Genghis Juan
Senior Don Juan
Hey DJ's need your advice, although I am pretty sure what to do.
Long post so bear with me.
Setup (I am super busy; school&work, she is supposedly busy work & business...guilty until proven innocent)
Date 1, (weekday) coffee date, 1.5hrs. (blind date)
-I call 2 days later, asking for a Sat date; she says friend coming in town to visit. So I get back to her later on, then she says shes going to Jamaca for a week w/girlfriend, so I say call me when you get back and settled. All this is phone tag up until the last discussion.
-Then after she returns, calls me 2 days later, leaves message saying shes ready to go out. I leave a message offering Sat date., she leaves message saying she has to go to NY last minute; pick Mon or Tue (b4 Thanks giving), I message back picking Tue.
Date 2, (weekday) dinner date, goes well, gives me her home digits, big hug, squeezes my hands (I didn't go for the smooch!). Tells me that Sat she is going to fundraising party in town, I should come, and she'll call me.
-Sat comes and goes....no call!!!
-I, like a chump!!! (didn't know about DJ'ing), never bring it up and she never does! big mistake.
-We exchange some emails and set up another date a couple of weeks later (weeknight again).
Date 3, (weekday) dinner date, she is less energetic, still very talkative...I'm not on my A game (feeling like a dead man walking from the blow off). She demands to pay for dinner though (my b-day in 2 days). I said "I think things are going pretty good so far" and in response she immediately says she wants to take things slow, but I wouldn't be on this 3rd date if I wasn't interested. "time will tell". End of date, awkward moment, I again chicken out!! (CHump!!, could see her smiling coyly as I did), then, thinking quick I run my hands down the sides of her arms. She gives me a glowing smile and walks back to her car backwards watching me.
-Calls me on my b-day, tells me she really enjoying getting to know me. She is (supposedly) going to a lesbian party, she wanted to bring me but couldn't no outsiders, she felt bad. I told her I already had plans. I say next time lets do something different like muesuem and she says quickly "yeah lets do it...yadda...yadda...I'll call you next week". Her dad is coming in next weekend keep in mind.
-Next Thursday night I crack and call (Idiot!!) and she says she just got in yadda...will be going to a company part ..yadda...yadda...I say, did I catch you at a bad time? she says oh no! lets talk. I cut it short a min later and tell her to give me a call back if she can. She says "oh definitly!"
(She is going on vaca w/family to PR for Xmas and NY's). A week after NY's I hear nothing, so I leave a voice mail at home, telling her to call. She calls my cell phone, leaves a message 8 days later tonight, telling me she's been in meetings all last week and is back in the field and is wondering if I want to go out tomorrow night!!)
My strategy at this point has been to meet other girls, trying to get something else in the pipeline! No more Mr. Nice Guy. I won't call her back tonight, and maybe not until Sunday....thinking about what are my options. I definetly want to bring up the blow off now! I am much more level headed and cool now because I was convinced she was out of the picture. I think I am her 3rd option or something. I want to now, string HER along!! She wants to play games?....LETS PLAY GAMES!!! My friend (married) who set me up told me she doesn't play games (wrong) and she has trouble meeting people (G ... I guess why???)
Anything opinions welcomed!
Long post so bear with me.
Setup (I am super busy; school&work, she is supposedly busy work & business...guilty until proven innocent)
Date 1, (weekday) coffee date, 1.5hrs. (blind date)
-I call 2 days later, asking for a Sat date; she says friend coming in town to visit. So I get back to her later on, then she says shes going to Jamaca for a week w/girlfriend, so I say call me when you get back and settled. All this is phone tag up until the last discussion.
-Then after she returns, calls me 2 days later, leaves message saying shes ready to go out. I leave a message offering Sat date., she leaves message saying she has to go to NY last minute; pick Mon or Tue (b4 Thanks giving), I message back picking Tue.
Date 2, (weekday) dinner date, goes well, gives me her home digits, big hug, squeezes my hands (I didn't go for the smooch!). Tells me that Sat she is going to fundraising party in town, I should come, and she'll call me.
-Sat comes and goes....no call!!!
-I, like a chump!!! (didn't know about DJ'ing), never bring it up and she never does! big mistake.
-We exchange some emails and set up another date a couple of weeks later (weeknight again).
Date 3, (weekday) dinner date, she is less energetic, still very talkative...I'm not on my A game (feeling like a dead man walking from the blow off). She demands to pay for dinner though (my b-day in 2 days). I said "I think things are going pretty good so far" and in response she immediately says she wants to take things slow, but I wouldn't be on this 3rd date if I wasn't interested. "time will tell". End of date, awkward moment, I again chicken out!! (CHump!!, could see her smiling coyly as I did), then, thinking quick I run my hands down the sides of her arms. She gives me a glowing smile and walks back to her car backwards watching me.
-Calls me on my b-day, tells me she really enjoying getting to know me. She is (supposedly) going to a lesbian party, she wanted to bring me but couldn't no outsiders, she felt bad. I told her I already had plans. I say next time lets do something different like muesuem and she says quickly "yeah lets do it...yadda...yadda...I'll call you next week". Her dad is coming in next weekend keep in mind.
-Next Thursday night I crack and call (Idiot!!) and she says she just got in yadda...will be going to a company part ..yadda...yadda...I say, did I catch you at a bad time? she says oh no! lets talk. I cut it short a min later and tell her to give me a call back if she can. She says "oh definitly!"
(She is going on vaca w/family to PR for Xmas and NY's). A week after NY's I hear nothing, so I leave a voice mail at home, telling her to call. She calls my cell phone, leaves a message 8 days later tonight, telling me she's been in meetings all last week and is back in the field and is wondering if I want to go out tomorrow night!!)
My strategy at this point has been to meet other girls, trying to get something else in the pipeline! No more Mr. Nice Guy. I won't call her back tonight, and maybe not until Sunday....thinking about what are my options. I definetly want to bring up the blow off now! I am much more level headed and cool now because I was convinced she was out of the picture. I think I am her 3rd option or something. I want to now, string HER along!! She wants to play games?....LETS PLAY GAMES!!! My friend (married) who set me up told me she doesn't play games (wrong) and she has trouble meeting people (G ... I guess why???)
Anything opinions welcomed!
