fkNiceGuys
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Hi,
This is my first post in this forum.
I have been an AFC all my life and am tired of always being pushed to the friend zone. The incident below is the last straw for me, I have to make changes to my attitude ...
I also would like advice from you guys about this...
This girl and I have been friends for a few years now. I used to help her a lot with her classes back when we studied together. She always said she liked me though probably in a friend kind of way and sometimes I caught her looking at me in a flirty kind of way too. Being the idiot that I was, I never made my move and waited for things to be perfect and nothing ever happened between us. We didn't keep in touch for a couple of years after I graduated and left.
Fast forward to last week. I went back to my college town to meet some of my buddies and she facebooked me saying she wanted to hangout. We hungout but once again I didn't make any moves on her primarily because it had been a while and I didn't want to scare her off. Anyways we hung out for the most part and I even held her hand at some points. After I left and went back to where I live and I couldn't stop thinking about her. I tried to call her and tell her but she was working all week and told me she would talk to me during the weekend.I didn't want to wait that long so I told her my feelings on facebook. That shocked her and she sent me a msg saying that she was actually waiting for someone else. She did not tell me the details about who she was waiting for but promised me that she would call me and let me know over the weekend. She hasn't called me yet and I'm not expecting a call from her either. She never told me about this guy while we were hanging out. I was heartbroken because I always thought that this girl liked me and even some of my friends told me that. When I look back at things I realize that I may have missed a lot of opportunities with her and would like some of you more experienced guys to analyze this for me. I understand this is an extremely AFC incident and I feel embarrassed to even post this here. But I have to change myself and this forum seems like the best place for me to learn.
Can anyone recommend some good articles on this site for me to begin my transformation?
This is my first post in this forum.
I have been an AFC all my life and am tired of always being pushed to the friend zone. The incident below is the last straw for me, I have to make changes to my attitude ...
I also would like advice from you guys about this...
This girl and I have been friends for a few years now. I used to help her a lot with her classes back when we studied together. She always said she liked me though probably in a friend kind of way and sometimes I caught her looking at me in a flirty kind of way too. Being the idiot that I was, I never made my move and waited for things to be perfect and nothing ever happened between us. We didn't keep in touch for a couple of years after I graduated and left.
Fast forward to last week. I went back to my college town to meet some of my buddies and she facebooked me saying she wanted to hangout. We hungout but once again I didn't make any moves on her primarily because it had been a while and I didn't want to scare her off. Anyways we hung out for the most part and I even held her hand at some points. After I left and went back to where I live and I couldn't stop thinking about her. I tried to call her and tell her but she was working all week and told me she would talk to me during the weekend.I didn't want to wait that long so I told her my feelings on facebook. That shocked her and she sent me a msg saying that she was actually waiting for someone else. She did not tell me the details about who she was waiting for but promised me that she would call me and let me know over the weekend. She hasn't called me yet and I'm not expecting a call from her either. She never told me about this guy while we were hanging out. I was heartbroken because I always thought that this girl liked me and even some of my friends told me that. When I look back at things I realize that I may have missed a lot of opportunities with her and would like some of you more experienced guys to analyze this for me. I understand this is an extremely AFC incident and I feel embarrassed to even post this here. But I have to change myself and this forum seems like the best place for me to learn.
Can anyone recommend some good articles on this site for me to begin my transformation?