First Date Can’t Tell If She’s Into Me

[darksprezzatura]

The name of the game is compliance.

Girls into you will make it easy for you.

You lead, she follows.

Look at her eyes and look down at her lips, if she looks down at your lips, she wants to kiss you.

At that point, you need to go for it and risk being rejected.

There are tonnes of women out there who'll make it all easy for you given you provide them value.

Escalate, escalate, escalate till she says STOP!

Freeze out and continue your own thing.

She's just another one in your rotation.

 

[twoface262]

So update -.. It's been a week of no contact, and I've moved on to the next lol

The problem is that I'm still confused, because she is still on social media with me and views all my posts (sometimes the first person to view my stuff). Uncertainty really is a b^tch.

I think I'm going to give it another week then randomly pop up and be like "Hey I'm going to [whatever is open], you should join." If she doesn't respond or say no then I'll drop it for good.

 

[CopperHead]

So update -.. It's been a week of no contact, and I've moved on to the next lol

The problem is that I'm still confused, because she is still on social media with me and views all my posts (sometimes the first person to view my stuff). Uncertainty really is a b^tch.

I think I'm going to give it another week then randomly pop up and be like "Hey I'm going to [whatever is open], you should join." If she doesn't respond or say no then I'll drop it for good.

Let her. Stay no contact. Do not reach out to her unless she reaches out to you first. Her viewing your post can be a good sign, but ignore it. If she starts liking your post, ignore that as well. What she does should not affect you. Why does it matter? You've moved on. Wait for her to contact you. You want her to chase you at this point. If you reach out to her you will be giving up your power. Remember, you are the prize. She chases you. If she contacts you, make your move. If not, you've moved on.

 

[teacha]

So update -.. It's been a week of no contact, and I've moved on to the next lol

The problem is that I'm still confused, because she is still on social media with me and views all my posts (sometimes the first person to view my stuff). Uncertainty really is a b^tch.

I think I'm going to give it another week then randomly pop up and be like "Hey I'm going to [whatever is open], you should join." If she doesn't respond or say no then I'll drop it for good.

what are u confused about? It’s clear to me she’s not interested in you at all. So what it if she views your posts on social media? That don’t mean anything.

 

[twoface262]

what are u confused about? It’s clear to me she’s not interested in you at all. So what it if she views your posts on social media? That don’t mean anything.

I'm confused because I want to know what I did wrong and make the corrections for future perspective partners. Still blue pilled, but don't believe in reaching back out once the ball is in her court. The fact I'm being ghosted makes me more interested though...

 

[Visionist]

You probably didn't do anything wrong. This chick is simply uninterested. Remember that she has a lot of guys contacting her. Did all the other guys she's ignoring do something wrong? No. They simply aren't her priority and that's not gonna change.

 

[AttackFormation]

You probably didn't do anything wrong. This chick is simply uninterested. Remember that she has a lot of guys contacting her. Did all the other guys she's ignoring do something wrong? No. They simply aren't her priority and that's not gonna change.

Yup. Guys will greatly overestimate how much is in their control, and how much they should obsess over control. You need a philosophy of acceptance, relaxation and detachment or youll create your own neurosis.

 

[twoface262]

Yeah, you guys are right. I need to work on my game a little more and escalate without showing too much attraction or availability.

What's weird was about a week after that date she texts me and asks me to add her in a game so we could play together. I added her then told her some friends and I were going hiking this weekend, I said she should join and that it'd be fun. She told me she doesn't know her schedule, but would "let me know." I'm dropping it. No point in chasing after an unreceptive partner when there are plenty of girls who would be more receptive.

Actually... Gonna take another girl with me this weekend so it's good.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

So I met this girl on OLD. Moved to texting after a short exchange and we set up our first date. We didn’t talk at all but maybe a Snapchat once/twice a day. It was hard to tell if she was receptive and I figured she’d end up blowing off the first date. However, the day of the date she randomly texts me (after no response that day or the day before) and we go.

The date goes EXTREMELY well. We talked for over three hours and got along extremely well.

At the end of the date I set up the next date but the day is TBD due to her work schedule needing to be updated — she said she’d let me know but wanted another date. However, since that first date she’s gone back into the passive stage.

Is this something women do to seem like they’re not interested, or should I assume she’s genuinely not interested and move on?

Jpaix aka Jeffy Allen caller it mouth rape. Asking to kiss is phagggotry. Its anti seduction as is asking to ****.

Similar to the other thread, your focus misses the mark.

Lead. Set the pace. She either takes the bsit or next.

 

[jaymbrs]

I had one like this. Liking all my posts and even went as far as paying for drinks to keep me as an orbitor. When it came time for business, she would use the "we're just friends" bull**** even though we weren't. I didnt know her all that well to begin with. Point is women will view your posts, like your posts, may DM you and even pay for **** just to keep you around for validation. It's tough but you just need to learn how to weed them out and cut them off.

 

[bat soup]

Here's my interpretation of what happened:

So I met this girl online. I wasted a lot of time chatting on Snapchat, which turned her off and made me look like I didn't have much of a life. She started to get bored and disrespectful, even ignoring my texts, but when the day of our date came she didn't have anything else to do so she decided that she might as well go and have a free meal with sucker number #1018 so she texted me to cash in her free meal voucher.

The date was an EXTREME waste of time. She sat there flapping her lips (not the ones I like) for three hours whilst sucking down everything on the menu. She made sure that she stayed far away from me by sitting on the opposite side of a big wide table in a place surrounded by onlookers so that I couldn't even touch her hand.

Instead of taking her somewhere more suitable where I could get her alone, get close to her and escalate, I just sat there and listened her her drone on whilst agreeing with everything she said until she got bored of spending my money and wanted to go and meet the next sucker on her list. I tried to set up another free meal session but she gave me some bull**** excuse about her work schedule needing to be updated. Then she went back to ignoring me.

Is only calling you when they want free food and attention something women do to seem like they’re not interested, or should I assume she’s genuinely not interested and move on?

Conclusion: this biatch only met up with you because she wanted a free meal and someone to listen to her yap. She probably does it every weekend.

Your mistakes:

- inviting a woman that you don't know out for a free dinner (next time take her for a walk in the park or to get an icecream by the river)
- not escalating by getting close and touching her to gauge her level of interest (which you made difficult for yourself by choosing an unsuitable location)
- believing her excuses instead of watching her actions

Next time, instead of dinner meet a girl at a subway station and take her for a walk in the park or along the river and make sure you touch her subtly as much as possible to see her reaction. If she's not cooperative or tries to steer you towards some expensive restaurant, tell her "it was nice meeting you. I have to go see a friend now" and then just walk off. That way you'll save yourself a lot of time and money. Also, if you can schedule 2-3 dates per day so that if one cancels you'll still have the others to look forward to and you won't even remember the biatch that texts you some bs excuse.

Women are using Snapchat and Tinder as a resource for endless free dinners, so if don't offer that and they still want to meet up you'll filter out most of the timewasters.