First Time Getting a Number Turns into Odd Situation

Trinidad

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Hello. I'm a young fellow (over 18 though) who is generally is pegged as the nice, gentlemanly guy. I was raised old school by women, am a firm believer of the whole "friends before lovers" ideology I do my utmost to treat women with respect just on a regular, not when I'm interested in them. As such I have tons of female friends, have never really had a girlfriend, and had 1 fling that lasted 2 weeks (but of course we're still friends). My buds rip on me for this so like 3 weeks ago they prodded me to ask a girl I didn't gradually get to know through school or work or some other easy social situation for her number. We go out after seeing a movie and meet up at a diner and we start hassling our server. She's kinda cute and we start chatting so my mates and me leave. They force me to go back in to get her number, I do and feel like the most awsome guy in the world. We go out once alone together at a little place in town, nothing fancy. Than we drive around for like an hour just talking. I'm felling good. I invite her to the week after meet with a mixed (guys and gals) group of friends and she comes. She enjoys it. I call her the next day (mind you I'm NOT a phone guy) chat her up ask how she enjoyed the little group, says it was nice and she really enjoyed it. Invites me to a family get together at her house which I went to. Meet the parents and her fam. Their nice. I like them, they like me. Going great than she mentions she's going out to meet another guy. An old friend of hers from highschool. Now I'm thinking 'Okay oddness. What the heck is going on.' So I ask her who the fellow is and she explains that he's a friend from highschool who like her but she didn't reciprocate. Only recently after 3 years of having not spoken have they gotten back in touch. She talks about how she's got feelings for him now but he's moving away so she has GOT to see him. Oddly enough she kept mentioning how he and I were really similar which sorta bugged me. During the conversation I just listen. Outside I'm cool inside I'm :cuss: . So I go home and she goes out with him. I'm supposed to see her tommorow and I'm curious of how to procede. I mean I don't want to suddenly be like "ah well I've got things to do. I'll prolly never see you again toodle loo!" But than I'm obviously being a douche and I want to maintain a rep with people I meet cause you never know who you might see again or need in the future.

Now for a little back info on the girl. She's really inexperienced with guys herself. She's said she's never had a boyfriend or anything and she's a year older than I. She's cute and real sweet and rather likes me (I am assuming as a friend) but I suppose I've got the potential to be more. Obviously I don't want to push her since she feelings for the other dude. Yet I am finding myself in the friend rut again. I am seeing her tomorrow and I suppose I could ask her how things went with the other guy.
 

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If you DON'T want to be friends with this girl, kino her asap! No matter what her response is, you won't stay friends. Be sexual!

And don't listen to her talk about other guys. She's free to do whatever she wants unless you two have decided to be exclusive, but you'd better damned well not listen to her talk about it. What are you, her mom?
 

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Going out with another guy...HEELLLL No.Dump her..
 

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Going out with another guy...HEELLLL No.Dump her..
yeah, if you're looking for an actual relationship, that's probably good advice

Nice job getting the # tho. You are making progress, it seems. Now study the Holy Book of Pook (link at bottom of page) and continue in the path of Don Juan.
 

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Wow, she went out with another guy who she admits to having feelings for, so you are for sure her number 1 priority. Just kidding.
 

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Trinidad said:
am a firm believer of the whole "friends before lovers" ideology I do my utmost to treat women with respect just on a regular, not when I'm interested in them. As such I have tons of female friends, have never really had a girlfriend, and had 1 fling that lasted 2 weeks (but of course we're still friends
Read this again for me. So you are a firm believer in the ''friends before lovers'', but you should realize from your own experience that it don't work like that.

I'm not busting on you, I just wanted to bring that to your attention. Perhaps you could rethink this. Once a girl thinks of you as a friend, it's hard to be anything more. That's all I can say, but keep reading the DJ bible.
 

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Guy likes girl back in the day, disappears for 3 years. Comes back and wants to see her. She's like, omggg, he sounds soo sexxxy, I want to see him.

Well duh of course shes going to see him. And him, he'll probably of made a move (something you failed to do)

So, don't bring up the topic, but I think you've been already friend zoned.
 
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