Originally posted by jasonrivera
My buds are having an evening bonfire at the beach a week from now, and I was thinking of bringing this girl here for our first date. In a nutshell, this is a girl I used to hang out w/ when I was in elementary school, and she had a crush on me then, but its been 10 years since I've seen her. Anyways, I was planning on taking her to a comedy club, but this popped up. My friends are pretty cool people...they get rowdy sometimes, but overall they're chill. I'm a little self-conscious because I'm a bit chubby with some medium-sized love-handles. Although, I hope and think this wont matter much, but still, it bugs me. And dont tell me to keep my shirt on, because I'm going to be swimming.
Is there anything about this entire scenario that could possibly backfire? You guys rock.
PS. If you're interested, THIS is the girl I'm bringing.
Hmmm... I would say that you should do whatever makes you most comforatable, since you're probably going to be a little nervous anyway. Maybe avoiding this this time around might help. The Comedy club is good, because even if there isn't much chemistry, you guys will have the comedy to laugh about and share.
With the beach, you are nervous about being chubby, and she's probably nervous about her body, or her swimming abilities, or if she doesn't like your friends, or she's going on a date with a whole bunch of people she doesn't know... there's a lot more to make you more uptight or nervous and it could put a hamper on the date... for the both of you. Maybe waiting till the third date or something for the beach. You could do the beach thing with no money. You could even make it more fun with just the two of you.
Of course, it's your choice, and this is going to sound a little hypocritical, since I hate not wearing a shirt either, but try not to let it bother you too much. If you're that concerned about it, you can do some excersize, lose those love handles... THEN do the beach.
But it's entirely up to you. And you could offer this as a backup, or maybe do both depending on time... go to the party for an hour, then go to the comedy festival... you can then play frisbe or sit and drink, or lay out, and then go to the comedy club.
Good luck.