Hey, been reading and doing some testing with the game for couple of years now. Made some improvement but nothing really serious, I just have a better mindset now then I did when I first got into college.
All I gotta say is that DJ bible is gold! I've read a few PUA books and scoured their forums but this site is a whole lot better in my opinion. No tricks or gimmicks being jammed down your throat. You guys seem to focus on trying to better someone than give them a routine to follow which I like. Because I believe every man needs to have his own style when it comes to attracting women.
I have so many questions for you guys but I can't really lump sum it all into one post so I might be posting them in new threads.
I don't have a problem with approaching women, when the setting is right. i.e. Bars, friends house, through mutual acquaintances, ect. I can't really do cold approaches, yet. (bookstores, grocery shopping, coffee shops) Even though those are the places where I would probably find better women.
I do have one question though about conversations I have been having with women recently.
When I first meet them, I'll introduce myself by saying "Hi, I'm so and so" and extend my hand. It usually goes one of three ways.
1. Worst case scenario is they give me this dead stare and turn away not even acknowledging me.
2. They reciprocate and then immediately turn away to talk to their friends.
3. They indulge me for a couple minutes and then excuse themselves politely, and walk away.
Most of these circumstances have been when I'm at a friends house, or my friend introduces me to his gf's friends.
I'm not overweight or super skinny, I'm 6ft, have had gf's in the past that were attractive so I'm not super ugly. My clothing is clean and presentable.
I am pretty introverted and don't really jump into conversations too often unless something has peaked my interest. I'm more reserved and aloof when hanging out with friends. But when it comes to girls, I usually will put on some charm and try to talk to them, because they peak my interest.
I just can't even get past the introductory phase with most.
I think it comes to one of two things.
1. I smoke cigarettes pretty heavily, so smelling like an ashtray is hindering my chances. (Even though I have friends who do and they still pull girls or have a gf) I'm trying to come up with a plan to quit.
or
2. My friends secretly talk **** about me to their gf's and their friends, alienating me from any chance of getting with them.
What do you guys think the problem is?
If you need more info let me know.
All I gotta say is that DJ bible is gold! I've read a few PUA books and scoured their forums but this site is a whole lot better in my opinion. No tricks or gimmicks being jammed down your throat. You guys seem to focus on trying to better someone than give them a routine to follow which I like. Because I believe every man needs to have his own style when it comes to attracting women.
I have so many questions for you guys but I can't really lump sum it all into one post so I might be posting them in new threads.
I don't have a problem with approaching women, when the setting is right. i.e. Bars, friends house, through mutual acquaintances, ect. I can't really do cold approaches, yet. (bookstores, grocery shopping, coffee shops) Even though those are the places where I would probably find better women.
I do have one question though about conversations I have been having with women recently.
When I first meet them, I'll introduce myself by saying "Hi, I'm so and so" and extend my hand. It usually goes one of three ways.
1. Worst case scenario is they give me this dead stare and turn away not even acknowledging me.
2. They reciprocate and then immediately turn away to talk to their friends.
3. They indulge me for a couple minutes and then excuse themselves politely, and walk away.
Most of these circumstances have been when I'm at a friends house, or my friend introduces me to his gf's friends.
I'm not overweight or super skinny, I'm 6ft, have had gf's in the past that were attractive so I'm not super ugly. My clothing is clean and presentable.
I am pretty introverted and don't really jump into conversations too often unless something has peaked my interest. I'm more reserved and aloof when hanging out with friends. But when it comes to girls, I usually will put on some charm and try to talk to them, because they peak my interest.
I just can't even get past the introductory phase with most.
I think it comes to one of two things.
1. I smoke cigarettes pretty heavily, so smelling like an ashtray is hindering my chances. (Even though I have friends who do and they still pull girls or have a gf) I'm trying to come up with a plan to quit.
or
2. My friends secretly talk **** about me to their gf's and their friends, alienating me from any chance of getting with them.
What do you guys think the problem is?
If you need more info let me know.