'First love"

[ricodragos]

Hey,
It will be intriguing if we, the new guys .. who are trying to improve emotionaly and get better as a MAN .. can learn from you more experienced guys trough the power of example.

It is a known fact that in every boy`s life there is a woman who makes him a man, but that woman will never be his wife.
Lets make this a thread about your FIRST LOVE STORY,
-what it meant to you, -
-how did you felt in that relationship,
-how did the breakup go,
-how did you felt after getting over her,
-what happened after she knew you got over,
-how this changed your behavior with girls,friends,yourself!

From my point of view it will be an eye-opener to hear the FIRST LOVE story from guys like bradd80, muscleman, nismo, and so on ...
Hope to hear from u soon.

 

[Packers2010]

i'll go first!

-what it meant to you, -
would have taken a bullet for her.

-how did you felt in that relationship,
we didn't " go out" i was the only guy she knew when she broke up with her ltr. she just
****ed me to get over him ( nice bonus for me was a virgin at the time)

-how did the breakup go,
since she was my "oneitis girl" not. not good at all. i called her a sloot and now we don't even talk. we used to be good friends

-how did you felt after getting over her,
pretty good. though i don't think i will be " fully" over her.

-what happened after she knew you got over,
nothing.. i don't even think she knows.. maybe she thinks i'm not. who knows. we hardly talk now.. it's only when she sees me. i haven't seen her in.. oh.. close to 2 years now.

-how this changed your behavior with girls,friends,yourself!
i would say no. though i knew from the first time i seen her. " she was my one" so to speak. i don't think like that anymore. though i don't think i will be attracted to another one of my friends like that ever again. i know now to make a move first then be friends later. not the other way around.

 

[The Gambler]

First loves are almost ALWAYS a f*cking disaster. The sooner a guy gets over that horsesh*t, the better.

 

[JohnChops]

**** I'll save my spot and post mine ... it hurt like a fvcking b1tch but it makes you stronger as they say. Will post later.

 

[ricodragos]

Did any of you guys knows some1 who ended with their first?

 

[C-quenced]

-what it meant for you,

It meant everything to me. At the time it just felt like it was meant to be. Something that good just had to last forever because life couldn't be as cruel as to make it come to an abrupt end. I actually wanted to marry this girl. Nothing in the world could compare in beauty or personality to this 17 year old female I foolishly thought I had possession of (I was 15 at the time). To me she epitomized perfection.

-how did you felt in that relationship,

Like I snorted 5 lbs of cocaine and shot up on heroin. That's a lethal combination but man did I feel so ****ing good with my first girlfriend. I was on top of the world. The son of God. I could do anything I wanted and nothing could stand in my way or even stop me. This was easily one of the best times of my life. I won't lie I do miss the feeling and we never even had sex. At the time I felt that not ****ing her was a sign of respect.

-How did the breakup go,

I mentioned that the relationship was easily one of the best times of my life. The total reversal of that was the breakup and the years of sadness to follow. It was ****ing miserable. A melancholic chapter in my life as I went through severe depression for a very long time after coming off that high. It was a disastrous situation and I've embarrassed myself numerous times by acting like a junkie needing his next fix over this one girl.

-how did you felt after getting over her,

I haven't seen her in over 10 years. I don't know if I've gotten over her but I certainly learned to live without. It does feel good to get rid of the dependency and finally have some control over my life.

-what happened after she knew you got over

I don't think she'll ever know and it really doesn't matter.

-how this changed your behavior with girls,friends,yourself!

Looking back at all my past failures I can say that people (especially women) aren't who they say they are or who they present themselves to be on the exterior. I'm still trying to figure myself out as I'm still susceptible to mistakes which I'm not very proud to admit, but I have become wiser and more aware throughout the years.

 

[VladPatton]

Just thinking about it gives me douche chills. The Gambler has it down 100%

 

[ricodragos]

Till now no one here compares with my story im waiting to see some total AFC guy who divided the earth for his first and after the agonizing pain rised to be one great man in all aspects of life.

This isnt a quiz, those questions are only for referral. Tell us a story, a great one!

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

haven't been there yet, probably never will

 

[Packers2010]

First loves are almost ALWAYS a f*cking disaster. The sooner a guy gets over that horsesh*t, the better.

yes. yes they are.

unforgettably. i haven't had a girl since..so it's a touchy subject

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

Did any of you guys knows some1 who ended with their first?

As in the guy was the one who ended the relationship? I ended my first love so I guess my story applies.

I was bitter throughout much of high school because all the girls I liked and went after ended up rejecting me and I never got anywhere with any girl. I went through an awkward phase for most of high school growing into my 6'2" body. Because of this I was a bit of an ass to most people.

In my senior year I became friends with a girl who I used to openly dislike and she disliked me, but due to friend circles we made amends to not hate on each other. We became closer, she actually helped me try to get the girls I was interested in but it wasn't until after graduation that I realized I had liked her all along. The day before she left for college we kissed (it was my first kiss). We started dating and she was my first everything. She went to school 5 hours away but would take a bus ride every 3-4 weeks so we could see each other.

She changed the person who I am today for the better, she showed me that not all women are shallow and heartless, and most of all she showed me how a relationship should be. We dated for 20 months and I started getting distant due to the distractions I faced by being far away from each other so I ended it. It wasn't pretty, I rebounded pretty quickly at first but there were times when I would get so upset if I saw a picture of us. Some nights I would get upset just thinking about the past.

We got back together 2 months later and now have been dating again for 6 months now, so in a sense I never actually broke it off completely, but I don't think I would ever actually get over her if we did break up permanently. Your first loves opens your eyes to what you will likely try to model your future relationships after, so I don't see how people could forget it.

 

[nismo-4]

Hey,

Lets make this a thread about your FIRST LOVE STORY,

what it meant to you, -

It meant a lot to me because I used to be the butt of jokes in high school because I didn't have a girlfriend. I was a totally different person.

-how did you felt in that relationship,

On top of the world. She was a dime piece from California and I was just wearing a suit like a British game show host. I needed some luck with women and this was like winning the Powerball.

-how did the breakup go,

I caught her ass creepin' and I had to cut her loose. But the guy she was creepin with decided to act tough, and I had to teach his ass a lesson.

-how did you felt after getting over her,

Like a whole new man. Complaining usually falls on deaf ears. You always need to accept the fact that your princess can be in another castle at any time.

-what happened after she knew you got over,

Hell if I know, and I don't give a f**k.

-how this changed your behavior with girls,friends,yourself!

I learned that there's no soulmate, and that all women have more than one man and lots of options always.

Read betw- And that's how it went.

 

[5string]

I was a junior in high school. Got with this smokin hot Italian chick until I graduated and found myself in the Army. After coming back from overseas I started seeing her again. We talked. She said she wanted to get married and start a family. I told her I was off to a Big10 school and was going to finish college. Even said she could come with until I finished. She declined and said she wanted to marry now, not later (on her terms). I declined, went off to college and she stayed in town, married a loser and popped out at least one kid. I was really into her but hey, I made the right decision at the time.

Since then, I graduated, went on to work hard and consider myself a success. Made my mistakes as we all do but I'm happy.

Always wondered how she ended up and what she looks like now.

 

[sageproduct]

-what it meant to you

Just ended a week and a half ago, and it meant a good deal to me. I've had stronger feelings for other girls before, but she was the first one who ever reciprocated at all.

-how did you felt in that relationship

Content and fulfilled. Something that had been missing my entire life was there for the first time ever. I wasn't high, I wasn't on top of the world, I was just content.

how did the breakup go

We weren't even in a relationship, it was a 1.5 month fling. Breakup was a 2 minute conversation in which I told her to stop seeing her ex-BF and she said she couldn't, and so I told her goodbye.

how did you felt after getting over her

Don't feel too bad right now. I'm not completely over her, but when I think of her, I feel good, not bad.

-what happened after she knew you got over

Well she probably thinks I'm not. I deleted her on FB and have completely gone NC. So idk.

-how this changed your behavior with girls,friends,yourself!

Romance/love story is finally debunked in my mind. My need for validation has been reduced ever so slightly, as I finally got a little share of the pie (affection). But I want more. And I've gained self-respect for walking away.

 

[Young Juan]

I prefer to talk about my "Third Love"....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eqmRYIe14w

Seriously though, not sure if I've ever really been in love.