High Voltage
Don Juan
Hi Everyone,
This post is mainly for those who have just started dating, but I'd like to know if you think a 1 hour coffee date was appropriate for a first date (too short?).
Thanks mainly to this site I managed to get my first date ever. About me: 22 virgin, never kissed, about average looks. About her: a nice girl (not slu*ty, etc.)
Went out with her for a 1 hour coffee date, early evening. My game was anything but tight since I'm still learning. For example, I met her, got the number, and called *3 weeks later*. We were both busy, next I called her *3 months later* and set up this date. I emailed her first to ask about the specific day. Date went well, bit of kino, we both laughed lots.
Ended up kiss closing her (short, open mouth, no tongue) at the end of the date. First kiss of course, I was not terribly confident but managed to connect lips in a somewhat pleasurable experience.
The point here is *not* how the date went, or if I will get another, or even if I will end up having s*x with her. What I learned from my date was this: IT'S NOT THAT BAD!
All day I was nervous about it; what I would talk about, knowing that I should kiss her but didn't know how, blah, blah, blah. I can honestly say that once I picked her up I was not that nervous at all. I never 'planned' to kiss her, the thought just popped into my mind at the appropriate time and I went for it.
Another thing - I always thought kissing would be heaven on earth. In reality it was merely... pleasurable. That's it. So if you haven't kissed a girl, it is probably not what you've made it out to be.
Another significant point I'd like to make here is that after *all* the screwups I made in the process the chick was *still* interested. IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, IT WILL BE OKAY!! Seems to me you don't need to be perfect to get dates.
There were lots of things she said/did that I *could* read into and think over. You know what? I'M NOT GOING TO! I'm not going to analyze the small things in this date. I'm only going to focus on the basic feeling I got: I enjoyed the date and so did she. That's all I'm going to care about!
Yes I'm going to call her and set up another date. I will continue to follow my gut instinct and do what it says (with a few DJ skills thrown in). Screw the brain. It is good for getting diplomas, but when it comes to dating, thorough analysis be dam*ed.
- HV
This post is mainly for those who have just started dating, but I'd like to know if you think a 1 hour coffee date was appropriate for a first date (too short?).
Thanks mainly to this site I managed to get my first date ever. About me: 22 virgin, never kissed, about average looks. About her: a nice girl (not slu*ty, etc.)
Went out with her for a 1 hour coffee date, early evening. My game was anything but tight since I'm still learning. For example, I met her, got the number, and called *3 weeks later*. We were both busy, next I called her *3 months later* and set up this date. I emailed her first to ask about the specific day. Date went well, bit of kino, we both laughed lots.
Ended up kiss closing her (short, open mouth, no tongue) at the end of the date. First kiss of course, I was not terribly confident but managed to connect lips in a somewhat pleasurable experience.
The point here is *not* how the date went, or if I will get another, or even if I will end up having s*x with her. What I learned from my date was this: IT'S NOT THAT BAD!
All day I was nervous about it; what I would talk about, knowing that I should kiss her but didn't know how, blah, blah, blah. I can honestly say that once I picked her up I was not that nervous at all. I never 'planned' to kiss her, the thought just popped into my mind at the appropriate time and I went for it.
Another thing - I always thought kissing would be heaven on earth. In reality it was merely... pleasurable. That's it. So if you haven't kissed a girl, it is probably not what you've made it out to be.
Another significant point I'd like to make here is that after *all* the screwups I made in the process the chick was *still* interested. IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, IT WILL BE OKAY!! Seems to me you don't need to be perfect to get dates.
There were lots of things she said/did that I *could* read into and think over. You know what? I'M NOT GOING TO! I'm not going to analyze the small things in this date. I'm only going to focus on the basic feeling I got: I enjoyed the date and so did she. That's all I'm going to care about!
Yes I'm going to call her and set up another date. I will continue to follow my gut instinct and do what it says (with a few DJ skills thrown in). Screw the brain. It is good for getting diplomas, but when it comes to dating, thorough analysis be dam*ed.
- HV
