I don't know anyone that is not afraid of rejections, and unfortunately I am one of the many. But having that fear isn't going to get you anywhere, and the truth is, no matter who you are, you will be rejected at least once in your life. That feeling is terrible for someone with a lot of insecurities, but on the road to DJ, we must all lose that insecurity. So I would like to hear some of you guys' past experiences on getting past the fear of rejections. Personally I look forward to be rejected, although that mentality is wrong if you're trying to hook up, but my plan is to get used to the rejections. Without fear of rejections, I am unstoppable and women can sense that or even see that in my body reactions. Please share...
First step after gaining the DJ knowledge.
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b_elusive_eyes
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Chances are you won't be rejected if you do all the surveying, body language and interest level thing correctly...make your move on girls that have shown interest and regarding the girls that havent yet...be patient and observe their behavior...never come across desperate or hurt by being rejected....only close on the girls that are game.....always put out a vibe that you are not interested in anyone...this will make you unique to the rest of the pack.
Starman
Master Don Juan
"Personally I look forward to be rejected"
Loser.
The thought of rejection..should be deprioritized behind the thought of hooking up.
Thats like going to the grocery store to buy apples..when already you have predetermined the grocery store is out of apples.
Think Like a Reject. Be a Reject.
Loser.
The thought of rejection..should be deprioritized behind the thought of hooking up.
Thats like going to the grocery store to buy apples..when already you have predetermined the grocery store is out of apples.
Think Like a Reject. Be a Reject.
jlujan
Don Juan
Next step is to simply aproach women, all women, beautiful or not, but DONT make the mistake of aproaching them with the goal of getting something emotional of physical, just aproach them as a friend and nothing else, in fact, if you do get signs of some interest, restraint yourself and stick to your plan.
Women can feel when a man is interested in them or when someone is just being friendly, when and if you master the way of aproaching women and making them start a fun and friendly conversation, then you will be ready and in a position to move on into other things.
Women can feel when a man is interested in them or when someone is just being friendly, when and if you master the way of aproaching women and making them start a fun and friendly conversation, then you will be ready and in a position to move on into other things.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Think a different way
Look forward to interacting with people, so rejection is not the issue.
The important thing is to develop the charisma to have people wanting to associate with the interesting person you are. Then rejection becomes less of an issue, because then it's not a matter of your adequacy, but a matter of your "fit," i.e., whether or not you're a "good match" for the gal you're chatting with. When your charisma develops enough, you'll even have women who are way incompatible with you wanting you.
Obviously the first thing to do is to be more social. Do things you enjoy, and meet people. One way I get to know a lot of interesting people is to go to check out a lot of live bands and art shows, and make it a point to chat with the musicians, artists, or whatever, whose work I enjoy and let them know it.
It's also important to have a good style, especially if it's unique. How you "carry yourself" is very important. If you have the presence of royalty, that's the first step to being treated like royalty. Develop your presence and social status, and others will be wondering whether or not you will accept them.
Look forward to interacting with people, so rejection is not the issue.
The important thing is to develop the charisma to have people wanting to associate with the interesting person you are. Then rejection becomes less of an issue, because then it's not a matter of your adequacy, but a matter of your "fit," i.e., whether or not you're a "good match" for the gal you're chatting with. When your charisma develops enough, you'll even have women who are way incompatible with you wanting you.
Obviously the first thing to do is to be more social. Do things you enjoy, and meet people. One way I get to know a lot of interesting people is to go to check out a lot of live bands and art shows, and make it a point to chat with the musicians, artists, or whatever, whose work I enjoy and let them know it.
It's also important to have a good style, especially if it's unique. How you "carry yourself" is very important. If you have the presence of royalty, that's the first step to being treated like royalty. Develop your presence and social status, and others will be wondering whether or not you will accept them.
I do not take rejections well, obviously has to do with my insecurities. I hang out with some of the best natural DJ's in the business, they attract women or they get women to follow them around. I see them get rejected often, although they're rarely cold-handed rejection, but they do get rejected after spitting their games. One of my friend, he's 6'2, 230 lb +, very very funny guy, anyone from young to old enjoy his company, charming rough-type kind of look. He's a geniunely good person, and resembles a lot about his family. He would go at these girls in the club and just take their hands and start dancing while spitting games, 2 out of 5 would reject him on a good night, sometime even 4 out of 5 on a lighter night. He brushes them off like nothing and move on still laughing, making jokes and spitting games. I can't do that, I can take 3 rejections before I call it the night. I am trying to find out the secret behind that type of mentality. You're all lying if you think that acting like your a fun person to hang out, not attractive to anyone and just go out to dance wont get you rejected...you obviously have never been out of the little town of yours and that little bar you called Cheers.
jlujan
Don Juan
Nobody takes rejection well, what matters is what you do about it, if you want to live a life like you are right now then live it, but if you want to experience different things you need to force yourself to make some changes.
Imagine.
That right now you would get a call from your doctor saying you had cancer and only had 1 month to live, would your fear of rejection matter? would you not kick yourself for wasting years of your life on fear of rejection instead of meeting and getting to know interesting women?
This is not about acting, very few people are natural DJs, or natural Salesmen, or natural soldiers, or natural anything, you need to force yourself to step out of your comfort zone in order to live life and be a man. I used to be a salesman a few years ago, i would hate talking to strangers and acting like i liked them, but i had to do it, and with training and time i was able not only to do that, but to do it well and even enjoy it, remember, its not acting if you make yourself believe its not acting.
jlujan
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Its you.
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Don't be such an a**hole htemorp their trying to help.