in.

 

[Kwello]

I have ALWAYS felt this way. I'm so glad to see it summed up in such a succinct manner.

I have a friend who'll remain nameless. She actually is my friend, I feel no urge to **** her at all. She is STUNNING, like 9-10 on the scale easily. She has lots of guy friends who she thinks act 'nice' towards her. They'll paint her pictures, buy gifts, **** like that... I keep trying to tell her: "GET A CLUE, THEY ARENT NICE, THEY JUST WANT YOUR ASS". She does believe me, yet at the same time still clings to her naivety because she loves to act all cute like some 16 year old girl.

Seriously, I'm so glad there's other people out there who get this ****. Putting up a facade of friendship and caring doesn't make you a nice guy. It makes you a ****ing weirdo stalker creep who really should understand why they never get the girls.

 

[Jariel]

Great clip! Summarises the problem of the "nice guy" perfectly! Thanks for posting!

 

[Modro]

It's a balance, dont be a total jerk, dont be a super nice guy. Stick the focus on yourself and have a backbone and be prepared to walk away, but also take a risk

 

[LegendBoy]

Not all girls are the same but in the beginning if you are a too ****y and all that the girl won't know the real you.

Put it like this. In your first encounter be nice, show what you got too offer. Maybe as the convo warms you can be a bit more ****ier.. But always be funny. Being nice is underated. Most girls at 18 have been hurt, under the age ye ****y works wonders.

But always keep the girl on her toes after you have been nice you can throw in some ****iness and the like. But being nice isn't being a bictch. Just stand up for yourself and never agree if truely dont agree.

 

[reset]

A confident man who respects himself respects other people. Women can tell the difference between that, and a total pushover. That's where you get into the "nice guy". And nice guy's aren't nice. They're insecure phonies, who pretend to be caring, when deep down they truly resent other people. A self-respecting man who sees the best in himself sees the best in other people.

 

[comic_relief]

I don't underestimate the power with being a nice guy. The problem that i have with being a nice guy is that it isn't me. I am "the nicest @$$hole that you are ever going to meet", but I always open up to those that stay around long enough to notice.

It will suprise the hell out of those that see it. My girlfriend's roommate thought I was a total pr!ck until after the fact that I took two hours out of my BUSY schedule to set up her schedule and make sure that she gets the classes that she needs.

Or how my girlfriend thought that I wouldn't do anything for her, but I helped her get her homework done this morning in ten minutes, which she thought couldn't get done for at least an hour.

She gave me my just rewards for doing both things.

I think it has to do with finding balance, and keeping it there. Even though, I rag on her all the time, I still love to show her that I like her and will do stuff with her if just for the reaction alone. It's fun.

Be nice, but be a jerk sometimes too. It makes the nice acts that you do, even mean more.

comic_relief

 

[Jason88]

Respect isn't something often talked about because I believe many think that respect is AFC.

You can be C&F while respecting the person you're talking to. Unless respect is unwarranted.

As for the cartoon... even the nice guy is playing a gimmick... you shouldn't be nice just to be nice or an ******* just to be an *******. Just be open and be yourself.

 

[reset]

You do have to let people earn it though. Nice guys wear their hearts on their sleeves and trust right off the bat (so much so that they get burned early). I usually hang back when I'm getting to know someone (guy or girl). This gives you a chance to discover if this person is really worth your time. I think when you take your time getting to know someone, the relationship or friendship ends up being much stronger. I'm very loyal to the people who have earned my respect.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Girls love MEN that are nice

^Not for sex though.

Women don't like women...seriously.So they look for male companionship since we don't have those mood swings,jealousy,etc.

So obviously they like "nice guys".

Right,but they don't want to lay them.You're just being freinds.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I don't think you should be an a##hole.

But being freinds,going after chics you aren't really sexually attracted to and platonically hanging out with chics?.... is a major no-no..:nono:

You want to be somewhere in between and being really romantic and nice to girls you want to fawk and that want you to let you fawk them.