Fluff Talk?

[killerasp]

OKay....some people suggest that you call up a girl only to ask her to do something/go out whatever...but never fluff talk.

im just getting the hang of getting number part, now comes the follow up part. if i call a girl, i will ask her out, but if i dont have the time to go on a date, do i still call for talky talk?

 

[becker]

I know most people would say no, but sometimes I get some girls who tend to appreciate long calls, because it shows that you are interested. I don't mind shooting the bull with a girl on the phone if I can't see her at that time. Of course, it's always preferable to do things in person.

I just called a girl, her mom was on the other line and told me she will tell her to call me back, but I haven't gotten a call yet. I'm thinking that she might have forgotten to tell her, but that means I'll have to call back again. I hate doing that. Should I?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

becker: I'd wait and see, depending on the situ. Has her mom neglected to tell her you called on previous occasions?

Orig poster: I'd fluff for a while, do some C&F on her, it's good.

 

[becker]

Oscar,

Yes, her mom has forgotten to tell her that I called before, and there have been other times where she has told her. Her mom has been very nice to me, so there's no reason to think that she would not tell her on purpose or anything like that.

It's just that she has called me once, and the rest of the time I'm doing the calling, and I hate making it seem like I'm calling her all the time, since I have called and she hasn't been home, and she never answers the phone, it's always her parents that answer it, so you can see how they might feel like I call all the time while not really getting to talk to her every time I call.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

So is your gut feeling that it's low interest? Cos I'm thinking Next here...

 

[becker]

Actually, no, we get along well, but last I spoke to her on Monday, she was in a bad mood for the first time, and hopefully didn't make her associate me with it. But definitely not low IL, it's just that she's shy and told me she doesn't feel comfortable calling people on the phone. I should just call her, but she's likely busy working for her dad right now at home, so that's the more difficult part. Maybe tonight I'll try again, or should I just f*ck it, and call right now?

 

[thekiddddd]

Becker, seriously don't do it let her call you.

 

[becker]

The only thing I'm afraid of is that her mom might not have told her I called, so she's not going to call me back if she didn't even know I called.

 

[Pecker]

becker i'm thinking give this girl a rest. find a better one.

 

[becker]

Pecker, nice screen name.

It's tough to just let this girl go just because she hasn't called me, especially since she hasn't done anything else that has really made her seem like she's not interested in doing anything. She's working now, which makes it tons more difficult for her to do anything, so it's understandable and not some flaky excuse.

 

[becker]

Man, I called this girl tonight and spoke to her mom. Mom told me that she told her that I called, and she didn't call back, and she was out tonight. Mom told me that she would tell her to call me if she got home early. First time this happened with this girl, so I'm not going to make any drastic moves.

Don't know if I should call tomorrow, but I'd like to talk to her at least before I do anything because she may have a good reason for not calling, and premature nexting is not my thing.

 

[bp1974]

If you didn't call this girl, do you think you would ever hear from her again?

Sounds like you're not sure you would.

 

[becker]

bp1974,

You're right, I'm not sure whether I'd hear from this girl much if I didn't call her. Part of it is her nature, which is that she's shy, and many girls are already not keen on calling guys, so this only adds to the difficulty.

Second, she has a BF (I know, big clincher), but it's not as though I'm calling to ask her out to dinner or something, I'm just calling to keep in touch. She has a lot of hot friends too, so can't lose touch with this girl.

I guess the difficult part is that I'm not sure if she sees me as a potential BF or something, because she has never LJBF'd me, and many of her actions say that she'd be interested if not for the BF. I mean, would she have any other reason not to call unless she was trying to avoid the sexual tension?