Okay, this weekend I've finally got a date with the girl I've liked for a long time. She's easily an HB8 or 9 and I'm really shy around people--especially girls. How can I deal with this? And do you have any first date tips? Thanks, guys.
First date this weekend; I'm shy and nervous!
- Thread starter WingHead
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MMm how many hours have you got?
You need to practice, talking to strangers, holding eye contact, smiling, being friendly.
REad the stuff on this sites, but really try to get as much practice withs strangers and girls. and don't think of her as the be all end all, change your mindset, she's a girl what could potentually go out with YOU, not you with her, its you, and she could go oout with YOU. Your the guy, manly,. confident, she comes to you, you act despitre her words and decisions. Relax, deep breathes.
I'm not the best at this yet, but i thought i try my best
You need to practice, talking to strangers, holding eye contact, smiling, being friendly.
REad the stuff on this sites, but really try to get as much practice withs strangers and girls. and don't think of her as the be all end all, change your mindset, she's a girl what could potentually go out with YOU, not you with her, its you, and she could go oout with YOU. Your the guy, manly,. confident, she comes to you, you act despitre her words and decisions. Relax, deep breathes.
I'm not the best at this yet, but i thought i try my best
jeffthechef
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haha..you watch Hitch? that **** is good..cept for his insecurity about love
ANYWAYS...first dates are always fun..
you don't want to spend the whole time getting to know each other...but you do want to have a nice converstion...but honestly, dont try and structure it beforehand..Conan said on the Actor's Studio
"The funniest things are always those that are spontaneous and unplanned."
same goes with the date...you start with one thing..and it leads to another and another...all you really need is conversational skills, kino, and a calm disposition
think about it this way...she's already said yes to hanging out with you, and if it's a date, then you've already got it done...your job is simply not to screw it up..that was from hitch
smile+talk+joke+kino = fun night
ANYWAYS...first dates are always fun..
you don't want to spend the whole time getting to know each other...but you do want to have a nice converstion...but honestly, dont try and structure it beforehand..Conan said on the Actor's Studio
"The funniest things are always those that are spontaneous and unplanned."
same goes with the date...you start with one thing..and it leads to another and another...all you really need is conversational skills, kino, and a calm disposition
think about it this way...she's already said yes to hanging out with you, and if it's a date, then you've already got it done...your job is simply not to screw it up..that was from hitch
smile+talk+joke+kino = fun night
NewAndImproved
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You'll be nervous and shy this weekend then. Just being blunt about it...You won't change overnight. That said, you probably won't do as badly as you imagine yourself doing. The date might start out roughly but pick up steam as you get more comfortable. Plus, you have time on you side. You'll get better.
I didn't go on my first real date until I was a freshman in college. I was quiet, funny at times...but she called me out on my relative silence. And yet, she continued to see me.
I didn't go on my first real date until I was a freshman in college. I was quiet, funny at times...but she called me out on my relative silence. And yet, she continued to see me.
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Pretend you're going out with a good guy friend.
Except this time you're going to touch your guy friend and kiss him.
So, just act it out as if she was your guy friend. You want to be natural, calm and funny, like with your buddies when you play video games at 2 A.M. while choking on left-over cold pizza because your best friend is snoring during his sleep and is talking to strawberries.
Except this time you're going to touch your guy friend and kiss him.
So, just act it out as if she was your guy friend. You want to be natural, calm and funny, like with your buddies when you play video games at 2 A.M. while choking on left-over cold pizza because your best friend is snoring during his sleep and is talking to strawberries.
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.