First Post, need help!

[Smoke Screen]

So this is my first post but im been lurking around some time and reading others problems, posts and DJB even printed The Book of Pook and read it. Im 20yo my English isnt so good which you might see when you start reading this, if you start reading this. Im never been good at school especialy at middleschool because i got bullied back then, maybe thats reason why my English isnt that good. I never had a GF not even girl friend, im never even kissed girl (cheek or hand dosent count) so yes that means im still virgin, i dont have lot of friends only nerd or AFC friends, its kinda hard to find friends here so nowdays im going out alone. I used to swim on swimming team and practice martial art but not anymore started to play some stupid computer games with nerd friends.

I want some good thoughts, answers, ideas etc. to help me out from this situation.


Im not good giving ratings and i hate it so i give fast description and info. I saw this girl first at my part-time job but i was working so much that i didnt have so much time to speak to her or maybe i was too shy/no balls to talk to her back then, i dont know. after that at club where i think we really met, got her number that night she had a BF back then. She isnt model but i like her like that blond hair, very beatiful blue eyes, kinda skinny but not too skinny (she should get some few extra kilos maybe i should **** her pregnant lol) and i think she is kinda shy (I remember that i told her that one time "you are kinda shy", "maybe little bit" she said back then).

Last week we bumb into each other on telephone shop we talked bit and i said that i was going to call her today to suggest that we should go to see movie together at this weekend i also said that i have tickets already but she said she was going to see her mom and dad in any moment to eat dinner with them and pick up some berrys to make milkshake. After that she said that she is moved to my city, i said her that she should show her new apartment to me. While we were walking asked that what she ate today "just one bread slice" i tickled her tummy and said that you should eat more than that she responded with smile and maybe laugh. She was almost constantly touching her hair and looking away embarrassed from me. One point while we were walking i was going to hold her hand she just smiled and took her hand back. Well we went to her apartment she quickly showed her place, i sat down to her bed and she sat down next to me on her couch she called to her mom and then she said she should go to see her mom and dad to other city and would be back at next week i carried some boxes to her car and hugged before she left. I called her earlier that day and said i needed to know if she coming to movie or not, she said she can't come. Well i said "i ask Candy then."i though that she was crying while we talked on phone because he sounded like that, called her minute after that and asked her "did you cry when i called you recently?" she said "no, i was sleeping". I called her next day and said that let's watch movie at your home next week and drink some milkshake made from berrys that you are going to pick me at weekend, she said "lets see that on next week if im not busy".

In my opinion this last week coincidence when i met her at telephone shop went kinda well, ofc i could kissed her goodbye or gave her fast **** on her new house when we went inside etc. well perfect is boring anyway.

Until now got ****ing text message from my friend and he said that he was listening her while she talked to my friend on work today (where i used to work too) some time and he said my action dosent look good what im doing with this girl and maybe is best to move on before situation blows up.
So i asked
"What dosent look good?"
i was kinda supprised about this
got answer to that question few mins he said "That you are trying all time suggest "Let's go coffee, let's go movie etc." when she isnt clearly interested about that".
"Situation blows up" what do you mean about that, what do you think could happen?" I asked again.
"You are worried about that thing for nothing".
i send right after last message.
and then got another message where he said that
"What im heard, its best just leave and let it go".
i send message while i was going to shower where i said
"Okay, maybe then you tell me what are you heard?"
"Well generally, that you been pushing too hard and Britt (not real name, took that name from book next to me) isnt interested. Looks like stalking to me".
"In fact i suppose to not talk about this with you". i said after shower.
"But if someone isnt interested to be with your company you should think others feelings too. you should cut contact with her."
so should i think others feelings too? lol
I said to my friend that "For the record, you shouldnt mess things like this in my or anybody elses situation, that makes things worse. Sometimes its better to let things be and let happen."
Ofc I was angry about this because first thing on morning right after im awake is this kind of message. Usually he dosent call me or send me messages. Always going out with nerd friends to movie, eat pizza or play computer games at home with friends

- Yes im asked this girl out about three times but not in row always waited about one week, she is always been busy when i asked.

- First time when i asked her out she said that she was going to be with her BF. Btw she broke up with her BF about 3 weeks after that maybe less and she is single now, could it be something do about me?
- Second time i asked her to cafe she was looking new apartment with her dad whole week. She didnt know which day she could come and said that its too hot out there i have no air conditioning in her car. Well it was kinda hot out there back then.
- Third time is last week. Well i went to watch that movie alone then and definetly i dont let her know that.

- Should i call her this week or wait to next week because of this message ****?

- Should i tell her about what i heard or let it be?

- Should i do like my AFC friend says?

- Or maybe im over reacting this?

- I want taste that milkshake this week so badly.

all kind of things play parade on my head atm i think i need painkillers soon because im starting to get headache, milkshake would be nice too.

So this is it looks kinda long post feel free to ask more questions about this, if you want and need, im trying to answer them best i can.

 

[Scars]

Despite your friend being an AFC, he's also a really good source of information being where he works. The conversation, a long with the events that lead up to her recent actions lead me to believe she just isn't interested.

I know it sucks because you haven't really had too much luck with the ladies in the past, so when one starts showing a little interest or attention towards you it's easy to start putting all your eggs in one basket.

Your best bet is to let go and move on. There's also a chance she may come back after you ignore her for awhile, but don't count on that. Try meeting other woman and spinning more plates. It keeps your head clear and you don't get too focused just on one girl. Try talking to multiple girls.

At the same time, keep focusing on yourself and improving yourself. The whole intro to your original post you put yourself down a lot it seemed. If there is something about yourself that you don't like then change it. But change it for YOU, not somebody else. Always keep improving. Keep climbing that latter of success. Work on yourself and your happiness. The girls will then start coming to YOU.

Good luck man.

-Scars

 

[Smoke Screen]

You are right Scars. I'm been talking to multiple girls (mostly vendors at all kind of stores, shops and cafes etc.) and im coming better each day at that, but everybody seems to have BFs nowdays. It's also kinda hard find friends here (if you dont have some sort of social circle or something like that) and talk to strangers, girls or anyone, that you are never seen before. Imo in my country peoples are not very social i mean that none speaks to strangers that they are never seen before, Atleast that's not common or something (I might be totaly wrong about this too).

But anyway ty for your reply and help. I hope that you are been understand what im been written mostly.