Flakeoclock?

[davester88]

Today at school, I ask some girl who i've devloped quite the rapport with to hang out for a bit during the afternoon before my hockey practice, she says yes, gets all very excited, etc. ( she does have a boyfriend ) and then as I'm waiting for her to come to my truck after school she sends me a text saying that she has to work. She works at a restauraunt, so I guess anythings possible. I just found it weird that she would not remember that she had to work before I made plans with her....really weird I know...

She sent me a long text explaining that she had to work and she wanted to do it on monday, then I told her " I dont give second chances, your gonna have to make it up to me somehow ;-)" to which she said " oh baby u know i will in the bedroom u no how i operate" to which i responded with," i'm not THAT easy, you gotta work for this." She replied jus by saying have a good weekend cya monday

I don't quite know what my next step should be? A little background, yes I am interested in this girl, so what would you fellas do?

Thanks in advance

 

[EdHunter]

Hmm...I've got some slight flake issues of my own right now, which I'll post on in a sec, but on this issue, I have some good news and some bad news.
The good news is that you're doing things right---what you said to her sounds really good. The problem is that my gut says she flaked.
1. The long text could go either way---maybe she actually did forget, or maybe she didn't and is just spending a while on it because she feels slightly guilty.
2. Don't read too much into her sexual talk---talk is cheap, results are what counts. Don't let her string you along with dirty talk. Don't approach her/text her/whatever for a few days, at least, and see what she does.

 

[davester88]

thanks for the advice Ed, it is however hard to ignore her since she is in my social class and sits right in front of me...Not too sure how to avoid her a little bit while in class....Today did end up being okay, I went out to lunch with some other babe so all was good, I just would have liked to go with her...Any way of using this to my advantage?

Also, is it best to wait and not text over the weekend? Just leave it as is and show that I'm not needy ( cause I'm actually not)?

 

[davester88]

quick update: she just messaged me and asked me if I could do something tommorow. I just replied by saying, " I have plans" so pretty sure I'm handling this alright....any advice is appreciated

 

[NeW2TheGame]

yeh you definetley doing things right, you are pretty much telling my story to be honest.
This chick that i have been out with several times all of a sudden says shes busy "this week"(last week), and maybe could do somethin this week, and as expected, shes busy again THIS week...."i cant come out at all cuz im busy with school work blah blah"

Pile of **** if you ask me

 

[davester88]

Thanks for the reply, I would however like to know how to handle this situation, do I just let it go and play it cool, could this girl be putting me through a shyt test even though she has a boyfriend? How would you gents handle this?

 

[NeW2TheGame]

next please
You could play it cool, but only after that you have shown what she *COULD* miss out on. What do i mean by that?
If you havnt even been out with her or had decent talks with her, she basically doesnt know you and if you just played it cool and stopped talking to her, she wont give a rats a$$ about you.
However if you know her quite well, and she has had decent talks with you, that actually triggered something in her, she will kind of know what she is missing out on. SHOW her what a good time you guys can have. SHOW her how you guys can have a meaningful conversation, THEN if you play it cool, you might have a chance.
Hope you know what i am saying, typing this in a hurry so....heheh

 

[davester88]

thanks for the advice, and yea we have had plenty of conversations, and I have flirted with her and she has flirted right back, so I sense that there is something there, i think im just gonna man up and try the kiss test tho

 

[NeW2TheGame]

Yeah, thats the only way you will know if she is really interested, try doing the kiss test i read sometime ago, gotta find it somewhere in my hard drive...i pretty much archive any material that i think is good and will be of help.

I will post it soon, if i find it.

 

[RestoretheROAR84]

You said she has a boyfriend... why would you go for the kiss when she's taken? You wouldn't want some other guy kissing your girl would you?

 

[davester88]

thats true, but its the only way I know how to close the deal....I have already built enough attraction with her, at this point it just a matter of closing the deal. any other ideas of how to do it?