First dates and no second dates.

[Jack Hensy]

I had a date with a cute woman I met though a dating site. We texted non-stop sexually before first date.
I asked her to wear black pantyhose on our first date. She showed up looking like her photos and wearing black stockings. I flirted with her and she flirted back.
Of course, after a drink I started kissing her at the bar and flirting with her more -- much like the texts.
She was playing with her hair and smiling at me and kissing. Then after 2 hours we ended the date.
Walked her back to her Hummer and I gave her a hugged and she grabbed and me and said kiss me more. So we did. Then said goodbyes. I texted her an hour later telling I had a good time and liked her panty hose..and it was a nice touch. She texted back and said yes it was great date.

I waited a few days and texted her back to say "hey how is your day?" and nothing.

I get that a lot with women.
Maybe I talk too much? Maybe too personal with them? I tell them fun stories. They find me interesting ---at least that is what they say to me. They always compliment me and tell me I am hot. We kiss and really show lots of eye contact and smiling at me.
I play all my cards right and then they disappear. My breath is fresh, I smell great, look good, dress sexy, brand new clothes, drive decent car.
Not sure why they bolt after first date.

 

[dustmuffin]

I had a date with a cute woman I met though a dating site. We texted non-stop sexually before first date.
I asked her to wear black pantyhose on our first date. She showed up looking like her photos and wearing black stockings. I flirted with her and she flirted back.
Of course, after a drink I started kissing her at the bar and flirting with her more -- much like the texts.
She was playing with her hair and smiling at me and kissing. Then after 2 hours we ended the date.
Walked her back to her Hummer and I gave her a hugged and she grabbed and me and said kiss me more. So we did. Then said goodbyes. I texted her an hour later telling I had a good time and liked her panty hose..and it was a nice touch. She texted back and said yes it was great date.

I waited a few days and texted her back to say "hey how is your day?" and nothing.

I get that a lot with women.
Maybe I talk too much? Maybe too personal with them? I tell them fun stories. They find me interesting ---at least that is what they say to me. They always compliment m and tell me I am hot. We kiss and really show lots of eye contact and smiling at me.
I play all my cards right and then they disappear. My breath is fresh, I smell great, look good, dress sexy, brand new clothes, drive decent car.
Not sure why they bolt after first date.

You texted within an hour of date? Mistake...call to set up dates...don't text

 

[Kailex]

"Hey, how is your day?"

I wouldn't answer either unless it's one of my parents, maybe.

 

[Jack Hensy]

One "sent text" that is boring is not going to be a deal breaker. That's very sophomoric thinking. Does every text have to be sexy and exciting? I know from experience I have sent plenty of boring texts and lots of sexy texts and was still in a great or had great dates thereafter.
And texting an hour after date is not a deal breaker either. I have done that with some girls that lead to long term relationships in the past. So no points to that one.

Lately my game has been off. I have had ten dates in the last 2 months and they all ended after first date. Some have gone 4-5 dates though.
She sent a text to me jus a few minutes ago and that's the vibe I am getting from her. I think she believes I am a player and feels hurt that I blew her off for a few days. Its clear. Some women don't like guys who spin plates. I do play the numbers a lot.
Sometimes spinning 3,4 girls at once.

 

[Stagger Lee]

I think you just didn't have enough physical attraction with her. There's really not a lot you can do about that. My experience is you meet a girl online and if she doesn't get sexual on the first date or make it pretty clear she wants to but is just waiting till the next date as a formality, then they never wanted to meet up again. Maybe trying being a little more mysterious and pulled back, and not make your intentions known until later into the meet up.

 

[Jack Hensy]

Stagger Lee I agree. I will try the mysterious and pulled back approach next time. I did get laid a lot more on first dates when I was aloof or unsure of how I felt about her.
My body language used to be unreceptive, aloof, and sat the bar looking straight ahead while the girl was leaned into me and turning towards me.
Sometimes that offends a woman when you are not sexually into her and they want to know why and want you more. However, it can backfire and some women just leave the date feeling pissed off and rejected.

So being slightly aloof works great. Next time I wont flirt as much. Funny enough, when our date ended I was aloof and said goodbye ready to walk away and she pulled me in and said "wait....aren't you going to kiss me more?! Kiss me again."

 

[MOTU]

Why didn't you bang her on the first date? Maybe she was looking for some c0ck and when you didn't give it to her, decided to look around a bit.

But it does concern me that this is happening over and over... Makes me wonder if you are doing something that you don't realize you are doing.

 

[Jack Hensy]

I did try to nail her on the first date. But she had to go come to her kids. lol. It was a Tuesday night and she had told me a few days before the date she had to be home at 8pm. We met at 6pm. That is why I flirted with her so much and made out with her at the bar. I was trying to escalate it before she had to go home to her kids and get her in the hummer and sex her. But she pulled back sometimes.

 

[Glumix]

Read Anti-Dump Machine in the Bible.

My point is you are overly sexual. So you meet girls who just wanna know they are still attractive and want some fun on their Tuesday night and then leave.

If they want to be kissed then tell them they will have to wait the second or third date. That's just about knowing what you are looking for. I would do that with regular plates or LTR. Not for ONS obviously.

 

[nismo-4]

Read Anti-Dump Machine in the Bible.

My point is you are overly sexual. So you meet girls who just wanna know they are still attractive and want some fun on their Tuesday night and then leave.

If they want to be kissed then tell them they will have to wait the second or third date. That's just about knowing what you are looking for. I would do that with regular plates or LTR. Not for ONS obviously.

You're just not that attractive looks wise or value wise. They just want attention. OR, they just want someone to fill the beta role and when you show you won't be her new orbiter, attention provider, etc., she has failed. But no second dates means you failed the first. No worse than a corporate job interview.

If they don't respond after a few days, just text them that you started having sex with a new woman and move on.

 

[Huffman]

Funky. From the way you wrote it I thought you did great at first, maybe minus the text. But apparently she forgot about all that feel-good the next day!? Sucks.

This kind of attraction comes and goes quickly. As nismo writes, she may just have wanted a guy to shower her with kisses for the evening (women don't get horny in the way we do, so even after all this foreplay she can easily refuse sex).

Girls can go from hot to cold in a minute. I find that, looking back over the years, the only thing that got the girls hooked BIG time was when I pulled off something EXTREMELY ballsy (and she let me get away with it). Once you got that hook then you can play the game hard for some time. Sadly I don't manage it too often! I get alot of dates with lukewarm interest like you.