I am in my early 20’s very new to this community and just starting to take dating seriously while halfway through the Rational Male.
I asked this girl out the other day I met on Hinge (I know I shouldn’t be using them but just as a backup until everything goes back to normal) to go out on Saturday. I told her a place to meet up but she told she’ll be driving and she has a better spot so I just went with it (I don’t drive). She kept texting me about my day and hers and I would reply with a brief funny response or went on with the conversation if I was genuinely curious. The night before she said she had to go to her friend’s birthday and was staying out of town. I told her it’s okay to meet the day after as long as “she’d make it up to me”. On the day of the date she told me she’ll come pick me up so I said alright and we went to someplace near the lake and started a small bonfire. Everything was going alright until her friends showed out of nowhere and joined us for the rest of the night. I was kinda quiet because the way I am in larger groups, but engaged in the conversation and went along with the whole thing. I’m okay with not going out with her again but don’t mind having her around because she seemed chill. I honestly am just starting to come out of the chump mentality so I would appreciate for you all to point the mistakes I made and how to come out of what seems to be a gutter
You didnt tell us how the night ended.......
*Nothing wrong with OLD if it works for you
*You gave her total control over EVERYTHING about the date, never do that again...... shyt like that ends you up stranded somewhere with a bunch of ****blockers you have zero interest in getting to know. Your time is to precious to be wasted like that.
*Never do group meetings/couples dating before you fvcked the woman, especially when you are not comfortable in groups. You wanted a date with her and not a group meeting! If a woman forces this kind of shyt on you, be polite, wish everyone a good night and leave without anything further. (thats why you dont let them take you to places you cant get home easy)
There is no need to for you to get comfortable with group-/couple dates. You go on a first date to get pvssy, not to meet her friends. You got your own friends, if you want to party and have fun, go with them.
*Dont reach out to her. If she contacts you, set up a date on YOUR terms. If she objects-> next.
