First street pickup! Literally!

[ApocalypseCow]

Hey guys!

Well today marked a milestone for me. A personal goal was achieved.

I spent the early afternoon at the mall, unsuccesfully sarging (no approaches). I get home, feeing a little down, and decide to go for a run to get a little self-improvement in my day.

So, I run for about 3 miles and get to this shopping center. I walk by a gym, and I see this hot [an 8] girl getting ready to come out. I don't let opportunities like this slip me by anymore. I sit down on a bench and wait for her to come out. As she comes out, she immediately lights a cigaratte when she's out of sight from the gym! Well, this is ample fodder for a conversation!

Me: Hi, do you go to the gym here?
Her: Hi. Oh no, I work here.
Me: [laughing] And you smoke?
Her: [Looking embarassed] Yeah. Please don't tell anyone! We have this policy!
Me: I don't go to the gym here. I'm just running by.
.... More conversation....
Me: What's your name?
Her: Shannon. What's yours? [AND HERE SHE REACHES OUT HER HAND TO SHAKE MINE!]
Me: XYZ. Nice to meet you.
Her: Nice to meet you too.
Me: Well, I gotta run. Do you have a phone number? I'll give you a call sometimes. [Yeah, I know that was a little weak, but cut me some slack].
Her: [looking a little shocked]. Oh, yeah. Sure.
Me: Do you have a pen?
Her: No. [Looks frustrated that she doesn't have a pen.]
Me: Well, tell me the number and maybe I'll remember it!

And at this point, she gives me her number. She also repeats it a couple different ways so that I'll remember it! We say goodbye and I run into a drugstore and get a pen to write down the number.

So there it is, my first cold pickup. Here is my analysis:

Pros:
- She saw me being active (running).
- I looked her straight in the eye the whole time.
- I was smiling
- I kept it light, and negged her right off the bat about smoking.
- I demonstrated confidence.
- I'm not some meathead from the gym that was hitting on her.
- She gave me her number and tried to help me remember it. No word of a boyfriend or any other excuses.

Cons:
- I had run 3 miles and looked like hell. My hair was all windblown, I was sweaty, and hadn't shaved. Maybe this is a good thing?
- Our conversation wasn't the world's most stimulating exchange.
- She smokes.

I think I'll call her Tues or Wed and try to set up a coffee meeting for Thurs. Who knows if she'll agree, but I gave it a shot and that's what means the most to me. This was a major goal that I wanted to achieve, and I've finally done it.

 

[Imbrondir]

It's almost identical to my first street pickup

Congratulations! I know it felt good.

 

[PANK]

Got a good one for you. Ha every time a girl smokes infront of me i say you should quit its not that hard(4months now yey) then they look with admiration at me for quitting. But you can lie say you used to smoke and quit then you can run the posative feeling stuff like hey you realy feel great when you quit i love it cuz and i get a lot more respect cuz blah blah.

Wow am gonna try this one myself never though till now wow.

 

[stallion]

Great post!

I just don't agree with your view on that meathead and gym part. If guys go there just to hit on girls, sure, maybe they're meatheads but you can still do that plus work out at the same time.

 

[ApocalypseCow]

Originally posted by stallion
Great post!

I just don't agree with your view on that meathead and gym part. If guys go there just to hit on girls, sure, maybe they're meatheads but you can still do that plus work out at the same time.

I should have refined my statement. Of course, not all guys at the gym are meatheads. I was referring to the guys that have no game and try to attract women with their bodies alone [Obviously, this tactic works for many of them, but for a girl that works at the gym, she's probably bored with that type of thing].

 

[matius]

Well done...way to go man!

 

[One on One]

I think she was taken aback by how quickly you asked for her number after hardly talking. But, obviously she saw something in you and has a high IL + mystery right now! Next time, try to build more rapport, though. Sure beats anything I've done lately though. Good job.

 

[krd]

That was actually very well done. Maybe part of it was luck, but it's good to hear that a woman will not necessarily be threatened if you go for the number too soon. That's actually a fear of mine that has prevented me from even approaching many times. Just going for it and being successful--you must have been really proud. Of course, the hard part still hasn't arrived yet--trying to get the date!

 

[jakethasnake]

Fantastic. This might sound weird coming from me (an anonymous internet dude), but I'm proud of ya. Shiet, I feel giddy myself.

That was a solid street pickup. You should keep working on your street game -- right next to clubs and bars it is the hardest type of pick up. If you can do those with some ease then you should be set ANYWHERE.

Again, well done!

 

[ApocalypseCow]

Well, I called this girl last night. She seemed nervous and I found out she was only 19 (I'm 24, and consider anything under 21 outside of my range). It was a moot point anyway, since she said she had a boyfriend.

Oh well. I'm a little disappointed she wasn't available, but I'm still 110% happy that I made the approach and got the number. It's given me a lot of confidence and I am going to be approaching A LOT more.

 

[dontmindme]

it's weird how she gave you her number tho. do girls with boyfriends usually do that?

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by dontmindme
it's weird how she gave you her number tho. do girls with boyfriends usually do that?

They often do.

 

[Starman]

heh women are always looking for the BBD

Hey Apackoflips COw ,

How where you waiting on a bench..then said you had to go?

were you acting like you were taking a breather?

 

[ApocalypseCow]

Originally posted by Starman
heh women are always looking for the BBD

Hey Apackoflips COw ,

How where you waiting on a bench..then said you had to go?

were you acting like you were taking a breather?

Yeah, I was just sitting there with my elbows down on my knees. I was all sweaty, so it was obvious I had been running.

I was sitting through the whole conversation, until I got up and said I had to go (at which point I asked for the number). I said something like, "Well, I gotta start running again."

 

[Starman]

Good job out of you Paco.

was she responsive over the fone? or did you just fire her?

 

[ApocalypseCow]

Originally posted by Starman
Good job out of you Paco.

was she responsive over the fone? or did you just fire her?

She seemed nervous over the phone. I got the impression that this hasn't happened to her before. Girls in their mid-20's tend to be more confident. But this girl - who was 19 - seemed to have a wavering voice. She seemed more confident in person.

One thing I didn't mention is that I tried a cold pickup at the supermarket last week. I didn't number close, because I thought the girl was too old. Upon reflection, she was probably about 26 or so. Anyway, she was VERY responsive and actually prevented me from ending the conversation several times. She had a level of confidence that wasn't there in this younger girl.

 

[A1SteakSauce]

Props

AC, you've got some balls. Last summer I got lucky as hell this way, she was a 9 or 10, really the most amazing girl I've seen up close, she was new in town (2 days), and she came straight up to me on a street corner outside McD's! I convinced myself she was sent by God to please me and He would be angry if I didnt' accept His gift and that's how I managed to open my mouth and get things going. We talked for at least 15 minutes during which time she informed all about her job and how to call her and when, and then she really wanted me to stay and keep her company for lunch (!), but I cut it short.

I was wearing sweat-pants shorts (but not sweaty) downtown during the weekday and I think that made me stand-out from the typical lawyer/bureaucrat around here. Maybe running showed you were an active interesting guy not a couch potato. I think women around her want to meet someone exciting and different who doesn't trudge off and work for the man each morning.

ANyway, next time I see some hottie rattling off her digits to a DJ she just met I'll know that's you, bro!

A1

 

[BMW]

Me: Hi, do you go to the gym here?
Her: Hi. Oh no, I work here.
Me: [laughing] And you smoke?
Her: [Looking embarassed] Yeah. Please don't tell anyone! We have this policy!

See....you could have black-mailed her into giving you a BJ right there! You missed it.

 

[stallion]

AC, I still think you did great in putting the first foot forward into cold pickups again.

I'm tired of the club scene and how everybody only goes there to do pickups when your chance of finding a quality LTR is so slim and all you get are ONS girls.

Keep us posted with more pickups in many situations!

 

[NoMoreMisterNiceGuy]

I'm looking and waiting for a girl like this http://www.jaimekoeppe.com on
my next cold approach