First time meeting her

[killuminaty]

I recently started texting this girl i met via facebook about 2 weeks ago, she does show some interest and i havent asked her out yet because i honestly been busy with other girls that i personally know already...it so happens that i am free this weekend and it is her bday on sunday and she asked me to come to her bday celebration at a bar with her friends that i dont know...i feel really weird meeting a girl from facebook at a bar with her friends for the first time we see eachother. the girl is a HB9 at least and i dont wanna ruin our chances should i actually go to the bar? should i ask if i could bring a friend with me? should i let her know that i'd feel awkward about the situation since i dont know any of her friends and perhaps meet up another day? if u guys think that i should go please give me some tips so that i do not ruin this

 

[LE6END]

Stop thinking too much, Killuminaty. Over-analysis will harm you greatly.

It is the female's birthday. She would like you to attend sunday.

This is simple science. Go.

Mingle with everyone; i do not believe it is a date, and I, personally, would not invite a friend---i'll be making new ones at the party.

It is entirely normal to be nervous, but Killuminaty, have some common sense. This shouldn't be a matter of if you should go or not, but a matter of can you close the lid on her attraction for you before the week concludes. All your questions are a result of the fear of causing a mistake, and, for someone claiming to be juggling other girls in the meanwhile, you dont sound like someone who has handled situations involving a new woman skillfully, much less an adolescent party invite.

Concerning the party, you can garauntee her friends will be in her space all evening long. It isn't a date, it is her birthday celebration. Don't press her for personal time, or try to get alone with her, unless she initiates it, simply because it'll be like trying to run with honey out of a bee hive, surrounded in an ocean of wasps. Mingle, mingle, mingle, smile; have a good time. Don't be so serious about it all.

Now, towards the conclusion of the night, when things die down, and people are dispersing, move in and close it with her. Kiss. This is a very vital step, asserting your position as a lover, not a friend who attends her party. I cannot stress this part enough. If you miss out on this, you can consider your entire night a failure.

The key is to be apart of the party until it all breaks down, and you can be alone with her without any force or even asking. But Killuminaty, you have to let go the questions and immerse yourself in the excitement around you.

Good luck.

 

[Asasione]

Now, towards the conclusion of the night, when things die down, and people are dispersing, move in and close it with her. Kiss. This is a very vital step, asserting your position as a lover, not a friend who attends her party. I cannot stress this part enough.

Why you'd tell someone to relax and have fun and add in a statement such as

If you miss out on this, you can consider your entire night a failure.

is something I don't quite understand. Great advice but saying if he doesn't do something particular that the night will be a failure is adding more pressure than he had before. He'll be thinking that he HAS to get a kiss when it's not really important, all he has to do is be physical and sexual in his words and actions. Show he is interested in her and can take things to the next level, if given the chance. I'm sure many guys have mistakenly believed a kiss at the end of a date means success only to get ignored afterwards. Just have fun and be a sexual person, touch her, joke around with her, be someone she WANTS around and you'll be fine. Kiss her IF you get a chance with her but there's no way its a failure if you don't.

 

[Scars]

Stop thinking too much, Killuminaty. Over-analysis will harm you greatly.

It is the female's birthday. She would like you to attend sunday.

This is simple science. Go.

Mingle with everyone; i do not believe it is a date, and I, personally, would not invite a friend---i'll be making new ones at the party.

It is entirely normal to be nervous, but Killuminaty, have some common sense. This shouldn't be a matter of if you should go or not, but a matter of can you close the lid on her attraction for you before the week concludes. All your questions are a result of the fear of causing a mistake, and, for someone claiming to be juggling other girls in the meanwhile, you dont sound like someone who has handled situations involving a new woman skillfully, much less an adolescent party invite.

Concerning the party, you can garauntee her friends will be in her space all evening long. It isn't a date, it is her birthday celebration. Don't press her for personal time, or try to get alone with her, unless she initiates it, simply because it'll be like trying to run with honey out of a bee hive, surrounded in an ocean of wasps. Mingle, mingle, mingle, smile; have a good time. Don't be so serious about it all.

Now, towards the conclusion of the night, when things die down, and people are dispersing, move in and close it with her. Kiss. This is a very vital step, asserting your position as a lover, not a friend who attends her party. I cannot stress this part enough. If you miss out on this, you can consider your entire night a failure.

The key is to be apart of the party until it all breaks down, and you can be alone with her without any force or even asking. But Killuminaty, you have to let go the questions and immerse yourself in the excitement around you.

Good luck.

Agreed.

However, I personally would bring a friend, possibly even a few. Despite the fact that it's her birthday celebration, people generally go to parties to meet new people, AND it's at a bar. Just bring a friend that is very sociable and makes friends easily. Someone that can keep up with you. It will force your two cliques to interact, and who knows, maybe your buddy will find a girl as well. It also gives you someone to talk to during your "down" time, when home girl is talking to someone else etc.. (you don't want to seem completely needy.)

But as for everything else, I agree. Don't think about it too much. This girl made it apparent that she wants you to come so bless her with your presence. If her friends like you it could possibly open doors into the future if you later choose to date her.

Just relax a bit, see it as a way to make a good first impression. Don't even worry too much about "closing", just go to have fun and everything will fall into place naturally. And if you do bring a friend, try and find someone who won't CB, understands the rules of the game, and ultimately realizes you are there to see HB9 and has enough common sense to know when to bail/leave you two alone etc..

Good luck.

-Scars

 

[killuminaty]

LE6END thanks for your advise, it is not necessary to be a DJ in order to juggle girls... i have not handled situations like this before because most of the girls that i've dated and i meet on a 1 on 1 basis before we meet in this type of scenario... however i guess i am looking too much into it and like you guys mentioned i will just relax, have a good time and be friendly with everyone try to make a good impression on her friends and hopefully gain some alone time with her at some time of the night try to get her interested in finding out more about me try to kino as much as possible with her and everybody else throughout the night and just enjoy the night try to appear like somebody she wants to hang around more...i think my main purpose of the night will be basically to get her comfortable enough for me to take her on a 1 on 1 date then i should be fine

thank all of you guys for your advise again.

 

[LE6END]

Why you'd tell someone to relax and have fun and add in a statement such as


is something I don't quite understand. Great advice but saying if he doesn't do something particular that the night will be a failure is adding more pressure than he had before. He'll be thinking that he HAS to get a kiss when it's not really important, all he has to do is be physical and sexual in his words and actions. Show he is interested in her and can take things to the next level, if given the chance. I'm sure many guys have mistakenly believed a kiss at the end of a date means success only to get ignored afterwards. Just have fun and be a sexual person, touch her, joke around with her, be someone she WANTS around and you'll be fine. Kiss her IF you get a chance with her but there's no way its a failure if you don't.

Your confusion is understood. If Killuminaty does not relax, he wont even have a chance to close it out with the woman. The night would be considered a failure in his inability to close anything with her, but at the very least, he will have enjoyed himself at a party. When i said relax, yet told him to make his move, given the chance, I'm essentially saying to not miss, likely, the only opportunity you'll have with her that evening.

I mention failure to his night if he did not close. But there are many battles in a war. Many more potential nights ahead to try again.

I'd rather tell him what i told him, then to leave it at party all night and don't try anything. But relaxing, then making a move toward the conclusion of the celebration arent correlated. A successful close will be contigent on his ability to realize that it is simply a party he is going to, and nervousness, although understandable, will not help him any.

Certainly it isn't a dealbreaker to miss a kiss---in the grand scheme. I felt compelled to stress the importance of asserting his desire and intentions on the nearest opportunity. Pressure? Perhaps. but it is exactly why i reccommended he relax... He has work to do. Shackled in bashfullness will do plenty harm over good.

You stress the IFs of the night, but i had done the same. You also reccommend he be in her space, touching, sexual engagement. I wont disagree, but moderating his attention is what i geared toward. Do not be in her face the entire party, spread out and talk with the friends and family. Your chance will likely arrive at the conclusion of the event, and here is where i guess you felt was contradicrive, Asasione.

In any case, enjoy yourself fully, Killuminaty.