First Time I've Called A Girl for a Date

[Brak86]

I call girls a lot but i have never asked a girl on a date before. So i decided to try for the first time tonight. I didnt get good results, actually, i thought the results were pretty much terrible. And im still kinda shaky even after the call, but that doesnt matter. Atleast i got the balls to do it.

First call: The girl has a funny name (Sarah Simcochi or something, people make fun of her since it souinds like ****, tho) so i was going to play off of that.
Me: Hey, is this mrs. Simcock? (emphasizing the ****)
Her: uhhh, no i think you have the wrong number
Me: This is Sarah SimCOCK right?
Her: Sorry, wrong number, *Hangs up*

Ok, that was embarrassing, i felt like a frothing piece of turd. I wanted to stop and not call the next girl. But in the end i decided that improvement only comes with a)Persistence b)Practice c)Humiliation

Me: Hey is this Mrs. Cook? (Her last name isnt really Cook, I just used it cause its the last name of a guy who hooked up with her once and she hates him)
Her:uuhhhh, no I think you have the wrong number
Me: Are you sure this isnt Anna Cook?
Her: This is Anna, who is this
Me: (laughing) This is brak, whats up
Her: (laughing a bit) ohh haha nothin much (but she soiunded more confused, like "why is this guy calling me?")
Me: Not much, listen, im pretty busy this weekend but i was wonderin if you wanted to hang out since i havent seen you in awhile
Her: ohh, yea, ok... (sounded a littlte more weirded out)
Me: Alright, im really busy on friday so maybe saturday we can hang out
Her: well i dont have anything planned right now so you can call me on the weekend.
Me: OK, bye

Damn that was torture. I think i should have gotten more balls to just ask her out to dinner, but i was kinda scared of formally asking for a date. Nevertheless, i have to look at the positive. Right now im trying to convince myself that shes a person who has no effect on my improvement and that i am just learning how to withstand rejection/awkwardness.

I have one question though: Should i call the 2nd girl on saturday or, since i messed up, should i just not call her at all this weekend?

 

[Spiky]

Originally posted by Brak86
Me: Not much, listen, im pretty busy this weekend but i was wonderin if you wanted to hang out since i havent seen you in awhile
Her: ohh, yea, ok... (sounded a littlte more weirded out)
Me: Alright, im really busy on friday so maybe saturday we can hang out
Her: well i dont have anything planned right now so you can call me on the weekend.
Me: OK, bye

I have one question though: Should i call the 2nd girl on saturday or, since i messed up, should i just not call her at all this weekend?

The fact that you called is good. You WILL eventually improve.

You mentioned that you were busy which is a plus.

Even though you stuffed up with the first girl you called you didnt let that stop you from calling the second girl.

IMO... your problem isnt with phoning girls; its a problem with your frame. I could give you a thousand useless pieces of advice but really if you just persist in gaming and calling girls you will be getting better results in no time. Practice makes perfect.

I would call the second girl on saturday anyway, to practice my game.

 

[Brak86]

*Update* ok the first girl just texted me and said this:

Hey, this is sarah, i think you called me but you called my house # and im kinda confused, sorry if iwas being a *****, call me.

I called her and i had a MUCH better conversation. Problem is, she has a boyfriend so she made up an excuse that she has finals and has to stay in this weekend. I dont care, this alone was a great relief. She has a boyfriend in college and i knew that beforehand, so i didnt expect to have success (because i hooked up with her before when we were both drunk).

 

[Badmannaz]

hahaha oh shlt simcochi i was lmao when i read that i was thinking coochi though not simcocki:crackup:

 

[SamePendo]

Congratulations man!

I'd call her again in some time to arrange something, if she still hesitates.. too bad.
Keep getting those #s!

 

[Warlord]

Girls can tell if you like them by how your tone is whether you are nervous or not. If she's into you, you are in. What they don't like is delaying things or being fearful of asking her out.

 

[Brak86]

Originally posted by Warlord
Girls can tell if you like them by how your tone is whether you are nervous or not. If she's into you, you are in. What they don't like is delaying things or being fearful of asking her out.

yea thats why i tried busting them a little bit before so i could gtet more comfortable. It worked a little but im sure they could still sense my anxiousness. The first girl, even though she texted me back, was a lost cause. Apparently, she got really upset for cheating on her bf (with me ) and her bf wants to kick my ass.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

I dunno man,

i think making fun of a girl's name on the first phone call is incredibly stupid. You did weird her out, instead of talking like a normal human being.

Once she knows who you are you can play the "ball busting" game cuz she'll be comfortable with it, instead of being half-insulted by some strange guy on the other end of the phone.

Second girl is the same thing. You put her in a frame where she's reminded of an ex BF that she hates, right away. Nice going, numb nuts.

If you're nervous calling a girl, then why on earth would you aggravate the situation by trying some weird joke that will probably backfire.

What's even worse is that the first girl figured out it was you. Throw her # away... she thinks you're a freak.

 

[Brak86]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
I dunno man,

i think making fun of a girl's name on the first phone call is incredibly stupid. You did weird her out, instead of talking like a normal human being.

Once she knows who you are you can play the "ball busting" game cuz she'll be comfortable with it, instead of being half-insulted by some strange guy on the other end of the phone.

Second girl is the same thing. You put her in a frame where she's reminded of an ex BF that she hates, right away. Nice going, numb nuts.

If you're nervous calling a girl, then why on earth would you aggravate the situation by trying some weird joke that will probably backfire.

What's even worse is that the first girl figured out it was you. Throw her # away... she thinks you're a freak.

As much as i'd like to confront you about being particularly rude, cant because we are on the internet. Nevertheless, i appreciate your advice. Maybe im a bit sensitive but i suggest you calm down on the rudeness whilst doing so. There are many people on here that will never do anything. I know i sucked balls, but it was my first time. Who cares, I will learn.

It is not like i was trying to "aggravate" any situation. Why would i want to do that? Anyways, i apologize for not being as great as you are the first time. I just expected a little more politeness/expectancy out of someone who posts as much as you.

 

[Scorched]

Originally posted by Brak86
As much as i'd like to confront you about being particularly rude, cant because we are on the internet. Nevertheless, i appreciate your advice. Maybe im a bit sensitive but i suggest you calm down on the rudeness whilst doing so. There are many people on here that will never do anything. I know i sucked balls, but it was my first time. Who cares, I will learn.

It is not like i was trying to "aggravate" any situation. Why would i want to do that? Anyways, i apologize for not being as great as you are the first time. I just expected a little more politeness/expectancy out of someone who posts as much as you.

OWNEDDDDDD! Yeah that was rude, he's a ****, thank God what goes around comes around!

Yeah that was a good first try... For sure...
Sounds like you are a quick learner!
I have to agree your attempt to be funny was hmmmm immature?
Maybe after you had created some type of inside jokes & nick names with her you could try to be funny at the begining of the conversation...

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Man don’t call her Mr's Cook or Simcock women go for MEN not children don't be so immature.

As for the “busy” thing WTF man!! You let a girl know your busy when it fits into the convo. That was random and out of nowhere don’t read to much of this seduction stuff it’s confusing you.

I give your call 4/10 but like you said at least you had the balls to do it.

Now

This is how it should have went.....

Ring ring ring ring!!!

Her: Hi

You: Heyyyy how are you

Her: whos this?

You: (sound shocked) OHHH you dont remember me OMG im hurt

Her: comeonnn who are you????

You: The man of your dreams haha nah seriously its Brak

Her: Ohhhhh how you been?

(blah blah blah you fluff her a little)

You: Ey listen what are you doing this weekend I’m not doing anything on Friday so I wanted to take you out to (insert date location)

Her: blah blah blah she will probably say yes

DONE!

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Originally posted by Brak86
As much as i'd like to confront you about being particularly rude, cant because we are on the internet. Nevertheless, i appreciate your advice. Maybe im a bit sensitive but i suggest you calm down on the rudeness whilst doing so. There are many people on here that will never do anything. I know i sucked balls, but it was my first time. Who cares, I will learn.

It is not like i was trying to "aggravate" any situation. Why would i want to do that? Anyways, i apologize for not being as great as you are the first time. I just expected a little more politeness/expectancy out of someone who posts as much as you.

I didn't think i was being particularly rude. I was just pointing out how dumb your angle was, instead of being like everyone else in this thread who said "good job"....

You can't take it cuz you're kinda sensitive? Man, grow some skin... you don't know me and i don't know you so even if i did say something offensive (which i don't feel i did), it shouldn't mean sh!t to you.

Sorry if you're new around here or whatever, but I'm just being brutally honest and I think I was a bit more shocked that no one else pointed out how ineffective your "angle" was...hence why i appeared rude.

I apologise, if it bothers you so much.

Anyways, Leviathan got it right.

And BTW, props for calling cause you're right... many on here wouldn't even do that. I just wish you'd thought about it a bit more before trying something that is hard to pull off. It's as if you assumed you already had rapport with her, when in reality you didn't.

Lessons learned.

 

[Tomatoes]

LeviathanIYG is spot on.

To me it sounded like you cold calling girls. Hi is Mrs *Name* there. Dont keep it so formal. You want her to relax. Also, definatly dont make fun of her name on the first call. Do that when you are out and flirting if needed.

Basically be less formal....but not wierd/rude.

I think for a first time you did really well. You got balls to call them both up so you are half way there. Just practise and you will be suprised how easy it all is.

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
You: Ey listen what are you doing this weekend I’m not doing anything on Friday so I wanted to take you out to (insert date location)

Personally I wouldn't want the girl to know that "I am not doing anything on Friday" because that just sounds bad. I also do not want to ask her what she is doing this weekend because I really don't care if she is buzy or not (If she joins me great if not I will still go out regardless).

I would rather use "I am going to check out this place on friday and I want you to join me" and if she says no because she has plans just say "cool we will talk again" and don't mention when or if you will call her (If she really liked you she would break her plans). Bottom line: its going to be her loss and she is going back into the rotation until you decide to give her another chance.

DjDamage

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Yep you are definitely right, in his case he should use your line instead of mine.

He is an amateur so the way I talk to women would not work well for him.

Heres the sample again:

Her: Hi

You: Heyyyy how are you

Her: whos this?

You: (sound shocked) OHHH you dont remember me OMG im hurt

Her: comeonnn who are you????

You: The man of your dreams haha nah seriously its Brak

Her: Ohhhhh how you been?

(blah blah blah you fluff her a little)

You: I am going to check out this place on friday and I want you to join me

Her: blah blah blah she will probably say yes

DONE!